Art Meet 2021-08-04T23:40:53.907Z
Relentlessness 2021-07-06T20:27:09.527Z
Reasonable Explanations 2019-06-16T05:29:09.873Z
Fractional Reserve Charity 2019-06-07T05:14:28.688Z
New Ratfic: Nyssa in the Realm of Possibility 2018-12-09T05:00:41.749Z
Nyoom 2018-10-12T02:34:38.353Z
AI Reading Group Thoughts (2/?): Reconstructive Psychosurgery 2018-09-25T04:25:14.507Z
Y Couchinator 2018-08-18T03:41:05.901Z
AI Reading Group Thoughts (1/?): The Mandate of Heaven 2018-08-10T00:24:21.094Z
Expected Pain Parameters 2018-07-14T19:30:16.370Z
Expressive Vocabulary 2018-05-24T06:59:58.072Z
Dire Bullshit 2018-04-15T04:59:54.318Z
Misery Pits 2018-03-10T23:50:37.820Z
Inconvenience Is Qualitatively Bad 2018-02-26T23:27:05.474Z
I Want To Live In A Baugruppe 2017-03-17T01:36:31.723Z
How To Have Things Correctly 2012-10-17T06:10:34.625Z
Local Ordinances of Fun 2012-06-18T03:07:47.979Z
Delicious Luminosity, Om Nom Nom 2012-03-07T03:02:12.694Z
[Link] Correlation Graphs Reveal Shocking Information 2011-12-25T02:26:13.738Z
Fix My Head 2011-09-17T01:34:39.479Z
Polyhacking 2011-08-28T08:35:29.887Z
New Favicon 2011-08-26T20:34:29.539Z
[Link] TED Talk on Perceived Value 2011-08-17T00:49:56.970Z
Individual Deniability, Statistical Honesty 2011-08-09T04:17:19.388Z
The True Rejection Challenge 2011-06-27T07:18:41.914Z
Lightswitches 2011-05-25T04:43:27.988Z
Things That Shouldn't Need Pointing Out 2011-04-21T01:13:35.570Z
Mental Metadata 2011-03-30T03:07:08.057Z
Sublimity vs. Youtube 2011-03-18T05:33:40.771Z
Procedural Knowledge Gaps 2011-02-08T03:17:00.845Z
Luminosity (Twilight Fanfic) Discussion Thread 3 2010-12-30T14:37:04.195Z
The Cambist and Lord Iron: A Fairy Tale of Economics 2010-12-19T02:05:22.137Z
New Haven Meetup, Saturday, Dec. 11 2010-12-06T15:15:45.524Z
Open Thread: July 2010, Part 2 2010-07-09T06:54:41.087Z
Seven Shiny Stories 2010-06-01T00:43:11.646Z
On Enjoying Disagreeable Company 2010-05-26T01:47:24.490Z
Multiple Choice 2010-05-17T22:26:41.804Z
But Somebody Would Have Noticed 2010-05-04T18:56:34.802Z
Ureshiku Naritai 2010-04-08T20:08:58.726Z
Lampshading 2010-04-06T20:03:25.800Z
City of Lights 2010-03-31T23:30:03.011Z
Highlights and Shadows 2010-03-28T20:56:19.473Z
The Spotlight 2010-03-24T23:43:52.719Z
Lights, Camera, Action! 2010-03-20T05:29:21.102Z
The ABC's of Luminosity 2010-03-18T21:47:05.648Z
Let There Be Light 2010-03-17T19:35:59.046Z
You Are Likely To Be Eaten By A Grue 2010-03-17T01:18:13.672Z
Living Luminously 2010-03-17T01:17:47.086Z
Mental Crystallography 2010-02-27T01:04:54.333Z
Babies and Bunnies: A Caution About Evo-Psych 2010-02-22T01:53:07.125Z


Comment by Alicorn on (briefly) RaDVaC and SMTM, two things we should be doing · 2022-01-16T02:04:34.262Z · LW · GW

Isn't lithium in water linked to lower depression rates and not really something you'd want to straightforwardly remove even if it turned out to be making people fat?  I guess you might win on net if it turned out you could cure about that much depression with lotsalightboxes and be rid of obesity in the bargain, but it's at least a little complicated.

Comment by Alicorn on Sex-Positivity is Countercultural · 2021-10-01T04:44:34.231Z · LW · GW

Your link to Quillette is broken for me.

Comment by Alicorn on Nonspecific discomfort · 2021-09-04T22:50:15.638Z · LW · GW


Comment by Alicorn on Training My Friend to Cook · 2021-08-30T02:56:19.784Z · LW · GW

I do usually roast it, and would only sauté if I were being miserly with dishes or didn't want to turn on the oven, but I would expect it to be fine, yeah.

Comment by Alicorn on Training My Friend to Cook · 2021-08-29T18:48:22.458Z · LW · GW

...I'm a pretty good cook and can't actually think of any reason you shouldn't sauté asparagus.  You shouldn't sauté... lettuce?  I can't think of a good reason to sauté seaweed?  But asparagus seems like it'd be fine.

Comment by Alicorn on A Response to A Contamination Theory of the Obesity Epidemic · 2021-08-15T06:41:27.691Z · LW · GW

Does it seem likely that soybean oil in particular is special?  I think I could pretty straightforwardly eliminate it from my diet - I never cook with it and am not specifically attached to snacks that contain it - but I'd have a harder time if I also couldn't use canola, sesame, avocado, coconut...  Let alone other soy products like tofu.

Comment by Alicorn on Art Meet · 2021-08-08T22:35:19.423Z · LW · GW

I don't have a Facebook account.  I use my spouse's so I can read things but I don't eve know how to do the rest.

Comment by Alicorn on Art Meet · 2021-08-08T22:04:29.273Z · LW · GW

Attendance of the meet wound up being: 

  • me
  • my four year old, for about the first half hour
  • an adult and child who were over anyway for a playdate
  • one other person

I am curious if there are things I could have done to improve turnout, if anyone has ideas.

Comment by Alicorn on Utopic Nightmares · 2021-05-16T05:49:29.784Z · LW · GW

How do you motivate the embedded assumption that there is no such thing as harmless variation?

Comment by Alicorn on Iterated Trust Kickstarters · 2021-04-23T03:16:50.141Z · LW · GW

I think an important obstacle to "I'll apologize if they'll apologize" situations is that people often have very specific needs for the traits of an apology they're receiving, doing it correctly without instructions is a very important signal of being on the same page about what went wrong, and incorrect apologies can be downright insulting (such as "I'm sorry you feel that way", a classic, or, "I'm sorry about X" "this whole time you thought I was mad about X???  I don't give a crap about X!")  The existence of a hypothetical apology doesn't serve the same purposes as a fully featured one.

Comment by Alicorn on Enabling Children · 2021-03-16T01:18:08.762Z · LW · GW

We tried to buy a place around the corner (not right adjacent, but no crossing streets, so we could have let pretty small kids walk it alone), but we could only afford to lowball it and didn't get it.  We don't want to move because moving is horrible but if the place burned down or something we would probably all or mostly all move together.

Comment by Alicorn on [deleted post] 2021-03-03T22:47:14.568Z

I would like to see this energy directed somewhere more empathetic.  Can many humans with a healthy relationship to food and no medical dietary restrictions be physically healthy on a vegan diet (and a B12 supplement)?  Probably.  Does everyone you're talking to have all those qualities?  Absolutely not.  Are their traditions, tastes, and convenience, and every flowthrough effect of their culture, enjoyment, and flexibility, wholly worthless?  You aren't likely to save many animals by telling them so even if you feel that way.

I had an accidentally mostly-vegan lunch today.  I'm not a vegan (I'm a pescetarian), but I happened to choose today to make baba ganoush, and of course I wanted bread to put it on and I had some ciabatta, and I also had some Beyond sausages in the fridge that I wanted to try so I fried a couple of those up.  By coincidence, my dinner last night was also vegan!  I made Singapore noodles, with tofu and cabbage and broccoli and shiitake mushrooms.  However, with both meals I drank a glass of milk.  Trying to figure out how to completely replace dairy products in my diet would be a tremendous undertaking that would substantially reduce my quality of life, and if you want to make that ask, you should acknowledge its contents.

I know someone on an elimination diet for medical reasons who cannot have any legumes including soy and peanuts.  (Nor eggs and dairy, but meat is fine - in fact, as I understand it, meat is one of the things people are least likely to be reactive to in a wide variety of cases.)  He can eat gluten, but can't have it in the house - it'll make the celiac family members sick.  What would you like him to do?  Go out to eat a plate of seitan at a restaurant every day during a pandemic?  Do you think the Academy of Nutrition and Dietetics is stating that this person will be fine on quinoa and sunflower seeds and almonds, for months, while their medical team isolates a hopefully narrower set of problem foods, or do you think the AND were making a generalization that doesn't apply to everyone?

Vat meat is coming.  Plant-based meat options are better every year.  They haven't cracked fully general vegan eggs yet but they have approximately-perfect vegan mayonnaise.  All we have to do is send market signals and, on the margin, in the meantime, give people recipes.

(Broil 2 large globe eggplants on high for one hour, turning them over after 30 minutes.  Let rest until cool enough to handle.  Slit open, scoop out, and strain the insides; pat dry with paper towels.  Add minced garlic to taste and two tablespoons of lemon juice poured directly over the garlic, and stir vigorously until mostly broken down.  Mix in 3 tablespoons tahini, then a steady stream of olive oil while stirring constantly.  Salt until it tastes amazing.)

Comment by Alicorn on Enabling Children · 2021-03-03T18:37:24.101Z · LW · GW

We did this approximately by accident.  We had a kid, and separately had a habit of letting our friends crash in our spare bedrooms, and one of them did enough caretaking (letting us SLEEP!) that we were like "wait... if she leaves... that will hit the kid like a divorce" and arranged to keep her forever.  Now we live with her and her fiancée and additional Spare Room Friends and a second kid, and we are very crowded in our large house and don't have room for any more Spare Room Friends which is very sad, and plot to purchase neighboring houses as soon as they come on the market and knock down intervening fencing.

We really like this arrangement and so do the kids, and it's been especially wonderful during lockdown since we can do well-attended in-bubble dinners and D&D and TV nights.  It might be hard to do on purpose, especially if you want to do it before you actually have a kid for people to get attached to.  Finding one compatible coparent who is committed to being in it for the duration of at least one childhood no matter what kind of kid you wind up with is already pretty hard.  But we know a family who invited in a Spare Room Friend expressly on the expectation that the SRF would help take care of their child, which seems pretty doable, and if things didn't work out they could presumably swap for a different SRF.

So I guess my advice is acquire at least one spare room and invite a friend who likes kids to live in it and see if they and your baby get along.

Comment by Alicorn on "Can you keep this confidential? How do you know?" · 2020-07-26T03:37:10.643Z · LW · GW

It's not really workable to say "oh yeah, I can keep secrets, I keep so many secrets, like for example," so I tend to describe my surface area - things like "sometimes my literate three year old looks at my screen and asks me what a phrase means in front of the contents of my living room, I'm not good at not laughing at things I read if they're funny, I consider it morally wrong to lie and am not volunteering to do it anyway for you but am good at deflecting with the truth so cannot guarantee to conceal the existence of a secret but can decline to elaborate on it to inquisitors, if it seems to me like it legitimately concerns a third party I would try to ask you first but if it were time sensitive might make a judgment call and can take into account whatever you'd like to say now about that eventuality, given all this do you want to tell me?"

Comment by Alicorn on Organizing a Group Buy of Flour · 2020-04-11T05:56:17.186Z · LW · GW

I'd like to do something like this - it turns out we go through flour with breathtaking speed if I'm trying to personally keep up with household bread consumption through baking. But I can't find a distributor! I looked at the ones in my area listed on King Arthur Flour's website, and one doesn't have it (I think; they have no search function so I had to look manually through pages of random foods), and the other won't let me check without my having a restaurant account.

Comment by Alicorn on An Emergency Fund for Effective Altruists · 2019-12-28T20:16:30.736Z · LW · GW


Comment by Alicorn on Should I floss? · 2019-12-25T02:32:37.039Z · LW · GW

I went from rarely flossing, to flossing every night, when I started trying to set an example for my eldest child. When my new baby was born, I neglected flossing for several weeks, since doing things with a new baby is hard. I promptly experienced unpleasant gum problems that I doubt are coincidental, and have put in more effort towards flossing on a daily basis.

Comment by Alicorn on The LessWrong 2018 Review · 2019-11-24T03:33:17.819Z · LW · GW

Chrome, MacBook.

Comment by Alicorn on The LessWrong 2018 Review · 2019-11-24T03:32:14.325Z · LW · GW

Those both work.

Comment by Alicorn on The LessWrong 2018 Review · 2019-11-21T11:48:54.933Z · LW · GW

No, I mean, it redirects me to with the weird stuff stripped out, and shows me all posts, not sorted by karma and including the one that was posted eight hours ago and so on.

Comment by Alicorn on The LessWrong 2018 Review · 2019-11-21T06:49:33.484Z · LW · GW

The link to the 2018 posts sorted by karma is not working correctly for me; it redirects me to /allPosts for some reason.

Comment by Alicorn on Ideal Number of Parents · 2019-10-06T02:51:24.643Z · LW · GW

We've got multiple parents for ours - we sort of fell into the arrangement (one moved in with us when kiddo the first was a few weeks old, it gradually became obvious that if she ever left he was going to take that like a divorce and we should be thinking about how to keep her around, eventually she added her primary partner in the manner of a stepparent). But only I am primary caretaker (everybody else has a job), so while I rely on the others for advice and discuss things with them, what's sustainable and practical for me tends to trump - if I cannot be around some noise a toy makes, the toy does not get to have batteries, etc. We agree on the broad strokes of what considerations are important in general, and implementation details are just a thing the kids will learn vary between people - for example, there are a lot of things my son is only allowed to do if he can locate someone who is willing to supervise the activity and be responsible for any cleanup (today this was "eat shredded cheese", which usually winds up all over the floor, but a roommate who isn't even one of the parent collective was up for helping him with that this time).

Comment by Alicorn on Unstriving · 2019-08-19T19:08:39.732Z · LW · GW

I don't think "mediocrity" is the right word to apply to parenting that leaves you some slack and doesn't involve crazily striving for violin virtuosity in your children. There are lots of axes on which parents can vary. Being, say, really consistent with Faber&Mazlish style parenting skills even when you are sleep deprived, would be amazing parenting, and that's probably still worth getting better at for almost every parent on the margin, while leaving room for slack and not-being-insane-about-the-violin.

Comment by Alicorn on Which of these five AI alignment research projects ideas are no good? · 2019-08-10T18:03:31.681Z · LW · GW

Are you aware that people's votes are worth different amounts? I do not think there's a way to vote less than one's default vote amount.

Comment by Alicorn on Do children lose 'childlike curiosity?' Why? · 2019-06-29T23:37:16.159Z · LW · GW

I have a kiddo whose "why phase" is in full swing and I am not actually confident that it's motivated by curiosity. It's also not the most efficient way to learn things, or even the most efficient simple way (that'd probably be something like "tell me stuff about $TOPIC"), nor is it obviously geared at that goal.

In particular, my kid (I don't know how common this is) will typically formulate his questions by re-grammatizing whatever statement was most recently made in his vicinity ("it's a nice day" "why is it a nice day?" "because it's a good temperature" "why is it a good temperature?"). This will sure keep the conversation going, but:

  • He doesn't retain the information well, sometimes asking the exact same question more than once in a period of just a few minutes, even when the answer isn't complicated compared to things he understands easily.
  • He doesn't seem to care what kind of answer he gets - he will proceed almost identically if the answer to the temperature question above has to do with it having been a similar temperature yesterday, or about the season, or about cloud cover, or if the answer is "I don't know" (he'll ask "why do you don't know").
  • He hasn't noticed any common patterns that end the line of questioning (if he ever asks why he did something, he gets, "I don't know, why did you do that?", but hasn't given up on such questions).
  • Because of how he generates new questions, he can be led around concept-space in whatever way is most convenient for his interlocutor. He doesn't circle back to stuff he's been interested in before except when he's repeating questions he forgot and settling for the same answers as last time verbatim. There isn't a sense, talking to him, that he's aware of the existence of a concept out there he really wants to grasp.

This isn't to say that he isn't curious, but I don't think the "why phase" is strongly related. When he's really interested in learning about something he wants to go interact with it. He also has other language abilities that he seems to use when what he wants really is information, like "I want to talk about it" and non-why-questions. Why questions seem to be just a button-mash for "make the adults talk to me".

Comment by Alicorn on Is there a guide to 'Problems that are too fast to Google'? · 2019-06-17T06:29:11.658Z · LW · GW

When I did jujitsu we learned to fall. The important things are to tuck in your head, and to strike the ground - like, slap it as hard as you can with your hands - before your landing to reduce the force with which you hit.

Comment by Alicorn on Reasonable Explanations · 2019-06-16T05:30:55.167Z · LW · GW

I'll start.

A few years ago, I received a hand-addressed package with my correct name and address on it; the return address was a completely unfamiliar name in a state I've never visited and have no friends in. The contents were three Asterix books in the original French which I had no use for, did not know of anyone who wanted, and could not in fact read.

N sevraq unq hfrq obbx-fjnccvat jrofvgr Obbxzbbpu gb trg zr fbzr cerfragf n juvyr cerivbhfyl naq unqa'g erzrzorerq gb hcqngr gur nqqerff jura trggvat gurfr sbe ure uhfonaq.

Comment by Alicorn on Nyoom · 2018-10-16T16:39:59.688Z · LW · GW

I expect that when I replace my scooter at the end of its useful life I will be able to get a much better scooter. For me, this one is at what I think is currently a good tradeoff between portability (more battery is heavier, more torque might require a heavier machine too), plausibility as a wheelchair (for use indoors and on the sidewalk rather than among cars), and price (I'd pay more knowing what I know, but when I got it I didn't actually realize quite how big a deal it was going to be for me).

Comment by Alicorn on Nyoom · 2018-10-13T02:44:07.600Z · LW · GW

I've had tests for Basic Deficiencies in Important Stuff, but maybe once I get a new pcp I'll ask about a physical therapist.

Comment by Alicorn on Nyoom · 2018-10-13T00:57:07.128Z · LW · GW

I haven't tried physical therapists in particular and my initial reaction is pretty considerable skepticism. It seems like this would require a lot of investment of time in appointments, I doubt my insurance would cover it, and then I'd have to pay attention to some sort of instruction they gave me, all the time whenever I moved, which, if I could do that, I'd have better posture.

Comment by Alicorn on Nyoom · 2018-10-12T14:34:33.000Z · LW · GW

The catalyst was the Costco scooter and from there it was just a matter of hunting down something with the right specs, but what led me to trying it that day? I don't know, probably some combination of "they were right there and obviously free to try" and "I really really wanted to sit down right then" (maybe we parked far away).

I think it's not unrelated to as a concept. If you do something weird, that might just be you being weird, but there could also be an underlying problem you could fix.

Comment by Alicorn on AI Reading Group Thoughts (2/?): Reconstructive Psychosurgery · 2018-09-26T21:28:58.613Z · LW · GW

It seems unlikely that the memory can be reconstructed (although it could be recreated, if the AI happens to know who-all was at the gym that day). Your perspective makes sense to me but for my part I don't think that kind of detail is important to me; it's okay if I wake up missing a lot of minor episodic memories like that.

Comment by Alicorn on Open Thread August 2018 · 2018-08-07T18:01:39.283Z · LW · GW

The more naive interpretation of the phrase is instead represented by "self-aware", if that's helpful.

Comment by Alicorn on Expected Pain Parameters · 2018-07-16T23:47:11.241Z · LW · GW

Hm, I guess that's a slightly stronger claim, but I do endorse it now that I think about the distinction; not to the point where every single such piece of advice should come bundled with an unsolicited painfulness model, but to the point where if you're giving painful advice you should have the model on hand.

Comment by Alicorn on Expected Pain Parameters · 2018-07-15T04:53:51.820Z · LW · GW

What I mean is more like "if someone is suggesting that you do something painful, they should present you with a model of why and how that pain is okay". This doesn't rule out misappropriation - I'm sure cult leaders and certain brands of interpersonal abusers do it handily, especially if they're weaponizing guilt - but it's at least robust against generic, opaque commands to "suck it up", and if you go in with that expectation you'll have an opportunity to notice something is wrong if someone tells you that you shouldn't be in pain and your pain is invalid (they don't have a model that describes the thing you are in fact feeling, so they don't have a good model of the situation as a whole).

Comment by Alicorn on Expressive Vocabulary · 2018-07-14T19:21:09.194Z · LW · GW

I think those examples are fine in many possible contexts. You can make a blog post with either instance as content just fine. My objection would come up if someone said "incel" and you said it was a horrible word instead of responding to their statement about incels - make that suggestion at another time. You could, if genuinely puzzled, ask if they mean incels as in lonely or incels as in violent misogynists, but I think context will tend to make that clear. And where it doesn't they don't in fact mean one of those things - they mean the conflation, and the word communicated that!

Comment by Alicorn on Expressive Vocabulary · 2018-05-29T16:16:13.684Z · LW · GW

I want to point out that there are lots of situations where English speakers fluently use words that don't have clear dividing lines between their applicability and their inapplicability - it depends on context and details. "The music is loud." What if I'm deaf or far away or like to be able to feel the bass line in my bones? That doesn't make the sentence impermissible or even hard to understand and I don't need the speaker to produce a decibel value. "If you go to high altitudes, the air is thinner and you might get dizzy." How high? If I'm dizzy in Denver and the speaker thinks you shouldn't need to adjust your behavior until there are Sherpas about and meanwhile Batman can breathe in space, that doesn't make the sentence false, let alone useless. "It's cold, bring a jacket." Oh you sweet summer child, I'm good in short sleeves, thanks, I just don't know what you meant by "cold" -

There are lots of conversational purposes for which you don't in fact have to know where someone draws the line. You don't even need to be able to agree on every point's ordering in the spectrum ("it's colder today" "that's just windchill"). The words gesture in a direction. I think "chemicals" does too, and you know what direction because you came up with "unprocessed" as a gloss on "low in chemicals". If someone doesn't buy that brand of dip because it's full of chemicals, in your innocent confusion I suggest you glance at the ingredients list for a guess at the threshold in question.

Comment by Alicorn on Expressive Vocabulary · 2018-05-26T22:39:29.950Z · LW · GW

Suggesting search engine terms might be helpful. I don't think I'd ever find "you're going to confuse people" helpful - either I already know that I'm not being very precisely expressive and these are all the words I have, or, if that's not the case, "could you elaborate/rephrase that" would be better. I didn't feel exasperated by this comment but might by a long chain of them on this branch.

Comment by Alicorn on Expressive Vocabulary · 2018-05-26T16:30:37.161Z · LW · GW

Some people are in fact responsive to "that's a slur; the preferred term is X", especially if X isn't a barbarous use of language, if they were using the slur to encompass the whole group and got caught by a euphemism treadmill or just pick up their vocabulary from sources unsympathetic to Xes. And you don't have to reject an offered word for being a syllable longer if you want to make that tradeoff. I think this is a case of Postel's law, or should be.

Comment by Alicorn on Expressive Vocabulary · 2018-05-24T20:36:55.231Z · LW · GW

I wish to clarify that I'm not asserting that everyone knows exactly what things are "chemicals" and what things are not. There's room for disagreement, for one thing, and the disagreements might turn on all kinds of little points about where a substance came from and even why it was added to the food. But I do think that given two lists of ingredients for different brands of, say, packaged guacamole, you could distinguish "few to no chemicals" from "lots of chemicals". That there isn't a strict, look-up-able boundary of necessary and sufficient conditions that fits in a "coherent model" doesn't mean it's not useful to gesture at for some purposes, sort of like music genres. I don't have a coherent model of music genres and I couldn't elaborate much on what I mean if I call a song "poppy" or "jazzy" but that doesn't mean it's not a statement I might reasonably utter.

Comment by Alicorn on Expressive Vocabulary · 2018-05-24T16:49:57.688Z · LW · GW

Yeah, I don't fully endorse the linked Tumblr post; in particular there's certainly ways to resolve these conflicts that aren't "abdicate the terminology yourself". But some of it is highly relevant and well said.

Comment by Alicorn on Expressive Vocabulary · 2018-05-24T16:48:40.834Z · LW · GW

Extensionally, "chemicals" is food coloring that doesn't come straight out of a whole food, disodium edta, ammonia, peroxide, acetone, sulfur dioxide, aspartame, sodium aluminosilicate, tetrasodium pyrophosphate, sodium sorbate, methylchloroisothiazolinone....

And not: apple juice, water, table salt, vodka, flour, sugar, milk...

A thing doesn't have to be a natural category for people to want to talk about it and have a legitimate interest in talking about it.

I disagree with your second point and think you're missing mine. If you don't want to talk to someone, don't talk to them. You don't have to be cruel, and your desire to be cruel doesn't make it reasonable.

Comment by Alicorn on Expressive Vocabulary · 2018-05-24T07:00:29.106Z · LW · GW

Relevant Tumblr post (not mine)

Comment by Alicorn on Explicit and Implicit Communication · 2018-04-06T17:49:30.404Z · LW · GW

I spent a lot of this post interested in the content, mostly the rich examples, but confused about where the entire post was pointing because I didn't realize until toward the end that you meant something totally different than me by "explicit communication" - you seem to mean something like "communication with a lot of moving parts and techniques and cringey NVC goop specifically addressing certain subtopics", and I would have expected the phrase to mean "communication that is clear, not sarcastic, and not very reliant on context, tone, or other neurotypical stuff". Some of your examples fit this definition well enough and you wrote as though your categorization didn't need to be... uh, explicit... for me to persist in my misunderstanding for a long while.

Comment by Alicorn on Misery Pits · 2018-03-11T22:59:46.981Z · LW · GW

I do think there are intermediate stages of misery-pit-ness.

The target audience was "people like the people I've talked to about this before who find this model/framing helpful to them in their efforts to set and enforce boundaries before, not after, they are harmed by taking on too much responsibility for other people". I don't have any really useful advice for misery pits themselves that isn't implicitly in the post. The second conversation doesn't come free with the first because it requires more content which I don't happen to have.

I've added a content warning but I noticed as I was composing it I wasn't really sure what to say, so I'm low-confidence that it's anything like what you had in mind.

The second suggestion seems to me inapplicable - it's a definition post, not a strategy post. I don't think you need to be in any specific state to potentially want vocabulary.

Comment by Alicorn on Misery Pits · 2018-03-11T20:41:20.251Z · LW · GW

What disclaimers exactly? I can't diagnose misery-pit-hood of article readers as a group, so I can't say "if you're reading this you aren't a misery pit". I suppose I could... say that I'm not trying to get anyone to commit suicide...? I just don't understand how this problem could be solved by disclaimers.

Comment by Alicorn on Misery Pits · 2018-03-11T01:33:39.764Z · LW · GW

Being gripped by destructive rage when your friends succeed sounds like not a central case of the thing I was trying to describe.

Comment by Alicorn on Social Technology · 2018-03-03T01:12:39.738Z · LW · GW

I'm interested in this topic but this post strikes me as vague and meandering, which I guess might be an artifact of it being originally intended for Medium (maybe Medium audiences don't know what social technology is at all?) I'd like to see more detailed and example-heavy posts about social technology on LW.

Comment by Alicorn on Inconvenience Is Qualitatively Bad · 2018-02-28T18:55:21.148Z · LW · GW

I freeze butter; cutting it up from frozen is hard.

Comment by Alicorn on Inconvenience Is Qualitatively Bad · 2018-02-27T04:26:55.569Z · LW · GW

Which approach makes sense depends on the extent to which it will come up again and how much that's your problem. (And potentially, in the case of Googling things, how good your retention is.)