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A mental postures I have when doing good rationality is - Love to be wrong / Want to change my idea
This argument has been very very helpful in my thinking those last few weeks and I want to thank you for it. I'm walking an increasingly spiritual path in my life, but this article lays a solid foundation for my thinking: yes, emotions can be amazing and they pretty much run the show; yes, you can only access those deep transcendental feeling by being in this 'mythic' mode where you see crazy coincidences; but no, they don't have to be truths about the nature of the world, and it is important to be able to navigate both to lead a fully satisfying life.
I can now see why this comment is problematic; hidden judgements, not just facts and reasons. I’m maintaining it because I lost karma for it and don’t want to de-incriminate myself. I’m planning this comment will make me look good but not expecting karma back although I obviously want it.
Making my upvote known. I wish you well and hope you’ll be able to figure out what’s real and what’s self deception when it comes to chemistry, as often it’s superficial things like “he/she resists me”, which disappear sooner or later, that drive your impression.
Agreed about the hyperbole although don't have mental energy left for reasons xyz. The question about LDRs isn't whether they exist, which they obviously do, but about whether they're not easily replaceable for a much higher reward situation, ie love in the same location.
Don't mean to sound harsh and this will certainly sound unfeasible if you're deep in love or lacking the resources to spark new ones, but a person, man or woman, can get much, much better than a LDR, and I make myself sorry to read about one.
If I was in you place and valued my time at all, and the expected benefit of my time alive, I'd drop the relationship and get a new one.
The One is a myth. In need of love we'll accept a lot of things we think we now think we can't, and get over them or even come to love them and think our old preferences were ridiculous. You'll probably be extremely sad for a while. If you don't make identity of it and move on with action (ie actually seeing other people, not just telling yourself 'I Need To Move On', which has the opposite effect), you'll be better off.
Thanks for taking the time!
Actually most are merino wool, one is half cotton half linen, one is made with heavier cotton and treated with indigo to give a blue jeans color and effect.
Longer fibers are more resistant; and thinner fiber are softer against the skin. Linen is rough but has some very interesting properties like thermoregulation.
This is anecdotal but two brands I own and like are Atelier Particulier and Anderson’s. Check out the website Norsestore.com also 😊
You’re right about the images. I want to add some. It was making me procrastinate so I decided to just post it without them. I don’t think however that you need me to know what light or dark is. For something like a chino though you’re right. For those who don’t know; they’re the simple cotton-made trousers that aren’t jeans (can’t think of a better pointer).
As for the r/malefashionadvice, never read in my life, so you’re somewhat mind-fallacy-ing me here. The French blog bonnegueule.fr is my main reference. As well as their YouTube channel which has some translated videos. I’ll link the YouTube and r/malefashionadvice at the end of the article.
Sorry not much time to answer all the comments, but basically (for the brands that I’ve listed and others for which more pricey = investment in quality); at each step of the production process, the quality will fluctuate depending on how much you’re willing to pay. First the fabric, eg the length of the cotton fibers, the thinness of the merino wool or cashmere, the resistance or unmarkedness of leather... Then the treatment of the fabric and the coloring (many other steps in between probably), then the cut, how much material is used, the denser the more pricey usually. Also better clothes need more prototyping to get done right. So you see, many costs. When price and quality are correlated (ie this doesn’t apply to almost all high street shops), the more you pay the longer your clothes will last, the warmer, the more comfortable they will be.
Luxury clothing is a little different because while the price is totally unjustified, and too high for the quality, the quality can still be absolutely astounding, because the prices are so high that they can get anything done. This btw can be a problem for smaller brands that don’t do unjustified prices, when luxury brands drive the price of nice fabrics way up.
Thanks a lot! Very happy I could bring in some value 🥳
This is awesome. If you're in London I'd love to meet & talk, all those levels-of-consciousness type things really interest me. Send a message if you're interested!
I love korin43's answers more than my article 😂
I'd love to hear more of your thoughts!
Because I'm passionate about clothing and fabrics, I only referenced brands that are both high quality, and good value for money. If you went from eating at McDonald's to nicer restaurants, it would be a mistake to focus solely on the price increase; you would get better quality ingredients, service... less cancer...
Uniqlo is the best you can find at a low price range.The downsides are that fabrics are lower quality, will die earlier, won't feel as good; and that the employees' work conditions are Bangladeshi. Quality comes at a price.
That said, if you wanted to shop at the cheapest place you could find (or more realistically, something like H&M), the rules would still apply and enhance your style. Thrift shops are also great to find good things on a low budget.
Even if you buy from the brands I recommend, it should be a gradual process; don't ruin yourself. My personal rule is one item a month, and I wait for Christmas or my birthday if I want something expensive. But granted, you'd still probably spend more than you spend now. Although it'd really, really surprise me if it was more than food. (Like, really).
A more meta note: it seems reasonable to me to expect, if you're discovering a new field, that achieving proficiency in that area would require investing a significant amount of resources. So perhaps you shouldn't be as surprised 🤗
The people you see queuing outside of the most exclusive clubs, or even better, that you see skipping the queue. Basically people who are famous/semi-famous, rich, or work in fashion, modeling, nightlife, art, film... For this little scene, following the newest trends is more important than dressing the way this article recommends. It’ll be more oriented towards wearing designer clothes, basically more about wealth & trend-awareness signaling.
Plain black or navy leather, silver buckle 👌🏻
Especially now that the world is so globalised, yes, I think the advice is applicable worldwide, despite perhaps a few differences here and there depending on the country.
The advantage of the rules is that they are less attached to the waves of fashion than purely trendy people are. In 10 years, if you've applied the rules, you should look at pictures of yourself now and think 'that was good!'. Masculine fashion moves slower than feminine fashion. When on top of that you add that the rules change even less; yes, the advice holds through time really well.
I can think of a few changes in the rules, in the past 10-20 years. For instance, minimalist sneakers worn with a suit (and anything else) are now acceptable; streetwear and techwear clothes are getting more and more common (for example no one will think a cargo pant is odd or too 'technical' nowadays). There is a slow tendency for things to go more casual, so it's the formal rules that progressively stop being respected. But it takes a while.
I think you're absolutely right, and I might have abused the word 'cool' (my clickbaity self lol). The rules are more conservative than they are cool.
Two things though. First, if you follow the rules, you will be cooler than nearly all around you, unless you're in a high-end venue, in which case you'll just look good. Second, because being cool (in the high-end-venues-clientele sense) requires strongly integrated norms/a lot of experience and changes with trends heavily, it is much harder to teach, and the quickest way to reach that point where you know breaking a rule will make you look better is to start with the rules.
I absolutely am just some guy on the internet! No credentials, I don’t work in fashion, I’ve only paid close attention to how to dress as a man for years. Also, this article has been asked for at meetups by people who saw me.
...guess you’re going to have to try the rules and see if your style gets worse hehehe
Gotcha. Thanks for the heads up!