The First Step is to Admit That You Have a Problem
post by Alicorn · 2009-10-06T20:59:41.195Z · LW · GW · Legacy · 87 commentsContents
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This is part 1 of a sequence on problem solving. Here is part 2.
It is a critical faculty to distinguish tasks from problems. A task is something you do because you predict it will get you from one state of affairs to another state of affairs that you prefer. A problem is an unacceptable/displeasing state of affairs, now or in the likely future. So a task is something you do, or can do, while a problem is something that is, or may be. For example:
- If you want a peanut butter sandwich, and you have the tools, ingredients, and knowhow that are required to make a peanut butter sandwich, you have a task on your hands. If you want a peanut butter sandwich, but you lack one or more of those items, you have a problem.
- If you are sad, and you know that this is because you have not seen your favorite cousin in a while, and you have the wherewithal to arrange to have your cousin over, then arranging to have your cousin over is a task. If you are sad, and you don't know why, then the sadness is a problem.
- If eight of your friends are involved in massive unpleasant social drama, but you have a forty-three-step surefire plan to calm down the angry and smooth over the ruffled and chew out the misbehaved and bring back the normalcy, you have forty-three subtasks of one big task. If you have no clue what the heck is up with the drama but it's on your last nerve, problem ahoy!
- If you are a mortal creature, you may already be a problem-haver.
Problems are solved by turning them into tasks and carrying out those tasks. Turning problems into tasks can sometimes be problematic in itself, although small taskifications can be tasky. For instance, in the peanut butter sandwich case, if your only missing component for sandwich-making is bread, it doesn't take much mental acrobatics to determine that you now have two tasks to be conducted in order: 1. obtain bread, 2. make sandwich. Figuring out why you're sad, in case two, could be a task (if you're really good at introspecting accurately, or are very familiar with the cousin-missing type of sadness in particular) or could be a problem (if you're not good at that, or if you've never missed your favorite cousin before and have no prior experience with the precise feeling). And so on.
Why draw this distinction with such care? Because treating problems like tasks will slow you down in solving them. You can't just become immortal any more than you can just make a peanut butter sandwich without any bread. And agonizing about "why I can't just do this" will produce the solution to very few problems. First, you have to figure out how to taskify the problem. And the first step is to understand that you have a problem.
Identifying problems is surprisingly difficult. The language we use for them is almost precisely like the language we use for tasks: "I have to help the exchange student learn English." "I have to pick up milk on the way home from school." "I have to clean the grout." "I have to travel to Zanzibar." Some of these are more likely to be problems than others, but any of them could be, because problemhood and taskiness depend on factors other than what it is you're supposed to wind up with at the end. You can easily say what you want to wind up with after finishing doing any of the above "have to's": a bilingual student, a fridge that contains milk, clean grout, the property of being in Zanzibar. But for each outcome to unfold correctly, resources that you might or might not have will be called for. Does the exchange student benefit most from repetition, or having everything explained in song, or do you need to pepper your teaching with mnemonics? Do you have cash in your wallet for milk? Do you know what household items will clean grout and what items will dissolve it entirely? Where the hell is Zanzibar, anyway? The approximate ways in which a "have to" might be a problem are these:
- Lacking resources. Resources include tools, materials, cash, space to operate, cooperative other persons, time, physical capacities, and anything else that will contribute directly to the bringing about of the outcome. For instance, if you can't afford the milk you need to buy, carry it home once you've bought it because you have injured your elbow, or fit it into the fridge because the fridge is full of blueberry trifle, that's a resource problem.
- Lacking propositional knowledge. For instance, if you don't know where Zanzibar is, that's a propositional knowledge problem.
- Lacking procedural knowledge or skill. This overlaps somewhat with propositional knowledge, but roughly, it's data about how to go about applying your resources towards your goal. For instance, if you don't know how to best approach your exchange student's learning style, that's a procedural knowledge problem.
So when you have to do something, you can tell whether it's a problem or a task by checking whether you have all of these things. That's not going to be foolproof: certain knowledge gaps can obscure themselves and other shortfalls too. If I mistakenly think that the store from which I want to purchase milk is open 24 hours a day, I have a milk-buying problem and may not realize it until I try to walk into the building and find it locked.
Part 2 of this sequence will get into what to do when you have identified a problem.
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comment by Eliezer Yudkowsky (Eliezer_Yudkowsky) · 2009-10-07T17:02:18.211Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
I thought that everything in this article was obviously both true and important - enough that I promoted it as soon as I saw it, instead of waiting for it to be upvoted further. To clarify: It's not about low-level versus high-level goals. It's not about what you can do immediately versus later, or with or without further resources, or with or without breaking it down further.
It's about what you know how to solve, versus what you don't know how to solve; and the feeling of internal panic when you confront something you don't know how to solve; and the worst possible thing you can do to deal with that internal panic, which is to instantly propose a solution that turns it into a "task" but one that won't work. And HughRistik has an incredibly good point about the external converse, when people who are already good at something give advice that completely fails to turn a problem into a task. Alicorn's post is true and important because making the explicit distinction may help people on both the internal and external problems.
I encountered this over the Summit weekend. 1.5 hour lunch with a couple of people who could not stop solving the Friendly AI problem.
Replies from: JulianMorrison, John_Maxwell_IV, jimrandomh↑ comment by JulianMorrison · 2009-10-07T20:42:45.580Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
I suggest there's a third major way to fail, especially among smart people: crunching the problems into tasks and stopping. Not actually doing the tasks.
↑ comment by John_Maxwell (John_Maxwell_IV) · 2009-10-08T02:46:26.380Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
I encountered this over the Summit weekend. 1.5 hour lunch with a couple of people who could not stop solving the Friendly AI problem.
Out of curiosity, what is the most promising suggestion regarding Friendly AI that you've heard from someone who had probably spent fewer than 48 hours thinking about it?
↑ comment by jimrandomh · 2009-10-07T17:44:49.084Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
I dealt with this over the Summit weekend. 1.5 hour lunch with a couple of people who could not stop solving the Friendly AI problem.
This is a great example, and was very helpful to me in understanding the article; I think it, or one substantially like it, should be added.
comment by HughRistik · 2009-10-07T08:00:11.425Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
Moved to top level post
Replies from: Richard_Kennaway, thomblake, MBlume, Vladimir_Nesov, wedrifid↑ comment by Richard_Kennaway · 2009-10-07T12:14:04.977Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
Maybe I should move it out of this thread and top-level it or something...
Er....please, not if it's going to be another thread in which geeks whine about not getting girlfriends and how society is trying to stop them procreating and all the advice is actively harmful and probably intended as such and how even if I spoke to that cute girl she'd just make fun of me and blah blah expletive deleted blah...
Maybe there should be a geek dating and discussion site, but I'd rather such a thing was independent from LessWrong.
Replies from: jimrandomh, SilasBarta↑ comment by jimrandomh · 2009-10-07T13:50:29.083Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
The fact that people might write replies that aren't worth reading is not an argument against posting.
Replies from: Richard_Kennaway↑ comment by Richard_Kennaway · 2009-10-07T21:02:38.796Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
The fact that people might write replies that aren't worth reading is not an argument against posting.
HughRistik's comment, though, and now a top-level post, is already well down the road I described.
↑ comment by SilasBarta · 2009-10-07T15:13:44.603Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
how society is trying to stop them procreating and all the advice is actively harmful and probably intended
Imagine a society that put non-trivial effort into helping the type of male HughRistik described in his comment here and in the previous discussion, and that actually updated its advice as it learned what worked and what didn't. One where you can openly give effective advice about what a man should do to create interest from females without being ridiculed.
Compare it to the present society. Do you see a difference? If so, you are in agreement.
as such and how even if I spoke to that cute girl she'd just make fun of me
Despite the humor in the comic, that is a real danger: men do have "something to lose", well above and beyond the feeling of rejection: he suddenly becomes a "pervert", the woman tells others about what a loser he is, etc. I know because I have lived it.
What's the difference between a romantic act and a pervy one? Whether the woman has decided she likes the guy doing it.
Replies from: Richard_Kennaway, HughRistik, CronoDAS↑ comment by Richard_Kennaway · 2009-10-07T21:39:29.702Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
Imagine a society that put non-trivial effort into helping the type of male HughRistik described in his comment here and in the previous discussion, and that actually updated its advice as it learned what worked and what didn't. One where you can openly give effective advice about what a man should do to create interest from females without being ridiculed.
What about all the PUA stuff? I know nothing more of it than has been discussed here and from looking around their web sites, but it's been spoken of with approval by some here and on OB. Not that I'm recommending it, I have my own ideas about it which aren't relevant here, but there it is for the studying. Yes, there are people who say that it's nasty and manipulative, yadda yadda. What do you care about that? The PUA people don't. Take it or leave it.
Compare it to the present society. Do you see a difference? If so, you are in agreement.
If "society" doesn't lay out a red carpet for you it's deliberately doing you down? Sorry, but it isn't anyone else's responsibility to solve your problem. You solve it yourself, or not. Resources are out there, and pretending they aren't and whining about how if it wasn't for "society" you'd succeed at this is just an excuse to justify losing.
Despite the humor in the comic, that is a real danger: men do have "something to lose", well above and beyond the feeling of rejection: he suddenly becomes a "pervert", the woman tells others about what a loser he is, etc. I know because I have lived it.
And so you believe that any time a man asks a woman out and she declines, he gets labelled a pervert and badmouthed to all her friends. That is actually not how things work in the world outside your head. Offers amicably made and amicably declined happen all the time.
BTW, minor quibble (or major truth, depending on how far you pull on the loose thread): there is no such thing as a feeling of rejection. There is only the fact of being turned down (if it happens), and whatever attitude you decide to take about it.
Replies from: SilasBarta, Psychohistorian↑ comment by SilasBarta · 2009-10-07T22:07:19.342Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
What about all the PUA stuff? I know nothing more of it than has been discussed here and from looking around their web sites, but it's been spoken of with approval by some here and on OB. ...
Yes, people who could actually use the advice appreciate hearing it. I'm talking about disapproval from society in general. There is no widely-accepted, effective advice that you can openly talk about for how to attract women, like there is for women wanting to attract men. PUA is a recent development that is slowly allowing men to work around this problem, but its effectiveness will always be officially denied in polite company, no matter how much evidence accumulates.
If "society" doesn't lay out a red carpet for you it's deliberately doing you down? Sorry, but it isn't anyone else's responsiblity to solve your problem. You solve it yourself, or not. Resources are out there, and pretending they aren't and whining about how if it wasn't for "society ...
Yikes! Putting words into my mouth there? Let's see, I didn't claim there are no resources, I didn't aim to justify any of my personal failings, I didn't claim that society has to throw out a red carpet for every idea. However, there is a very real problem for men in general, and it's ridiculous to equate any discussion of that with excuse-making.
For what it's worth, I am most certainly not retiring to my cave on this issue, and in no sense have I given up. I have, in fact, availed myself of the resources you mentioned. Though I won't publicly go into much detail, it proved my suspicions right -- the course assumed a prerequisite level of implicit social knowledge that I didn't have. Fortunately, I got a refund and have been developing in that area. As the thread Hugh linked shows, my efforts have led to a date, so I most certainly not taking the attitude you have so rudely ascribed to me.
And so you believe that any time a man asks a woman out and she declines, he gets labelled a pervert and badmouthed to all her friends. That is actually not how things work in the world outside your head. Offers amicably made and amicably declined happen all the time.
Again, putting words into my mouth. I never claimed that this happens every time, I don't believe it happens every time, and it wasn't necessary for my point that it happens every time. All that's necessary is that the risk be too high. If you've never had that problem, good for you -- you're a natural, or learned the appropriate protocols from the appropriate people. That's still no reason to deny the existence of the problem for others.
BTW, minor quibble (or major truth, depending on how far you pull on the loose thread): there is no such thing as a feeling of rejection. There is only the fact of being turned down (if it happens), and whatever attitude you decide to take about it.
Nope, there's also the change in other people's behaviors and beliefs about me that result from a failed attempt, which I cannot alter merely by changing my view of how I was turned down; ignoring this fact on the basis of some rugged "I choose my attitude" is simplistic, and ignorant of the relevant factors.
Replies from: pdf23ds↑ comment by pdf23ds · 2009-10-07T22:40:01.585Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
This, from OB seems particularly relevant.
↑ comment by Psychohistorian · 2009-10-07T21:55:52.498Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
Whoops, misread that and focused on a point that wasn't there. Thought RK's comment expressed a sentiment that it did not actually express, or at least expressed only very mildly.
Original comment:
African nations could all develop well-functioning, corruption-free constitutional democracies, if only people took responsibility for their actions.
You see how this attitude is, perhaps, less than constructive? I'm willing to bet that what works for you isn't working for a lot of other people; a solution existing doesn't help people who can't employ that solution. Until employing that solution is a task, and not a problem, there's progress to be made.
Replies from: Richard_Kennaway↑ comment by Richard_Kennaway · 2009-10-07T22:23:34.537Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
African nations could all develop well-functioning, corruption-free constitutional democracies, if only people took responsibility for their actions.
I don't accept this analogy. It would take a large number of people acting together to change the African situation. One person acting on their own can do little. But SilasBarta's desire for an active social life only requires action by him. The problem, as he describes it, is that he does not know what to do, that what he has done so far has failed, sometimes catastrophically. But nobody is stealing women from him. Nobody is preventing him doing whatever it is that will work, should he ever discover what that is (although depending on the scale of past catastrophes, he might have to emigrate to another continent to start over). Nobody is to blame.
I'm willing to bet that what works for you
I have been single for all of my 54 years. Make of that what you will.
↑ comment by HughRistik · 2009-10-08T05:22:16.305Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
Imagine a society that put non-trivial effort into helping the type of male HughRistik described in his comment here and in the previous discussion, and that actually updated its advice as it learned what worked and what didn't.
One thing I'll add is that I don't want people to think from either of our posts that dating is only a problem for shy or interpersonally-challenged straight males.
I was once at a club talking to guy I met who turned out to be gay. He was telling me that he has no idea how to approach new guys at clubs. He said something, "well I could go up and ask if they want a drink, but that feels cheesy... and then what?" Clearly, he is aware of the socially acceptable taskification (buy potential partners drinks), but finds it inadequate and feels lost about what concrete actions to take.
Everyone except naturally adept and popular kids suffer from the norm against taskifying the dating process, or using taskifying to learn how to develop dating skills and attractiveness. Males are just the only population that date from a pool of people who typically (a) are more selective than them, and (b) expect them to be the primary initiator of advances.
↑ comment by thomblake · 2009-10-07T14:28:36.777Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
It sounds like you're writing off the Romantic view without properly understanding it. Every day is an adventure! Why 'taskify' "attracting mates" when you can just follow your intuition and see where the road takes you? The Romantic view doesn't specify that if you follow your intuition, then good things will happen. Rather, it suggests that you should follow your intuition - full stop.
Perhaps Romanticism is an easy target on a community devoted to rationalism, but it's unhelpful to complain that your hammer is not a good screwdriver.
Replies from: HughRistik, Richard_Kennaway, SilasBarta↑ comment by HughRistik · 2009-10-08T04:34:29.957Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
It sounds like you're writing off the Romantic view without properly understanding it.
Certainly possible. But I think you do a good job of summarizing the view I'm criticizing, and showing why I write it off.
Every day is an adventure! Why 'taskify' "attracting mates" when you can just follow your intuition and see where the road takes you? The Romantic view doesn't specify that if you follow your intuition, then good things will happen. Rather, it suggests that you should follow your intuition - full stop.
Sounds great... unless you are actually trying to solve a problem that your current intuitions are inadequate to solve.
But I kind of agree that Romanticism is being held to the wrong standard: solving real-world problems and gaining empirical and procedural knowledge is not really what Romanticism is for. Which is exactly why it's so strange to see the attitude that problem-solving in socializing and dating must not violate Romantic ideals at any stage. It's proponents of this attitude that are trying to turn a hammer into a screwdriver.
Connecting with one's intuitions and instincts can often be difficult: it can be a problem. Yet this problem can be mitigated through taskification: you can systematically identify factors that are preventing you from acting on your instincts, and remove those factors. See this video advising men to avoid anxious, tentative language when asking women out that masks the intensity of their feelings. The goal of expressing one's feelings is romantic, but the means involves certain tasks: such as resisting anxiety that might make you uses hedging language that diffuses the chemistry, and instead "claim what's true" for you with "integrity" and "conviction."
Replies from: thomblake↑ comment by Richard_Kennaway · 2009-10-07T23:29:02.305Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
The Romantic view is a description of what the process feels like from the inside, by someone to whom it does not feel like anything.
A fish is not the best authority on water.
↑ comment by SilasBarta · 2009-10-07T15:05:07.242Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
It sounds like you're writing off the Romantic view without properly understanding it. Every day is an adventure! Why 'taskify' "attracting mates" when you can just follow your intuition and see where the road takes you?
Because following my intuition is the default state, and results in precisely zero romantic relationships.
Why is it so hard to communicate that people giving romantic advice don't quite understand what situation their audience is in?
Replies from: thomblake↑ comment by thomblake · 2009-10-07T15:22:19.021Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
results in precisely zero romantic relationships.
The Romantic view doesn't specify that if you follow your intuition, then good things will happen.
Some adventures don't go well.
Replies from: Eliezer_Yudkowsky↑ comment by Eliezer Yudkowsky (Eliezer_Yudkowsky) · 2009-10-07T16:55:57.745Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
If you follow your intuition and good things never happen, it's time to take the Romantic view and put it on a rocket ship and fire that rocket ship into the Sun.
Replies from: thomblake↑ comment by MBlume · 2009-10-07T10:05:17.197Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
Of course, they might "get lucky" and eventually get together with someone who is a decent without totally screwing things up with that person...
And if you do eventually manage to screw things up...looking back and not having anything to say but "I got lucky" is pretty damn disheartening.
Replies from: pdf23ds↑ comment by pdf23ds · 2009-10-07T10:16:39.324Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
I have a little "luck" story. My first, and so far only, girlfriend, was a person who my mom saw one day working in a video store. Being concerned with my personal life, she called me and recommended I go to the store to flirt with the girl. I did, and it went pretty well, though I didn't ask her out. Then I came home and googled her name. Well, it turns out that her first name, alone, (which was on her name tag) identifies her uniquely in the world. (It's not that weird just looking at it, but still.) And she had a livejournal. Which I read. And she had just broken up with her last boyfriend. After that, e-mailing turned into phone calls and dates and then real dating. I broke up with her after a while--I wasn't lucky enough to get someone extremely compatible, but I look back on it now and appreciate that we were pretty damn compatible, and in many more ways than could be expected just by updating on a few surface-level signals, which was all I had available at first.
Replies from: wedrifid, rhollerith_dot_com↑ comment by wedrifid · 2009-10-07T10:54:28.257Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
Your mom is quite the wingman.
Replies from: Psychohistorian↑ comment by Psychohistorian · 2009-10-07T22:02:59.951Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
That word, I do not think it means what you think it means.
Replies from: HughRistik↑ comment by RHollerith (rhollerith_dot_com) · 2009-10-07T20:30:17.694Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
pdf23ds writes:
I broke up with her after a while--I wasn't lucky enough to get someone extremely compatible, but I look back on it now and appreciate that we were pretty damn compatible, and in many more ways than could be expected just by updating on a few surface-level signals, which was all I had available at first.
I would not break up with a woman just because we are not "extremely compatible". (I might break up with a woman because I met someone else who is more compatible, but that is different. One reason that is different is that I tend to think that it is a lot easier to interest woman # 2 in a relationship if you are still with woman # 1, and part of the reason for that is that a man in a relationship exhibits subtle non-verbal signs that women can pick up on that are very costly or impossible for most men to learn to exhibit at will for the duration of the courtship phase. Or so it seems to me.)
A large challenge for young people is to get to a place where their social connections, income, net worth and general knowledge of the world provides a nice cushion or source of resilience. A significant proportion of young people get stuck along the way to that place of resilience with the result that they never reach the destination or, if they do, they languish for years or decades in poverty, depression, social isolation or in some other form of unpleasantness.
Having a girlfriend or a wife makes a man significantly more resilient. This is because when a woman loves a man, all or almost all of the woman's "ego skills" (a term used or formerly used by the psychotherapy profession to mean something like what writers on this site mean when they say "instrumental rationality") are available to the man. In contrast, the ego skills of a doctor, social worker, psychotherapist or such are generally mostly not available to the patient or client even if the patient or client is paying the doctor, psychotherapist or such $100 or $200 an hour (though that would definitely increase the expected rate at which the ego skills transfer). In other words, the rationality, the intelligence, the cognitive skills (particularly those having to do with the mind or with human society) of a person are available to the individual owner of those skills, but not in general to the persons the owner is trying to help -- and training, e.g., M.D. programs and Ph. D. programs in clinical psychology generally does not change that very much in my personal experience and in my interpretation of what I have read. But the sexual bond does drastically change that -- not always, but in a significant fraction of ordinary relationships. And having the knowledge of a few yares of experience -- knowledge about, e.g., which sort of woman is likely to bond strongly to you and how to create and maintain that bond -- brings that probability up to at least .7 or .8 if you're smart enough to follow along on this site.
In other words, the expected helpfulness of a person in your life can be modeled as the product of the rationality of the person (where "rationality" is defined as the ability to achieve the goals the person is expected to want to achieve multiplied by how much the person really cares about you. And the medical profession, the social-worker profession, the psychotherapy profession and such do not have a lot more control over that second factor than anyone else does.
But you know this already pdf23ds! You wrote a comment on it just today or yesterday. Sex changes that general rule. As soon as a woman starts having sex with you, well, then all of a sudden you are the most wonderful person in the world, or one of them anyways, and what happens to you is some significant fraction as important as what happens to the woman herself (according to her way of assigning importance).
I have gone without the love of a woman for 24 of the 32 years since I left home at the age of 17. (I am 49 now.) So, what I said above is not the usual lazy human after-the-fact justification or rationalization of a decision or a life strategy decided on through other, unspoken means. Also, like you, pdf23ds, I have had some significant handicaps which have caused me to need all the resiliency I can get.
So, pdf23ds, now that you know a little about how I think about these things, could you explain your policy of requiring extreme compatibility and breaking up if that requirement is not met?
Replies from: pdf23ds, pdf23ds↑ comment by pdf23ds · 2009-10-08T15:30:37.789Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
OK, another thing. I now remember that a bigger reason than the lack of compatibility that I broke up with my girlfriend was that I had almost no respect for her, possibly quite unfairly (but nevertheless), and I felt that with this asymmetrical situation, staying together was not at all fair to her. I still don't see how I could possibly have enough respect for a person to not feel this way unless they're very compatible with me.
Replies from: rhollerith_dot_com↑ comment by RHollerith (rhollerith_dot_com) · 2009-10-08T16:49:58.284Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
I really appreciate your exploring this topic with me. Feel free to continue the conversation by private email.
I have not so far experienced significant difficulty winning women I go on to continue to respect. What most rapidly decreases my respect for a woman (and the same thing goes for all my friends and indeed, if I am not forgetting something, all human being or at least all human being who were raised in the Western tradition) is habitual lying, particularly, lying in order to obtain a personal benefit (fraud in other words) or other violations of basic ethical standards around which there has been widespread agreement (at least in the West) for thousands of years.
The girlfriend of 5 years who just dumped me? More probably than not, she never lied to me. But part of the reason for that is that I would regularly proclaim to her that I have never lied to her in the slightest matter (which was and remains true) and that I expect the same behavior from her to me. If she did lie to me, almost certainly it was in a series of "misdemeanors" or petty matters. I did not observe her to lie to any of her friends as far as I can recall. If she did, it was something small. It is extremely _un_likely that she would ever do serious harm to any of her many friends through fraud or other clear violations of the basic ethical standards. My first girlfriend (of 3 years) I am almost sure never lied to me or cheated me in any way. The government and major corporations? Different story. But never anything "actionable" (anything that could result in her getting sued or prosecuted.) Before my first girlfriend, I considered defrauding the government or a major corporation just as bad as defrauding a person. So that first relationship definitely got me to become more tolerant of that if it is minor. I still think people should treat fraud of major corporations as just as bad as fraud on a individual, but my first relationship got me to face the fact that most people -- and most "good" (ethical, worth befriending) people do not see it the way I see it.
This brings up the issue of self-deception because some people are so stained by self-deception that they cannot even tell that they are committing a sophisticated fraud, because their tendency towards self-deception (and to "willful ignorance) is so strong that are just incapable of, e.g., seeing a conflict from the other person's point of view. By "a conflict" I mean a negative-sum game where the winner is determined by which player is successful in imposing on the people involved (the two players and any third parties like for example the judge in a court case) an interpretation or frame of the facts favorable to themselves. I used to be very intolerant of self-deception or willful ignorance, but lately I have noticed a softening and I intend to continue to soften my intolerance of it because the reason for my historical intolerance might easily have been the fact that I was severely burned by self-deception and willful ignorance in my childhood. So was my latest girlfriend, which is probably one of the things that made us compatible. ("Both our mothers were ostriches," is how she put it.) But the point that I want the reader to take away is that the experience of being in a relation for 5 years with a women who shared my aversion to self-deception is that I have come to think that I could tolerate more self-deception in my next girlfriend. Well, more precisely, tolerate it but watch what happens, and if I get burned or I see anyone else get burned by the self-deception, then go back to my old level of intolerance. That is, my requirements or "compatibility expectations" have loosened a bit, which I consider a very valuable thing because it increase the set of people I can have deep personal relationships with.
I could go on for a long time, but enough! To summarize, what I need to respect a girlfriend is basically that she adheres to the same standards I expect of anyone else I interact with -- except that her adherence and the consistency of that adherence is more important to me that the adherence of, say, someone with whom I am involved in a commercial transaction.
Replies from: Douglas_Knight↑ comment by Douglas_Knight · 2009-10-09T05:23:27.700Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
Let's talk about lying! It is a topic very much like dating, but without dividing people.
You talk about thousands of years of consensus on lying, yet you also talk about learning that most people, even most "good people" disagree with you. I suspect I'm just not parsing something here, but the need for careful parsing seems like a bad sign.
I'd like to hear more about self-deception about lying. I think most people don't notice most lying that they do, having put it in some other bucket. But that looks to me to be a very different belief than your belief about self-deception. I'd think that only people who want to express righteous indignation about lying (like you) would need to self-deceive.
↑ comment by Vladimir_Nesov · 2009-10-07T13:30:58.944Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
Maybe I should move it out of this thread and top-level it or something
I think you should.
↑ comment by wedrifid · 2009-10-07T09:21:24.751Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
Edit: Wow, this got long. Maybe I should move it out of this thread and top-level it or something...
Trim the first bit and that sounds like a good idea!
Replies from: spriteless↑ comment by spriteless · 2009-10-07T13:09:59.620Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
Indeed, I know I would be more likely to actually read a thoughtful post than a funny chatlog post on the subject.
comment by wedrifid · 2009-10-06T23:31:48.479Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
If eight of your friends are involved in massive unpleasant social drama
... then my first step is to admit that they have a problem. In times past, I may not have noticed that distinction, to the detriment of my decision making. I say this to emphasise just how important the step of identifying the problem is. If I neglected this step I may jump straight into 'dramatic' tasks without thinking.
Once I realize that my problem is "something is getting on my nerves" I can begin looking for solutions. Whether that be quashing social conflict or reassessing my personal boundaries.
Replies from: Alicorn↑ comment by Alicorn · 2009-10-07T02:43:14.109Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
I used that as an example because the problem I had that prompted this train of thought was a bunch of social drama, in which I was a catalyst but not (except voluntarily in my attempt to find a solution) a participant. It seemed quite clear to me (in a way I'll get to in the next post in the sequence) that I needed to solve the problem of social drama, even if I didn't hold myself responsible for it or, strictly speaking, need to involve myself in it.
comment by Morendil · 2009-10-07T08:21:12.441Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
I like the definition given in Gause and Weinberg's "Are Your Lights On", a book I'd recommend to anyone thinking about the topics in this post: "A problem is a difference between things as desired and things as perceived."
Sometimes the resolution involves bringing "things" (i.e. reality) in line with our desires, after we (correctly) perceive it to be different from the desired reality. This will normally involve tasks. (We usually speak of a "project" if we envision many tasks, in particular if they have a hierarchical structure, in particular if we're aware we don't know all of the tasks.)
Sometimes too, perhaps more often than we think, the resolution involves bringing our desires in line with reality; or correcting our perceptions, so that the problem is dissolved rather than solved. Not all problem are solved by turning them into tasks, in other words.
An extremely common failure mode of human planners is to jump to solutions, and systematically these are task-solutions. If the first step is to declare that you have a problem, maybe the second step is to frame a problem statement.
comment by Psychohistorian · 2009-10-07T00:55:22.965Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
This is an interesting idea, though I'm not sure if it's terribly useful.. Here's a summary that may make more sense for some readers. The examples are entertaining, but they may obfuscate the central point a little.
-A "task" is where you have some goal, D, and some series of operations, A, B, and C that will result in the attainment of this goal. All you have to do is actually carry out those operations and you should attain your goal.
-A "problem" is where you have goal D, but you do not know any series of operations that you could potentially perform to attain that goal. You need some additional information so that you can understand what procedures will yield D as a result. Once you have this information, you no longer have a problem; you have a task, and you merely need to perform the series of operations and you'll have D.
I think this gets the central point across effectively.
Replies from: Alicorn, Zvi, RobinZ↑ comment by Alicorn · 2009-10-07T02:39:44.261Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
Sometimes a problem doesn't have a goal so much as an... ungoal. Basically, an attitude towards a state of affairs that is "I want ~that". That seems awfully broad to classify as a goal. Tasks do properly have goals in mind; not all problems do.
Replies from: billswift, pjeby↑ comment by pjeby · 2009-10-08T00:02:55.721Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
Sometimes a problem doesn't have a goal so much as an... ungoal. Basically, an attitude towards a state of affairs that is "I want ~that". That seems awfully broad to classify as a goal.
Right; in addition to not narrowing down the search space, our hardware doesn't process "run away from bad thing" in the same way as it does "search for good thing"; in particular, the former induces stress responses that were designed for short-term activities like escaping predators or territorial fights. To get optimal long-term motivation, you need to be seeking something good, rather than trying to escape something bad.
What's more, simply reversing "~that" (e.g. turning "not be broke" into "have money") doesn't always work either. In Robert Fritz's book, The Path Of Least Resistance, he points out that the reason most people fail at achieving goals is that their goals are simply rephrased versions of their problems. The key issue, he says, is attitude; merely changing the words around doesn't automatically switch you from a problem-escaping mindset to a goal-seeking one.
That is not the original point your post is making, of course; I just wanted to add that even if you narrow down the search space to a specific target, there may also be an attitude issue required to prevent akrasia due to ego depletion -- the most common result of operating in the problem-escaping mindset while trying to achieve a long-term goal.
↑ comment by Zvi · 2009-10-07T22:19:06.258Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
That raises the question of the common case where you do have a set of operations [A,B,C] that will result in attainment of the goal but where there is a potentially better solution out there potentially worth trying to find.
Thus the person in question has a choice. She can treat this as a task, or she can treat this as a problem. Thus wouldn't we define a "task" as where you have some goal D and selected a potential set of actions that will (may?) result in attainment of this goal. However a problem remains a problem even if such a task exists until such time as that task is selected to be used; merely having a task available does not mean you no longer have a problem.
↑ comment by RobinZ · 2009-10-07T19:59:33.373Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
Additional information or additional resources, if I read the article correctly.
Replies from: Psychohistorian↑ comment by Psychohistorian · 2009-10-07T21:35:32.009Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
Yes, that got left out - see my other top-level comment. I think a lack of resources is best thought of as a lack of the knowledge of how to attain such resources, which I explain in detail in another comment.
comment by DanArmak · 2009-10-06T21:42:16.708Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
Short summary:
- To achieve a goal, it's usually best to plan the entire sequence of actions in advance.
- Coming up with a really good plan is often much harder than carrying it out.
- We humans have a common failure mode where we don't stop to plan, or don't think out a plan before executing it, or even feel a problem is insoluble without having tried to come up with a plan.
- Therefore it's useful to plan explicitly, to recognize when we do and don't have a plan, and to have a good estimate of success for the plan and of each step in it.
As far as I understand, all the rest is examples. Did I miss anything?
Replies from: Richard_Kennaway, Zvi, Alicorn↑ comment by Richard_Kennaway · 2009-10-07T11:48:37.462Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
I didn't see the post as being about plans at all. Planning is vastly overrated anyway. Planning is solving the problem in your imagination, and the more steps, the less likely they are to all proceed as imagined.
Ask a car mechanic how often a repair can be completed by first planning out each thing that needs to be done, then executing the plan. My experience of doing occasional work on my car has been that it never goes exactly as described in the Haynes manual, and that's not a criticism of the manual.
↑ comment by Zvi · 2009-10-07T22:24:08.891Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
While I would say that it is more common for people to plan too little than to plan too much, I think that point one here is worded so strongly I would disagree. Most plans don't even consist of entire sequences of actions, even for very small simple tasks such as writing this comment, during which I took multiple unplanned actions including noting that I took them, none of which would have been worth planning for.
Replies from: DanArmak↑ comment by Alicorn · 2009-10-06T21:46:52.312Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
While I agree with what you have said here, it's not quite what I was getting at. I was trying to introduce some terms and point out difficulties identifying the members of the two sets, not just talk about plans. If I include anything about plans in particular in this sequence, that'll be part 3.
Replies from: CannibalSmith, DanArmak↑ comment by CannibalSmith · 2009-10-07T08:46:34.476Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
that'll be part 3
Why did you serialize the articles?
Replies from: Alicorn↑ comment by DanArmak · 2009-10-06T22:09:03.424Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
Let's add the terms to my summary: we generally start with a problem, something we're not happy about; then we design a plan to solve it; executing the plan is a task.
A plan can only have so much detail. Doing sub-tasks I didn't plan in sufficient detail, or which turned out to be unexpectedly difficult, are the remaining sub-problems. We should seek the best balance between pre-planning and deferring until a problem is encountered, and this is not trivial. Is that what you're talking about?
Otherwise, your list headed The approximate ways in which a "have to" might be a problem can be simply restated as "the cases where there is no obvious plan": when I lack procedural or propositional knowledge, or resources, which (I believe) are necessary to solve the problem. And then I can come up with a plan for when I've acquired them and go solve the sub-problem of getting what I need.
Replies from: jimrandomh, Alicorn↑ comment by jimrandomh · 2009-10-07T02:03:15.409Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
As I understood it, the purpose was to sharpen the boundary between what would otherwise be relatively fuzzy concepts, by going through the edge cases systematically. The individual facts given are all obvious, but consolidating them into a single crisp distinction is not so obvious and enables that distinction to be used elsewhere.
Replies from: Alicorncomment by CannibalSmith · 2009-10-07T08:40:24.503Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
The second sentence of the article should answer, why is it a critical faculty to consciously distinguish tasks from problems. The answer comes much later ("Because treating problems like tasks will slow you down in solving them.") and still isn't satisfactory. My first reaction is "never happens".
In other words, I've never thought about it like that before, but I'm not convinced I should have.
comment by Psychohistorian · 2009-10-07T00:57:51.697Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
This was originally part of my summary, but it didn't make sense there.
I take issue with "lack of resources" having its own category. It seems like a special case of a lack of procedural knowledge.
If I don't have bread, it's only a problem if I don't know how to get bread and I don't know how to figure out how to get bread. If my elbow is broken and I need to get milk home, the problem is not my lack of working elbows so much as my lack of knowing how to get the milk home without using the elbow. Having a working elbow would also solve the problem, but I really don't know how to instantly fix my elbow. If the fridge is full, the problem isn't the fridge being full so much as my not knowing how to organize the fridge so that there's room for the milk. If there is some constraint such that I can't take anything out of the fridge, I have an unsolvable problem, but absent such a constraint, my problem is better thought of as a lack of procedural knowledge rather than a lack of fridge space.
Of course, not all problems are solvable; if I ask you to lug a cubic meter of platinum back to your house without any mechanical assistance, it really doesn't matter how toned your elbows are; you aren't going to be able to do it - that much platinum would weigh about fifty thousand pounds. It's a problem that cannot be solved, because no procedure exists (within the given constraints) to obtain the desired result. If I ask you to make yourself immortal, it is quite possible that no procedure will accomplish that end within the constraints of reality; i.e. you may have a truly unsolvable problem.
Replies from: Alicorn↑ comment by Alicorn · 2009-10-07T02:38:48.770Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
Some forms of resource lack can overlap with procedural knowledge lack, but in some cases the resource is... I'm going to use the word "immediate", even though that's not really optimal vocab for the purpose. But sometimes the needed resource is "immediate", by which I mean to stab in the general direction of something that has to be directly employed in the solution of the problem. Money is a good example of this. Sure, you could frame the issue as not knowing how to get money, but it seems more natural to call it an issue of not actually having money, because the money is to be used immediately.
Replies from: Psychohistorian↑ comment by Psychohistorian · 2009-10-07T19:31:57.210Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
Sure, you could frame the issue as not knowing how to get money
The solution to "I don't have enough money" is, generally, to figure out, "How do I get the money I need?" If this is possible, it requires some form of procedural knowledge - you have to know how to get a job, or how to attract investors, or how to rob a bank. Since the shortage can only be resolved by getting more knowledge and then employing it, it seems inappropriate to say the resource is the problem.
"How do I solve this problem without that money?" would also be an appropriate solution, i.e. finding a "taskification" that does not require money as a sub-task. This, again, is knowledge-based.
comment by Bo102010 · 2009-10-07T01:29:39.594Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
Even if you know of possible solutions to a problem, it doesn't become a task until the solutions are good solutions.
That is, if you have all the knowledge to complete a task, you still have a problem if your actions will lead to negative side effects.
comment by HughRistik · 2009-10-07T06:51:07.977Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
What I'm wondering is whether the problem-task distinction represents different categories? Or different points on the ends of a continuum?
Some types of problems may resist being completely taskified, particularly unstructured socializing and other improvisation-heavy tasks. Successful execution in those areas requires being more in-the-moment rather than following pre-defined procedure. You could say that the end of the procedure is to "be in the moment," or "act on your feelings," but that's still awfully general and would stretch the notions of task and procedure.
Nevertheless, even in improvisational problems, you can apply heuristics to inspire you, even though you can't define the procedure completely in advance. That's why I think we might be better off talking of a continuum of our ability to define problems into tasks. How would improvisational problems fit into your framework?
Replies from: Alicorn↑ comment by Alicorn · 2009-10-07T14:11:42.539Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
Improvisational problems, as you call them, can be chalked up to procedural knowledge failure: if what you need to do is think on your feet, and you don't know how to do that, then that's the problem there. Socialization and other improvisation-heavy tasks - like, say, jazz piano, my style of cooking, or other activities that require on-the-fly context-dependent adjustments - depend on knowing how to detect, interpret, and adjust for those contextual changes. These things can be learned, although perhaps not with the fluency of a "native speaker" of those activities.
comment by Jonii · 2009-10-07T01:55:12.161Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
But for every task, person wants to perform it as efficiently as possible, thus rendering that task into a problem in the sense that it was used in this post. This is why I think distinguishing the two like that might be misleading.
Replies from: Alicorn↑ comment by Alicorn · 2009-10-07T02:35:07.666Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
Sometimes, the cost of figuring out the most efficient way to do something is higher than the cost of doing the thing less efficiently. I could probably kill an afternoon plotting elaborate kitchen choreography to make a really efficient sandwich - or I could just make a sandwich in some way that seems natural and not too roundabout.
comment by ajayjetti · 2009-10-19T13:46:27.101Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
I think lot of people indirectly follow the things written in the post--I certainly do. What we actually try to do all the time is: Not try to control things which cannot be, we have to accept certain things are beyond us, and we deal with things which we think we can deal with, isn't it?
comment by Kaj_Sotala · 2009-10-07T11:06:47.031Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
I think the terminology that's familiar to many LW readers calls "problems", "goals", and "tasks", "subgoals". Framing it that way, there isn't a difference between tasks and problems as such - a task/subgoal is merely what you get when you break down the problem/goal to smaller parts.
It seems to me you can move between the two framings by simply changing the way you describe the top-level objectives. If the top-level objectives are undesirable things that you want to change, they're problems. If they're desirable things you want to see happen, they're goals.
comment by pjeby · 2009-10-07T23:51:08.905Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
I think it might be more useful to use the term "goal" instead of "task", since task implies a series of steps -- a sequence of operations that change the state of the world, whereas a "problem" is a state of the world.
IOW, task = goal state - problem state. (Except it's not really subtraction, because there are potentially an infinite number of task sequences that will get you to the goal state from the current state... which is another reason why I think that maybe "goal" is a better word here.)
Goldratt's "Theory of Constraints" (used heavily in manufacturing and other types of businesses) includes a set of "thinking processes" -- semi-formal planning tools based on boolean logic, that have an excellent breakdown of these notions into a very-reduced form. A couple of good books on them include "Thinking For A Change", by Lisa Scheinkopf, and "Goldratt's Theory Of Constraints", by H. William Dettmer.
There are also a fair number of TOC tutorials online, but I can't remember the last time I saw one that actually explained the logical basis of the tools, or things like the Categories of Legitimate Reservation (which are used to validate the logic of your problem analysis and plans).
comment by Dagon · 2009-10-07T19:25:51.974Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
I'm not sure I agree with this distinction as any more than one of degree. Both tasks and problems are differences between the perceived state of the world and a desired state of the world.
As you describe it, "tasks" tend to be plans of action which you expect to have acceptible cost for their probability of success in moving the world state to the desired one. "problems" are just situations where the cost of the actions you're considering are too high for their probability of success.
I believe that both cost of planned actions and probability of success in moving to a desired world state are pretty close to continuous. There's no reasonable threshold between tasks and problems other than "unwilling to proceed", and even that is an action plan - "do without the desired change".
For BOTH tasks and problems, there may be alternate paths with higher probability of success or lower cost. There may not be. There may be alternate acceptible (or preferable!) destination world states for which there are better or easier to find plans of action. There may not be.
Replies from: HughRistik, Cyan↑ comment by HughRistik · 2009-10-07T20:06:31.013Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
"problems" are just situations where the cost of the actions you're considering are too high for their probability of success.
I think it may be a bit more than that. An example of what Alicorn is calling a "problem" might be where you can't even figure out what actions you should be taking in the first place. Or you lack resources or knowledge to actually carry out those actions.
Replies from: Dagon↑ comment by Dagon · 2009-10-07T20:55:08.179Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
Hmm, I may need to find better words to express this idea. each possible action you take has some probability of being part your desired future world-state . You may not assign a high probability to any action you've considered, but that just rolls into the decision of what to do.
For EVERYTHING you've labeled "problem", there are actions you might take and/or goal changes you might make. Same for "tasks". Many times, that action is "research", which has sub-actions like "find an interweb terminal" or "ask someone", or "complain on Less Wrong", which has sub-actions, which have sub-actions, etc. You might categorize some of these as "tasks" or "problems", but that categorization is arbitrary.
Lacking knowledge vs lacking a sandwich is NOT a binary distinction. It's a distinction in costs, duration, and probability of success of various actions you might take.
Lacking resources is even more obviously not distinct: task: get resources. subtask: find someone to pay you. subtask: learn a valuable skill. etc... So: not a problem, right? It takes time and is not guaranteed to work, but both of those are true for "acquire bread to make sandwich" too.
The continuum of cost of actions and probability of success has no obvious inflection point to objectively call "problem" vs "task".
↑ comment by Cyan · 2009-10-07T19:57:53.835Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
"problems" are just situations where the cost of the actions you're considering are too high for their probability of success.
I don't think that's it. The distinction between tasks and problems is well-expressed in the idiom of Eliezer's post on Possibility and Could-ness: achieving the GOAL state is a problem until the could-ness algorithm has managed to label it "reachable from START", at which point it becomes a task. (This makes the problem/task status of any particular GOAL a property of the current state of the could-ness algorithm, which is as it should be.)
I think Alicorn intends to offer observations which might improve the execution of our could-ness algorithms. The current post points out that due to the similarity of language we use to describe tasks and problems, it's common for people who have problems to fail to recognize that fact and not even start their could-ness algorithms.
Replies from: Dagon↑ comment by Dagon · 2009-10-07T20:17:49.139Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
I think the reason for the common lingual similarity in treating problems and tasks is the ACTUAL similarity. Could-ness, or reachability of a theoretical (alternate past or unknown future) world-state is not binary. It's a probability function related to likelihood of theoretical actions and likelihood of various results of those actions.
If your could-ness function returns one bit of information, it's too simple to be very useful. And any theory of decision-making based on it is equally oversimplified.
I do think there's value in exploring this as a (false, but perhaps novel) quantization. Choosing between physical movement vs searching for alternate plans vs abandoning/altering goals (all of which are action, but feel somewhat different) is a real part of any decision theory.
I don't think the quantization is real. The chose of what to do next (perform some physical action, think about alternate strategies, or rethink goals (or change focus to a different goal)) is valid and necessary for things labeled tasks as well as those labeled problems.
Replies from: Cyan↑ comment by Cyan · 2009-10-08T00:01:27.828Z · LW(p) · GW(p)
If you want to consider probabilities other than epsilon and 1 - epsilon then the distinction becomes: setting up and approximating the solution to the right Bellman equation is the problem stage; carrying out the indicated actions is the task stage.