Comment by silentsanta on Ask OB: Leaving the Fold · 2008-11-10T03:29:14.000Z · LW · GW

My two cents? What's it going to feel like at the end of your life if you have spent all of it deceiving people you care about?

Open up. Those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind. You don't have to do it in an inflammatory way, but it is a disservice to them and you to box your struggles off where people you care about can't truly participate in your life.