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Comment by Dipanjan (dipanjan) on Blanchard's Dangerous Idea and the Plight of the Lucid Crossdreamer · 2023-07-19T05:59:32.531Z · LW · GW

Thanks for this post, Zack. I am a 50 year old Indian-American AGP man who grew up in India and then moved to the US for graduate studies. Coming across Blanchard's work saved my life twenty years ago.

Sometimes I feel guilty about not doing enough to defend Blanchard's model and fight the gender-identity / transition activism. But other obsessions took precedence -- namely, computer science, poker and stock markets. Very typical feminine interests. LOL.

A couple of ideas I have thought much about but have not seen discussed enough.

First, is there a strong correlation between a combination of personality traits -- let's say high IQ, high neuroticism, high openness, high introversion (I am describing myself) -- and AGP pre-disposition? Such a combination could explain the internalization of erotic target.

Second, how about the root causal explanation being a lack of "mounting" / "top" / sexually aggressive behavior? Could sexual submissiveness (bottom behavior) when combined with gynephilia lead to erotic object internalization? When we as gynephiles are sexually triggered by femininity - body, behavior, clothes, accessories -- but lack the biological code to act in a male-typical way, instead of trying to get control over the female body, do we internalize and desire to become our sexual object?

A couple of my close relatives are gay bottoms and asexual. No one has reported to be AGP, but what if the root "bug" of gay bottom men / asexual men / AGP men are the same lack of top behavior and the three sexualities are just three variations of the same "bug" with different sexual triggers -- andro stimuli, gyne stimuli, no stimulus works?

An easy refutation of this hypothesis would be lots of examples of AGP gynephile men who are ALSO very natural / comfortable tops. But based on my limited research, I have not seen enough data / stories that support either the hypothesis or refutation. I personally always struggled and had to incorporate AGP fantasies into the act. I noticed you mentioned "performance difficulties" as well in one of your posts. My ideal sexual fantasies that involve other individuals are femme-femme cis/trans lesbian fantasies.