Link: Toward Non-Stupid, Non-Blank-Slatey Polyandry

It isn't hard to get partners into whatever you are into early in the relationship when you have lots of oxytocin fuelled pair bonding so I don't see why it wouldn't work for rationality.

Nicotine lozenges are much nicer than nicotine gum.

[I don't take them recreationally - I used them to give up cigarettes a while ago] .

What about the patch evaporation problem, though?

I use the gum without ever having smoked. I've never really minded the slight sting though.

Sure. But the "compromise on mate quality in return for resource commitment" strategy has always been fraught with what one might call coordination problems. The whole institution of marriage is basically a massive social engineering project meant to prevent these problems and align the interests of the partners. But marriage as an institution has grown far weaker: divorce, premarital sex, and children born out of wedlock are now seen as commonplace. And because of the increasing financial independence of women, they are less interested in compromising on mate quality in return for paternal investment.

I actually think these trends are going to continue to the point where marriage and male paternal investment are actually the exception rather than the default. Men will give up on "careers" and spend nearly all their time trying to burnish their masculine image by playing sports, playing music, dressing well, practicing dance moves, etc etc. Women will pick mates based on their success in said endeavours, and won't be at all concerned with boring old bourgeois concerns like financial stability, reliability, potential to be a good father, etc.

Note that I am not trying to discourage or disparage alternative lifestyles; if polyandry works for some people, more power to them. I'm just saying that, to me, it seems to be based on an unrealistic understanding of both human sexual psychology and modern social trends.

Female attractiveness is very malleable too. Haircuts, clothes, exercise etc make a huge difference. Most attractive girls, in my experience, spend a great deal of time working on making themselves more attractive.

FTR, I am female, and until I was 22 or so, I had no idea how much difference wearing clothes that suited me and styling my hair would make.

Yeah, that might help, especially if you spend a year or two in that position and then get dumped, preferably not "nicely".

I don't understand what you're trying to say here.

Incidentally, the biggest factor in my current lack of romantic success has been that, for a long time, I simply haven't put any effort whatsoever into finding anyone. (I do plan to change this. The next time my brother comes over, he and I are going to set up an OkCupid profile for me; I have reason to believe that he's good at that sort of thing.)