What colour were the shadows? 2020-10-19T09:11:18.411Z
How do you whittle path-dependent (probabilistic) questions? 2020-05-02T08:53:41.566Z
Mary Chernyshenko's Shortform 2020-01-18T14:57:39.038Z
[Event] Meeting in Myrhorod, November 16 2019-10-06T08:45:59.527Z
Lyubarsky intro 2019-03-09T11:13:31.075Z
Have a camel! 2019-02-28T19:25:05.476Z
Describing things: parsimony, fruitfulness, and adaptability 2019-02-05T20:59:01.345Z
What observations do you as a customer would expect to matter, if your experience was 1000 times "stronger"? 2019-01-01T22:03:39.480Z


Comment by Mary Chernyshenko (mary-chernyshenko) on Mary Chernyshenko's Shortform · 2021-09-17T09:42:36.429Z · LW · GW

Personalized medicine doesn't start with knowing your genetic polymorphisms. It doesn't even get there for a while or maybe ever.

PM starts with admitting you're a piece of meat with benefits. For example, test your bacteria for resistance to specific antibiotics; your bacteria are a part of "you" and have a say in what "your immune system" ends outputting. And so on. I have my own meat quirks, so I won't get into other examples. I just wanted to point out that "everybody has some Xs" doesn't mean "starting with Xs is not-personalized". It might be not-personalized enough, yes.

(The link to the FB post which made me think about it: it's in Russian. Basically, a girl came to a doctor to ask why is she fat despite there being no genetic polymorphisms pointing that way. The doctor starts to think the fashion to be less harmless than he used to.)

Comment by Mary Chernyshenko (mary-chernyshenko) on Death by a Single Cut · 2021-08-29T12:10:27.417Z · LW · GW

(your first point is not very convincing, it can easily be a dead monkey anyway; "I have not put a monkey in my closet" seems a better choice?)

Comment by Mary Chernyshenko (mary-chernyshenko) on The Future: Where are the Colors and the Sports? · 2021-08-22T06:26:37.028Z · LW · GW

I hope at least the sports fans have better things to do than define themselves in the tombstone-writing terms. Which other people will write.

Comment by Mary Chernyshenko (mary-chernyshenko) on Sunzi's《Methods of War》- Potential · 2021-08-07T08:24:51.364Z · LW · GW

Wood and stone stands - stand (plural)?

Comment by Mary Chernyshenko (mary-chernyshenko) on My Marriage Vows · 2021-07-23T18:35:17.428Z · LW · GW

...if someone kidnapped and tortured a loved one of yours and you didn't reveal your passwords, there'd have to be a rather important reason for your reticence, vow or no vow.

Comment by Mary Chernyshenko (mary-chernyshenko) on Relentlessness · 2021-07-07T11:01:37.116Z · LW · GW

Well, astronauts are an example, & a mostly successful one nowadays.

Comment by Mary Chernyshenko (mary-chernyshenko) on The topic is not the content · 2021-07-06T18:12:58.223Z · LW · GW

When I went to work in a bookshop, I expected the content to be "take the money, give the book". It was so much more than that. Had I thought about it like "ensure the easy and comfortable way to take the money and give the book", I'd have had a better handle on it. The missing ingredient was the realisation of my own responsibility for the end result (and also luck doesn't hurt.)

Comment by Mary Chernyshenko (mary-chernyshenko) on The topic is not the content · 2021-07-06T18:05:00.934Z · LW · GW

"lack of major negatives like unfair pay" - oh it's alright then, the job I have in mind has no such menial additions as pay at all)))

Comment by Mary Chernyshenko (mary-chernyshenko) on The homework assignment incentives, and why it's now so extreme · 2021-06-26T07:16:02.124Z · LW · GW

I don't know. Our teachers (Ukraine) don't seem to use automated systems, yet there's still tons of homework.

Comment by Mary Chernyshenko (mary-chernyshenko) on Self-study ideas for micro-projects in "abstract" subjects? · 2021-06-12T05:21:33.564Z · LW · GW

I guess one can make soap, as an applied project. Some paper chromatography can be done without a hood, outdoors (but then one still needs to dispose of the materials safely). Gall-based inks are, in a way, on the fence between organic and inorganic (also, playing around with homemade dyes is cool, e.g. from avocado seeds, alder bark or walnut skins - the colours fade, but you can stain paper so it looks old and then draw maps of treasure on it). Cooking is instructive (although people often underestimate the dangers of vinegar "because everybody has it in their kitchen".) Also, blacklight might be fun here.

But my most engaged instructors told us a real chemist develops a "sense of substance", like they often can tell things apart by their physical appearance and not even their chemical properties (given a set of familiar chemicals). There are different shades of colour, different granularities, different translucencies... it's just not something you can show at home. And separately, my botany instructors said they always make a student identify at least three species of a genus, whenever possible. For triangulation. If you give students only one species, that's how they will think of the genus as a whole. Give them two, and they will think about the differences between them, but not about the genus. But give them three, and they see the common features. Again, I don't think it's possible to show sufficient variety of chemical substances at home.

Comment by Mary Chernyshenko (mary-chernyshenko) on Self-study ideas for micro-projects in "abstract" subjects? · 2021-06-11T22:22:19.051Z · LW · GW

See here for an example of microscopy,

(you might have a problem obtaining chloral hydrate, which is a shame because it's often used for preparations)

although the pictures I remember were probably from this one or thereabouts (but it references the first one anyway); very beautiful, but I've never done it myself

Comment by Mary Chernyshenko (mary-chernyshenko) on Self-study ideas for micro-projects in "abstract" subjects? · 2021-06-11T22:08:12.922Z · LW · GW

One source is societies popularizing the subjects. They often have some editions, printed or electronic, covering the more fashionable topics.

As for chemistry, don't go for the interesting stuff at home. It's possible to use household items to demonstrate the general principles at like high school level, but quantitative experiments are much more expensive and often hazardous. Even just storing some things is hazardous, never mind opening the bottles - especially if it's something organic which can have peroxides without you noticing. (And then, explode at some random point in time.) I'd like a chemist to chime in here.

I've heard of people doing glasswork at home, which definitely can help with some experiments in biology, for example. Actually, in case of botany, try the C-fern - it's available commercially, should grow easily (especially if you know how to operate a terrarium), you can even try obtaining mutations in the offspring. (Also, the subject of pheromone communication in ferns is rapidly developing and kind of cutting edge, so who knows what this will grow into :) this is one way to enter science faster :) ) Also in botany, another "easy" (well, easy) model is Capsella bursa-pastoris with her crazy leaves - IIRC, there are four main shapes controlled by two genes, but the plant is a tetraploid. Here, it's actually an open question which leaf shape is more suited to which climatic conditions etc. (so, population genetics). If you can rig a DIC-like lighting on your microscope (you do have a microscope?), it's possible to study the venation of the plant, I remember Fisher sold the medium for the preparations... (if I don't forget to, I'll post a link to the article I have in mind; but even if I do, DIC is a great thing to have, check out the amateur microscopy groups on social media for advice.) Capsella is a (relatively close) relative of Arabidopsis thaliana, the workhorse of plant biotech, so you can have some fun with the ample literature on that one.

Comment by Mary Chernyshenko (mary-chernyshenko) on Self-study ideas for micro-projects in "abstract" subjects? · 2021-06-11T21:17:28.101Z · LW · GW

Could you make the question more specific? It's not hard to think of an exercise when studying microbiology (or even a sequence of exercises), it's hard to think of one that has some non-trivial connection to modern science. I'd say, once you find one, it becomes a research question.

Comment by Mary Chernyshenko (mary-chernyshenko) on To like, or not to like? · 2021-06-05T06:53:37.501Z · LW · GW

There's a scholar who becomes best buddies with the Devil... and then, in the second half of the book, they kill some elderly couple...

Comment by mary-chernyshenko on [deleted post] 2021-06-05T04:32:47.613Z

Notice how this Moody can still be Crouch Jr.

"Are you here to take me back?" "Not yet. Not today."

Comment by Mary Chernyshenko (mary-chernyshenko) on Why don't long running conversations happen on LessWrong? · 2021-06-05T04:20:45.140Z · LW · GW

I think long-running conversations IRL that they are unencumbered not just by UI. They have asides, dead ends, really long re-introductions, the hope that the other person will value the topic years later to remember it, much less comment. Not months, years. LRCs are big-stakes stuff, not necessarily deep or polished or shareable or even productive. They have the freedom to fail.

Comment by Mary Chernyshenko (mary-chernyshenko) on Why don't long running conversations happen on LessWrong? · 2021-06-05T04:02:30.188Z · LW · GW

I am only speaking for myself, but on LW I'd be afraid of growing a reputation of "always wants the last word". So I just stop commenting when I find it convenient. (I know it's not always the right thing to do, but it's better to be talked to, like, at all.)

Comment by Mary Chernyshenko (mary-chernyshenko) on Harry Potter and the Methods of Rationality discussion thread, part 4 · 2021-06-04T05:14:11.296Z · LW · GW

I wonder about that "or your money back" part. Was it added because the causal charm did not always work or "in order to" make it not always work? What if a wizard found himself very thirsty in a desert, incapable of Apparating and having only the tea to support him? It would be torture.

Comment by Mary Chernyshenko (mary-chernyshenko) on Core Pathways of Aging · 2021-06-04T03:34:41.016Z · LW · GW

Must be a local thing, then. (Or it's opposite is a local thing, and I'm just used to systems crawling leisurely to some equilibrium, like seed banks, and to systems where the equilibrium is hard to define for a given moment, like internal parasite loads.)

Comment by Mary Chernyshenko (mary-chernyshenko) on Core Pathways of Aging · 2021-06-01T05:43:08.249Z · LW · GW

I don't understand this:

For any X with turnover much faster than aging (i.e. decades), if we see the level of X increase/decrease on the timescale of a human lifetime, then that is not due to permanent “accumulation of X” or “depletion of X”; it is due to increase/decrease in the rate of creation/removal of X.

Is it not just how accumulation and depletion exactly occur in biological systems? Not even specifically at the cellular level?

Comment by Mary Chernyshenko (mary-chernyshenko) on Why don't long running conversations happen on LessWrong? · 2021-05-31T13:02:21.930Z · LW · GW

(without reading other comments) Academia does have its share of failed-to-ignites and should-have-stopped-alreadies. Maybe we can zoom in on the successful cases instead of looking at the whole.

Comment by Mary Chernyshenko (mary-chernyshenko) on Aphantasia · 2021-05-30T06:40:31.363Z · LW · GW

Being around people who value talking about abstract things makes me more attuned to the "word content" of the day. It's like, I can remember going to work on a sunny day or I can remember someone asking her colleague "how do you see/define the depth of a surface in a painting".

Comment by Mary Chernyshenko (mary-chernyshenko) on Aphantasia · 2021-05-30T06:32:49.494Z · LW · GW

Fascinating! My first "thought" on reading the description was that I see the golden background around the olive-skinned man, like on an old painting, and I know how his body is tilted. Then, "there's an assassin". What? :) I mean, sure he's an assassin, but let's not be hasty here :)

And this reminds me of how some writers compress visual imagery. Pratchett's "complex interplay of forces" (when a man throws a dagger, I think in the beginning of "The Pyramids") really did a lot for me. It's the successional character of the movement, half-conscious but ever so controlled, so living-muscle, which draws the attention very tightly and maybe makes imagination cheaper in the process.

Comment by Mary Chernyshenko (mary-chernyshenko) on Aphantasia · 2021-05-30T06:17:45.261Z · LW · GW

I wonder how that relates to visualizing the development of chess positions. For me it's kind of in-between imagination and just seeing the board as is (and I seldom can imagine it beyond one exchange of moves).

Also, imagining "trivial" things like sitting on a riverbank with a fishing rod is easier for me than imagining things from, say, a dictionary of botanical terminology. It has always been a pain to the extent that I can't describe leaf shapes etc. like they are supposed to be described, beyond the elementary level. But that might be a different failing, an inability to sort things accurately. For some reason, I can still use identification keys which require one to choose between several options, even when the key says "the combination of features is different". I guess people make them as easy to follow as possible, stripping the vocabulary to the basics.

Comment by mary-chernyshenko on [deleted post] 2021-05-29T19:35:23.006Z

You are awesome.

Comment by Mary Chernyshenko (mary-chernyshenko) on Open and Welcome Thread - May 2021 · 2021-05-29T16:54:17.416Z · LW · GW

I'm learning to drive and I'd love to read articles on a game theoretical approach to traffic. I don't mean the "pirates be pirates" approach, but the "here's what the rules say, and here's what people often do, and the actual driver in a similar situation should keep in mind both these things, because the guy in the other lane counts on him knowing them (and they both know people sometimes break rules)". I think it rather odd that I can't remember such articles, but maybe it's because I didn't pay attention to them.

Comment by Mary Chernyshenko (mary-chernyshenko) on The Reebok effect · 2021-05-22T18:01:08.573Z · LW · GW

Maybe this is a better tool for structuring the discourse then it is for firmly deriving the basis of a given statement.

I'm thinking about the reports my kid gives about his football games. If the final count was 10:9 and the game was long, I ask if it were the final goal which took so much time to score; not because I expect it to be exactly so, but rather because this is the streetlight under which I start looking for the keys.

If, OTOH, it ended at 5:3, I ask what he remembers as the most interesting points. And if it ended at 9:1...

Comment by Mary Chernyshenko (mary-chernyshenko) on Sabien on "work-life" balance · 2021-05-21T06:55:38.626Z · LW · GW

(Meta - the OP contains at least two major points to fence with, the second being more novel, as far as I can tell. But the first one is more engageable. Maybe we should experiment with changing the order of points, or just leave the more-engageable-less-novel parts trivially less convenient to access.)

Comment by Mary Chernyshenko (mary-chernyshenko) on Covid 5/20: The Great Unmasking · 2021-05-21T06:25:37.586Z · LW · GW

In QALYs, how much is expected to be gained / lost by unmasking? (even if the only thing about this question we can find out today is how wide the error buckets are)

Comment by Mary Chernyshenko (mary-chernyshenko) on What will 2040 probably look like assuming no singularity? · 2021-05-18T17:08:05.025Z · LW · GW

I don't imagine a big open war between Russia and whoever else, more like a series of ethnic conflicts which would quietly spring up. This scenario is convenient for most players.

...but this is probably just depression speaking, Europe does seem better put together now that I think of it.

Comment by Mary Chernyshenko (mary-chernyshenko) on Hufflepuff Cynicism on Hypocrisy · 2021-05-17T20:24:55.698Z · LW · GW

I like when the advisor has lived or done the thing advised. That means the advisor has paid for it - be it with time, money, effort, feeling or most expensively, people. This doesn't tell me that I personally will benefit from doing the same thing, it just tells me the thing was once judged to be worth it. Dishonesty adds that this was a mistake.

Comment by Mary Chernyshenko (mary-chernyshenko) on What will 2040 probably look like assuming no singularity? · 2021-05-17T19:57:17.221Z · LW · GW

There will still be wars in Europe. I think conflicts will move west of Ukraine, if Ukraine still exists by that point.

Comment by Mary Chernyshenko (mary-chernyshenko) on What will 2040 probably look like assuming no singularity? · 2021-05-17T19:55:13.582Z · LW · GW

...academia will suffer even more from the influx of papers which were not written by their official authors. The job of the scientific editor will become that much harder.

Comment by Mary Chernyshenko (mary-chernyshenko) on Covid 5/13: Moving On · 2021-05-14T16:43:32.274Z · LW · GW

Heard today that my elderly (73 y.o.) relative won't get vaccinated. Because "his health is frankly not that good, though we do not talk to you about it much, and also a vaccine puts a strain on your psychical state, too". I was just wondering if this strain thing is our "local phenomenon" or has it been noted elsewhere?

Comment by Mary Chernyshenko (mary-chernyshenko) on There’s no such thing as a tree (phylogenetically) · 2021-05-14T06:49:15.822Z · LW · GW

So what if it does? It's got its lignin figured out.

Comment by Mary Chernyshenko (mary-chernyshenko) on Academia as Company Hierarchy · 2021-05-14T06:41:14.794Z · LW · GW

It's alright, it was not during fieldwork, just after hours. It wasn't even bad. Two people were on their way to have sex and I decided not to have to leave the room whenever my neighbor was in the mood.

Quite a few students use this time to have sex. (I know a pair who got married that way.) Officially, it's not happening, I guess because students' parents would disapprove. The problems start when, say, a drunk teacher hits on a student and everybody becomes afraid that this will lead to investigations and the practice will be cancelled forever.* So it's in everybody's interests to pretend things are under control.

Back then it was unthinkable for me to just come up to an adult and ask to be assigned to a different room. I was a prude and proud of it, I knew my complaint was just a matter of preferences and if I went through with it the lovers would be punished, and the teachers all seemed so determinedly cheerful. There was no actual reason to involve them.

But then my mother became sick. And if I were a mature human being, I'd go to the Head and say I needed several days off. But I already knew problems get resolved without the Head.

  • Then there are, of course, occasional tragedies like students falling out of windows and dying. Or dying in car accidents during practice time. The teachers have no power to prevent this, but they will be held responsible. Whenever something like this happens, people start talking about how the practice is too dangerous and completely unnecessary for most future biologists who won't even work in the field, and how expensive it is for the university.

(The word I heard used was not "clueless", but "беспечальный", which encompasses "carefree", "untroubled" and "sorrowless". I like "sorrowless" but it's got too much of a bite.)

Comment by Mary Chernyshenko (mary-chernyshenko) on Academia as Company Hierarchy · 2021-05-12T20:08:47.077Z · LW · GW

This resembles my time observing academia so ruthlessly, as an undergrad and grad student and then as an outsider.

After the first year, students of my college "have practice" in a nature reserve. We go to live in a research base / summer camp hybrid thing for about 40 days unless one works double shifts. (There are four study courses, and the reasonable people join one study group in the morning and another in the afternoon. The unreasonable get to live wild, sometimes for the first time ever. I was unreasonable.) And of course, the teachers are the same every year, since this is supposed to be an opportunity to show us true botanical and zoological fieldwork. (The fieldwork part is great.)

But the living wild sucks. When I got to my assigned room on that first evening, another student was already having Active Personal Life going on, so I left. It did not occur to me to try a teacher. I complained to my boyfriend, who was a blooming adult at his 18 y.o., and he found me a place to stay for the night - another girl let me to share her bed :) crap, we were so afraid A Teacher Would Notice. The next day, after a round of negotiations, my bed was squeezed into a strictly No-Personal-Life-Allowed room.

And everybody knows this happens but pretends it doesn't. And the teachers speak about "the practice time" so cheerfully, "I really feel young again!" etc. I remember thinking "oh, you child, how could I ever go to you about my mother being in a hospital". (I didn't. My mother did become sick. I went to consult my boyfriend, who advised me to finish studying and promised to loan money for the trip home if there was urgent need, and that was that.)

Comment by Mary Chernyshenko (mary-chernyshenko) on There’s no such thing as a tree (phylogenetically) · 2021-05-05T20:59:57.545Z · LW · GW

That common-ancestors-being-totally-different thing is wonderful. But really, wood is just wood, it's not even "the" "interesting" feature compared to, say, the placement of the next-season(s) buds (which is an instrumental thing in itself, but at least a higher-order instrumental thing.)

I'd love to see an ELI5 explanation of high the MADS-box genes coordinate about making wood in an Arabidopsis plant, that has to be some serious challenge for them.

Comment by Mary Chernyshenko (mary-chernyshenko) on There’s no such thing as a tree (phylogenetically) · 2021-05-05T20:41:38.128Z · LW · GW

How is mistletoe herbaceous? (Edit - we were taught it's a shrub.)

Comment by Mary Chernyshenko (mary-chernyshenko) on Your Dog is Even Smarter Than You Think · 2021-05-01T20:06:03.087Z · LW · GW

So this is hearsay, but a zoologist friend of mine has a zoologist friend of hers :) and that person has spent a while observing cows. She says cows are "smart" but kind of live in a different timescale than we do, a "longer" one. I have no idea what this means for any particular cow, yet what I find interesting is the notion of different timescales and how it affects ethology research.

OTOH, I have geese, and I do wonder about that Hans thing. Geese are 1) super fun, 2) variable in aggression, maternal instinct strength, shyness etc. Sure they can't communicate many things, but.

They do expect me to behave predictably, to cooperate or to interfere. And I view this mutual expectation as a solid sign of smartness. For example, when I stand in their way, they would politely wait for me to pass, making it clear what they intend to do. They know they shouldn't get into the vegetable garden, so they do not do it when they could be seen. One goose tugs open the little door to their house to get back on her eggs when she thinks she has us fooled. (Unfortunately, we have to shoo her away from them to get her to eat and drink. But it's alright now, she became Mother Goose to this year's crop and does go out to the pasture. We can mostly leave the little ones under her supervision.) My husband fixed some solar-powered streetlights on trees, to play football with the kid in the evening. The lights are triggered by movement. So now the birds take advantage of them. If we don't lock them in their enclosure, they steal out to enjoy their nighttime swims and grazes (we call it "geese are clubbing again".)

And yes, I am reading things into things, I do know that)

Comment by Mary Chernyshenko (mary-chernyshenko) on On silence · 2021-05-01T06:45:13.540Z · LW · GW

About the difference of "cars passing" and "birds chirping", I think there are two axes to it: translatability and variability.

I expect translatability from children (lots, even as background sound), cars (less) and birds (some, depending on the bird). It's something about ease of sorting the auditory information. (And in the context of a mini-map nim described, it would be cool to map out the physical limits of the heard area.)

But noise variability is another matter. When we talk about silence, what matters more - the intensity of sound or it's spectral parameters? There's at least one classification of noise (for example, ). I can't hear the difference between, say, white and pink noise, and I'm like 90% sure they have indistinguishable effects on health and cognition, within "not loud doses"). But at least it's some quantitative way to describe it.

Comment by Mary Chernyshenko (mary-chernyshenko) on Covid 4/29: Vaccination Slowdown · 2021-04-29T16:48:47.020Z · LW · GW

(crap, I accidentally read "Stop acting like this isn't a monster scandal b/c it is!" as"Stop acting like this is a monster scandal b/c it is!" and thought "this is like the best line ever")

Comment by Mary Chernyshenko (mary-chernyshenko) on How to Play a Support Role in Research Conversations · 2021-04-26T16:21:00.570Z · LW · GW

Seems like this would require very skilful maneuvering. [For me] it is a pleasure to try to build on the other's thought, and deliberately "braking" is uncomfortable. I feel slow and sidelined, so I begin to ask questions which don't aim at the core of the problem but glance off of it, so to speak. Then, hopefully, I stop talking.

Comment by Mary Chernyshenko (mary-chernyshenko) on The consequentialist case for social conservatism, or “Against Cultural Superstimuli” · 2021-04-16T19:02:48.347Z · LW · GW

And I don't hate you!

(And - thanks.)

Comment by Mary Chernyshenko (mary-chernyshenko) on The consequentialist case for social conservatism, or “Against Cultural Superstimuli” · 2021-04-16T05:21:32.935Z · LW · GW

None articulated. Imagine my surprise :)

(A relative of mine is a psychologist, but not, in my opinion, a grown-up person. They discuss their clients at home. I found, and find this excruciating. To see how this had affected my expectations of a totally different person was eye-opening.)

...still, I think now that people should tell such things to people, if they mean them.

Comment by Mary Chernyshenko (mary-chernyshenko) on "Taking your environment as object" vs "Being subject to your environment" · 2021-04-16T05:13:18.941Z · LW · GW

...but not always, unfortunately.

Comment by Mary Chernyshenko (mary-chernyshenko) on The consequentialist case for social conservatism, or “Against Cultural Superstimuli” · 2021-04-15T07:51:49.634Z · LW · GW

The best line here is "I don't hate you".

Seriously, it's awesome and people should tell it to each other much more easily.

(My therapist said he doesn't hate me. It was the single most liberating thing I've heard in a while.)

Comment by Mary Chernyshenko (mary-chernyshenko) on "Taking your environment as object" vs "Being subject to your environment" · 2021-04-13T06:49:16.174Z · LW · GW

An example. When my kid was in his second year of primary school (that's for 7-8 y.o. here in Ukraine), they played a game: kids were running in circles around chairs, and when they heard a whistle they had to sit down. But they were one chair short, and each time one kid and one chair were sent away. After three rounds my son started to get the general idea, and when they started running he went to the pile of discarded chairs and got himself one because whatever. (They disqualified him, and I stood there grinning like an idiot because heck yeah.)

But I also thought about how I would explain to him the game as a game, quite separate from everything else.

Comment by Mary Chernyshenko (mary-chernyshenko) on "Taking your environment as object" vs "Being subject to your environment" · 2021-04-13T06:30:15.948Z · LW · GW

I feel like the easiest way to begin is by noticing someone's faux pa. "We don't do it here" means "we here" have collectively agreed on something else, but one can assume a role to develop some attitude to the agreed-upon thing. Be a lord and view it as yours to govern; be a word and build it through a multitude of connections; be a crook and parasitize on it; be a cook and enrich it; be a trader and "just deal with it" etc.

The trick is to remember what role it was, why you chose it, and what this says about your environment.

Comment by Mary Chernyshenko (mary-chernyshenko) on What are all these children doing in my ponds? · 2021-04-06T16:06:44.127Z · LW · GW

#1. It's not the money, it's the time which goes by and leaves the "you" forever alone on the roadside. #2. Having children is not aimed to support any ideology besides having children.