Comment by Yustynn Panicker (yustynn-panicker) on Benign Boundary Violations · 2022-06-03T07:28:41.400Z · LW · GW

Some additional points from the perspective of the benign violator (the other side of the happy interaction coin). I really enjoy being the benign violator with everyone, and am generalizing on my own experience:

• Functionally, it's relationship-deepening for the reasons mentioned for the benign-violated perspective (trust, demo of personal knowledge, joy in making a friend happy by creating a positive, more memorable experience). I like deep, intimate relationships with people I choose to spend time with.
• Signals symmetry - I'd enjoy being pushed in the pool too!
• With new people: Nice way to build up rapport and establish mutual happiness-causing patterns from the get go (in my experience, most people like slightly risky social boundary violation and I like almost all my relationship types to be fun-loving). Goes wrong sometimes, but it's usually easy to adjust or even filter out people whose boundaries aren't conducive to my own joy.

Comment by Yustynn Panicker (yustynn-panicker) on Intellectual Hipsters and Meta-Contrarianism · 2021-11-20T07:44:13.044Z · LW · GW

Funnily enough, triads became a meme format I've seen around recently (https://knowyourmeme.com/memes/iq-bell-curve-midwit)