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A Cautionary Note on Unlocking the Emotional Brain 2020-02-08T17:21:03.112Z · score: 54 (26 votes)
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Comment by evan-huus on Suspiciously balanced evidence · 2020-02-12T23:04:54.229Z · score: 16 (9 votes) · LW · GW

But isn't it strange that there are so many questions for which the evidence we have is so very balanced?

But there aren’t. We just focus on the very tiny subset of questions for which that is the case, because those are the ones that are interesting.

Comment by evan-huus on A Cautionary Note on Unlocking the Emotional Brain · 2020-02-09T13:34:25.200Z · score: 5 (3 votes) · LW · GW
So my suggestion would be to try to get to know the 'false' belief better and to acknowledge why it is there, the good it did, the good intention behind it - and with associated beliefs

Yes, I suspect you are right. This is something I had never done with my problems before I read UtEB, and I have found it one of the more useful insights (it would have been worth me reading the book just for this even without the rest of the model), but it is definitely not a habit yet. It's entirely possible that I hadn't properly completed this step before I tried to acknowledge the juxtoposition.

Comment by evan-huus on A Cautionary Note on Unlocking the Emotional Brain · 2020-02-09T13:30:06.413Z · score: 4 (3 votes) · LW · GW

Yeah, too personal to share on the public internet, sorry. To kind of translate it into the case of Richard as described in the book - imagine if Richard also happened to have some minor doubts around his ability to read body language. They don't come up in discussion with his therapist since they're far more minor and apparently unrelated. Then, Richard notices his colleague speaking up confidently and being apparently received well. Instead of deciding that his original belief (being confident is bad) was false, Richard's brain resolves the conflict by deciding that the colleague was in fact also hated by everyone, and he just *really* can't read body language. So now Richard has his existing problem (being confident is bad) and also deeply believes he is incapable of reading any body language.

[I should be clear, the situation became rather more dire in translation; my case wasn't that life-impacting, and after noticing this I was able to reverse the process with additional work.]

Comment by evan-huus on A Cautionary Note on Unlocking the Emotional Brain · 2020-02-09T13:10:07.023Z · score: 9 (2 votes) · LW · GW

I would put that down partly to my personality (I do tend to view things as fairly black-and-white, and struggle sometimes with nuance), and partly to the framing of the book. The book frames the entire approach as a more decisive therapy vs the very gradual approaches used in a lot of traditional therapy which don't cure the underlying root cause.

Comment by evan-huus on Healing vs. exercise analogies for emotional work · 2020-01-28T15:44:43.185Z · score: 4 (2 votes) · LW · GW

On the topic of persistent ongoing work vs occasional epiphanies, I highly recommend "The Holy Sh!t Moment" by James Fell. It's a bit poppy for my taste, but it dives deeper into that aspect of things and ties really well into the model presented in Unlocking the Emotional Brain.