'oy, girls on lw, want to get together some time?'

That one works! At least it did when someone used it on me.

Annoyed Girl: No.

Me: Will you go out on a date?

Annoyed Girl: Hell no!

Girl: "Mu."

Liron: "Damn."

"Maybe?"

I see you've read Smullyan's autobiography. :)

"It wouldn't."

LW pickup lines

"Bimodal", perhaps, except don't use it as a metaphor for breasts.

Squick.

men on LW may (implicitly, without realizing that they are doing it) expect attractive, eligible women to be abundant in the risk-mitigation movement, because mitigating existential risks is the right* thing to do, and the universe is a just place which rewards good behavior.

Really? I find it hard to imagine that kind of naivety.

Well, there are these well-known concepts of unsupervised universe and mind projection fallacy...

So ... that's what happened to Love and Life Just Before the Singularity. It never made sense to me to remove something that innocuous from the public web, but it all fits if that was the work of a global conspiracy!

This is extremely troubling news. With a shadowy world government agency clamping down on serious argument about no-mating strategies, one has to wonder how much the public discourse has been skewed by them. And would it be a good idea to attempt to replicate any of the suppressed research? There is a tricky tradeoff here between figuring out the truth about this critical question, and not rising to the attention of the suppressing agency.

Effective Altruists, you have a new purpose! Spend your money on increasing your reproductive fitness and impregnating/getting-impregnated!

I'm sure some important considerations would be the genetic interaction between altruistic traits - whether they are actually indeed inherited, as well as the heritability of effectiveness associated traits.

Also, ability to cooperate to solve problems and manage their family in evidence based ways would be important considerations.

I think EAhub or some other established platform would be a good platform to signal EA cred and avoid creepers taking advantage of it. That way people can't just say "I'm an EA, wanna fuck?"

"Beware, demon!" he intoned hollowly. "I am not without defenses." "Oh yeah? Name three." -- Robert Asprin, Another Fine Myth

Name 3 EA charities you've donated to!

Or maybe, it would motivate creepers to do good! Sucks for us singles who prefer pseudoanonymity on LW/EA-forums though.

With a girlfriend, I care more about saving the world.

Without a girlfriend, I have more time to actually save it.

The best of both world is... polyandry?

An update for curious onlookers: this panned out. Tuesday was our first "luniversary", if I may employ a nonce. :)

Let he who is without jerky cast the first wrapper?

You're not a jerk, but you are married. There's another criterion: I'm averse to helping anyone cheat. Anyway, the "not a jerk" thing only rules out a handful of people off the top of my head, and I highly doubt those people like me.

I'm going to be terribly presumptuous and declare this closed for the time being =P

This year is what I have heard called a "champagne birthday" - I turn 21 on the 21st. However, Tuesdays are freakishly busy for me. I am on campus for thirteen hours straight and when I get home after my last class I go directly to bed. Sorry =/

Upvoted for trying to solve the OP problem, and likewise for Alicorn's comment.

What counts as commuting distance, if you don't actually live in my town (Amherst), is up to you: I don't have a car (or indeed a driver's license), so the burden of transit is going to mostly not fall on me. I'm not going to the Singularity Summit because I am poor and it is far away and I hate traveling.

I assign a 99.999999% probability to the same thing, i.e. that there are more male readers in the world, than there are male readers of LW in the world.

typo. thanks for pointing out.

(Also, if anybody knows or can estimate, are the gender ratios similar in the relevant areas of academia?)

All male biased as far as I know. (Math, philosophy, AI/CS)

Not good from the point of view of men looking for atheist partners, but good from the point of view of these rare females.

Eh. I tend to agree with CronoDAS. Not that he's objectively right that one is better off escaping from the world rather than dealing with it, but that his utility function is really screwed up by most people's standards, and that "correcting" it is extremely difficult. It's not at all simply a matter of self-limiting beliefs. In my case, at least, it's a matter of a great deal of adverse conditioning that took place when I was raised, and maybe a bit of bad genes. It's a matter of accurate assessments about the world being more emotionally disturbing to me than for most people, at a level more basic than that of beliefs.

More here.

(Note that I'm doing better recently, finally having found some meds with a decently strong placebo effect.)

Meh. Join the club. I tried to tell him the same thing (too sleepy to look for the link right now) but he wouldn't listen. But maybe there's some different nuance in the way you said it.

Because I'm an Internet masochist who can't keep a secret to save his life?

I lack ambition in other ways, too. For example, I don't have a job, and I shudder in horror at the thought of having one. As far as I can tell, women usually don't want a long-term romantic partner that is neither a breadwinner nor a competent homemaker. And by "escape the world", I mostly mean "escape from the experience of living in the world," through such means as playing World of Warcraft (which, incidentally, I tired of after a few months) or the final, irrevocable escape, death.

I'm curious about your indication that you don't want to get married until gay marriage is legal in your state. Not that it's not a fine sentiment, but do you have reason to believe that this makes any of your friends feel better, or that it's going to speed up the overturning of Prop 8, or otherwise accomplish anything other than leaving you a bachelor until said overturning? I had been aware of the existence of straight/bi people with this stance before but have not had the chance to quiz one, so - you're it!

Interesting. If I may ask, what sort of results are you getting (in terms of responses, females contacting you, and dates from the website)?

When I first constructed my OkCupid profile, I deliberately minimized my intellectual interests because I want to avoid getting stereotyped as a "nerd" before someone even knows me. I've been thinking of adding them in and see if it lowers the female attention I receive. I did recently add in that I "make computers do my bidding" and that I "build websites" (avoiding the word "programmer").

It's my theory that stereotypically nerdy guys are primarily going to be limited to nerdy girls. Yet nerdy girls (in my observations) seem to date all types of guys as long as the guy is smart. So if you come across as say, a smart jock, then you can date nerdy girls and sporty girls. If you come across as a smart artsy guy, then you can date nerdy girls and artsy girls. Of course, I don't have any degree of certainty that this theory is correct, but it's plausible enough that I try to not get immediately pigeonholed as a nerd.

Adding successive elements to someone's perceptions of you is not a commutative operation: order matters.

My profile (link in your inbox) is full of signaling, of my qualities which I think may be most attractive. And I do get some decent results (I'm currently seeing a nerdy girl from the website). I wonder how intellectual and world-saving I could actually afford to go.

You want your next girl to be more intelligent than you? Interesting. I'm curious as to where this preference comes from.

Plenty of things that are not sex are 'sexual'. For example, any date that does not include at least some 'sexual tension' is a fairly lousy date. I presume rhollerith would at least plan to have dates with some sexual chemistry involved!

http://www.scottaaronson.com/writings/selfdelusion.html

"This is kind of awkward, but, um, I've been noticing you in class—and, like, I'd really love to get to know you better, and I was just wondering"—his voice cracked—"if maybe this weekend you wanted to go see Hamlet at the Repertory Theater with me?"

Leaning against a locker with one hand, I chewed the thumbnail of the other, gazing at the blue-and-white checkered tiles on the floor. Despite his verbal ineptitude, at six-foot-two Eric is one of the more desirable seniors, and many sophomores would, I suppose, have been flattered by the attention. Removing my thumb, I replied—not, I don't think, with any malice in my voice, but genuinely, inquisitively, because I was seized by the problem and wanted to know the solution—"What you're saying is tantamount to saying that you want to fuck me. So why shouldn't I react with revulsion precisely as though you'd said the latter?"

Eric's cheeks reddened and his hands trembled; it was rather cute. "I just wanted to have a good time, just as friends!"

"You're asking me to accept that a first domino will be knocked over yet a hundredth will stand. Do chess masters continue playing when they see a mate—get it?—twenty moves ahead?"

Thank you for pointing that out, Alicorn. I want to become more tactful. Allow me to revise:

"I am very surprised to learn that Katja does not get sufficient offers to go out on dates from nerds who want to improve the world."

ADDED. I misinterpreted Katja's words in the original, top-level submission. Katja, in fact, gets plenty of attention from male nerds with world-saving ambition, but somehow I latched onto one particular interpretation of Katja's words and did not let go till Katja corrected me.