Intended enjoyment

post by KatjaGrace · 2021-01-05T10:20:21.608Z · LW · GW · 2 comments

I am sometimes unsure what is meant to be enjoyed in things, for instance the short story The Gioconda Smile, or In the mood for love which people often enjoy a lot. Which seems like it shouldn’t be a problem, as long as I find something to enjoy in them. But it also seems like I would be seriously missing something if I was buying bags of coffee all these years just to appreciate the thick, substantive quality of the paper bag between my teeth as I chewed it. How many of my enjoyments are like this?


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comment by Dagon · 2021-01-05T16:05:19.636Z · LW(p) · GW(p)

How many of my enjoyments are like this?

All of them.  Human experience is fractally complex and has many dimensions.  You can never exactly match someone else's perception or reaction to something.

comment by Vanilla_cabs · 2021-01-05T12:29:45.235Z · LW(p) · GW(p)

I do not mean to intrude as the last (rhetorical) question seems to imply that you do not actually seek an answer, but let me be the one to state the obvious, you do not have to enjoy what others enjoy. While acquired tastes exist and it might be worth generally trying stuff,  letting the tastes of a group supersede your tastes will simply draw your awareness further and further away from yourself. You will end up vainly following fads and frustrated at having to fake the enjoyment that others express genuinely.

In the particular cases you cite though, it might be cases of selection bias: only positive appreciations are broadcast. And/or maybe you simply draw information from a group that does not share your tastes in chewy paper, but there exist other groups that do share that taste that you are not aware of.