Offering Completion

post by jefftk (jkaufman) · 2024-06-07T01:40:02.137Z · LW · GW · 6 comments

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One verbal approach I often find useful with little kids is to offer them the opportunity to complete a phrase. Compare:

Parent: It's time to brush teeth!

Toddler: I no want brush teef!

vs:

Parent: It's time to brush...

Toddler: Teef!

Similarly, "the dirty tissue goes in the...", "when we get home it will be time to put pee in the...", "it's time to eat...", etc. My experience is that, at the right age, kids just really love getting to complete things, and this somehow spills over into their attitude towards the thing they're completing. Or having it come from their mouth somehow manufactures buy-in, or skips the normal opportunity for them to (as is also common at this age) say no?

One nice safeguard this has is that while it's mildly manipulative, once they lose their joy at completing things it stops working. So it doesn't have the risk that you'll keep using it at an age where (in my opinion) manipulating kids starts to be a problem.

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comment by Dave Orr (dave-orr) · 2024-06-07T07:08:50.637Z · LW(p) · GW(p)

Children are evidently next word completers.

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comment by athom · 2024-06-07T15:50:59.427Z · LW(p) · GW(p)

Less so once they've done enough RLHF

comment by bhauth · 2024-06-07T01:52:17.537Z · LW(p) · GW(p)

Works with MBAs too.

comment by mikbp · 2024-06-08T14:14:21.865Z · LW(p) · GW(p)

In what toddler age span has this worked for your children?

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comment by jefftk (jkaufman) · 2024-06-09T11:19:58.880Z · LW(p) · GW(p)

I didn't write it down, so don't trust this much, but something like 2-3.5?

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comment by mikbp · 2024-06-09T19:57:43.016Z · LW(p) · GW(p)

Thanks!