Comment by notadom on Group Rationality Diary, July 16-31 · 2013-07-19T00:46:31.870Z · LW · GW

What do you want to know?

Comment by notadom on Group Rationality Diary, July 16-31 · 2013-07-18T17:32:47.241Z · LW · GW

Realized I liked BDSM for the wrong reasons.

After some hard introspection,I confessed to myself that I didn't find BDSM sexually arousing. The main appeal was that, compared to a vanilla partner, a submissive partner would be more likely to let me have my way in disagreements (and this would be ok since they would enjoy yielding) and less likely to betray my trust. I'm not a dom, I'm just selfish and mistrusting. Taking the outside view, I concluded that if I were to be in a BDSM relationship, there's a significant risk of me becoming an abuser. Power corrupts and whatnot.

So now I'm distancing myself from BDSM.