Comment by Ruo254 on How to Ignore Your Emotions (while also thinking you're awesome at emotions) · 2025-02-21T20:37:41.877Z · LW · GW

"I know see that if you don't spend enough resources on addressing that hurt, the hurt parts of yourself can and will take measures to protect themselves."

truest words ever spoken. this post has finally made me understand what frame I'm currently viewing my life through. I know for instance that i have a temper and can go from 0-100 real quick. I have been convinced that i have it in check but nope, i have just been suppressing my emotions. I completely misunderstood stoicism to be suppression when its in fact acknowledgement but non-identification. You can be angry, you can feel the anger but just dont identify with it. lol the dont identify part is i guess what i need to figure out that mechanism. thank you for sharing. this post was great! I want to have a better relationship with myself. imagine if your friend came to you and said they were angry and your reaction is to tell them to stfu! looool yet thats how i react with myself. Those measures the hurt part takes are what have me extremely concerned. it manifests itself in self sabotage.