Comment by remizidae on Go F*** Someone · 2020-01-16T02:08:27.681Z · score: -4 (9 votes) · LW · GW
It’s looking at accomplished women dropping out of demanding careers to raise kids as sexism. Could it be that someone may prefer to raise a family to grinding 70 hours a week at the office once they don’t need to worry about money? I certainly would! But if the only thing you count is personal status[2] then it would seem to you that these women are being cheated out of something by the evil patriarchy.

This is a remarkably shallow way of looking at the issue. The fact that some 95%+ of people who drop out of the workforce to raise children are women should put paid to the idea that the patriarchy has nothing to do with it. Sure, work can be stressful--but men feel stress too, and somehow men don't make this same destructive "choice" to drop out of the workforce in favor of total dependence on their spouses.

Comment by remizidae on What plausible beliefs do you think could likely get someone diagnosed with a mental illness by a psychiatrist? · 2020-01-15T21:18:37.400Z · score: 23 (5 votes) · LW · GW

The manner in which the belief is expressed is likely more important than the belief itself, especially if the belief itself is...uncommonly true. “I went to an elite Special Forces school,” “I’m going to die in six months,” “The FBI is following me,” “my father is trying to kill me,” are all true for some people, but expressing them with inappropriate affect or in circumstances where those beliefs seem doubtful or irrelevant might make you seem deluded. Scott Alexander wrote about this...

Comment by remizidae on Illness anxiety disorder: how to become more rational? · 2020-01-03T22:14:25.489Z · score: 13 (8 votes) · LW · GW

Action cures fear. Stop ruminating and do the thing. Ultrasounds are always expensive IME—still, if you can come up with the money it seems worth it.

In the longer term, one thing that has helped me is to list all my nagging fears, along with their outcomes. I can go back and see how, often, the thing I was afraid of didn’t exist at all or wasn’t nearly as bad as I feared.

Comment by remizidae on An Emergency Fund for Effective Altruists · 2019-12-28T22:57:26.608Z · score: 1 (1 votes) · LW · GW

Or those who don't itemize deductions (most non-homeowners).

Comment by remizidae on An Emergency Fund for Effective Altruists · 2019-12-28T22:31:19.023Z · score: 1 (1 votes) · LW · GW

Explain how this would be better than having the effective altruist himself or herself fund an emergency fund before they start donating to charity.

I understand you are saying that pooling the money could mean less money is kept in the fund and more can be donated, but I'm not sure that benefit outweighs the cost. While the amount of an emergency fund is the subject of some debate, IMO $10,000 per person is a decent ballpark. Say you could get that result with only $5000 per person with your proposed pool. Then does that $5000 difference outweigh 1) administrative costs, 2) cost of litigation over payouts, and 3) cost to the altruist of losing the ability to decide how much money is set aside and what happens to it?

The "tick the box" approach would lead to quickly depleting the fund. Instead, you'd have to set limits on what counts as an "emergency," and expect a whole lot of debate (and litigation) over that. A medical procedure, new car, home repair, or adopting a child are all examples of things where people might or might not consider "emergencies," depending on their personal philosophies and circumstances.

Comment by remizidae on Vaccine... Help? Deprogramming? Something? · 2019-12-28T00:27:59.773Z · score: 6 (4 votes) · LW · GW

Most vaccines are made without (or can be made without) thimerosal. In addition, thimerosal is safe.

Comment by remizidae on Should I floss? · 2019-12-24T19:46:11.225Z · score: 1 (1 votes) · LW · GW

Well, there’s a doubtful benefit, but the cost of flossing is very low: less than $10 a year in flossing supplies. The time cost is negligible because you can combine flossing with other activities you’d be spending time on anyway, like reading or watching videos. YMMV, but I don’t find it unpleasant—mildly satisfying in fact.Also, be aware that if you find it unpleasant, that may change as you get used to it. So the cost benefit calculation winds up positive for most people, although maybe not for you if you find it very unpleasant and that doesn’t go away after some time.

Comment by remizidae on If giving unsolicited feedback was a social norm, what feedback would you often give? · 2019-12-07T12:34:58.451Z · score: 4 (3 votes) · LW · GW

Stop talking. Talk quietly. Stop interrupting people.

Comment by remizidae on What makes a good life? This is my map. · 2019-11-22T19:25:38.946Z · score: 1 (1 votes) · LW · GW

Why does it matter that “i am sensitive to others’ needs”? If I’m happy being selfish, that shouldn’t matter.

Comment by remizidae on What are some unpopular (non-normative) opinions that you hold? · 2019-10-22T18:56:35.505Z · score: 9 (3 votes) · LW · GW

Secondhand smoke is mostly not harmful.

Comment by remizidae on Could we solve this email mess if we all moved to paid emails? · 2019-08-11T21:55:15.984Z · score: 0 (2 votes) · LW · GW

You should probably say at the beginning of this what “paid email” is. I figured it out by the end, but it’s not a well-known term.

Comment by remizidae on Do you do weekly or daily reviews? What are they like? · 2019-08-07T00:07:13.465Z · score: 5 (5 votes) · LW · GW

What feels most important to me:

1) Having everything I need to remember in one place, not in my brain

2) Being cued to check and add to my system regularly

3) To-do lists consisting of small, actionable steps, not big, diffuse, intimidating tasks

My system is about ten years old; it was inspired by Getting Things Done. I basically write everything down in a notebook. I have weekly, daily, monthly and long-term sections.

Advantages of using paper are that I don't need to make any conscious effort to check the notebook; having the physical object triggers me to check it regularly. Also, I can use the notebook at times when I don't want to be distracted by a phone or computer. Disadvantages are that I need to carry more objects, and if I lose the notebook, there is no real backup.

Comment by remizidae on Nutrition is Satisficing · 2019-07-16T21:44:52.598Z · score: 8 (4 votes) · LW · GW

Food is satisficing too. I found it liberating to realize I don’t need to come up with a new meal every day. Food doesn’t have to be exciting or novel or an amazing taste sensation most of the time.

Minor point of disagreement: unless you are actively working to build muscle, you don’t have to worry about protein. The vast majority of people in Western societies already get more than enough protein. Perhaps this is different for vegans, but I’ll let them weigh in if they choose.

Comment by remizidae on How much background technical knowledge do LW readers have? · 2019-07-11T18:54:06.098Z · score: 6 (4 votes) · LW · GW

I notice a lot of people using programming jargon/codes to discuss things that have nothing to do with programming, and it always makes their point needlessly harder to understand.

Comment by remizidae on Personal musings on Individualism and Empathy · 2019-06-07T23:49:50.030Z · score: 4 (2 votes) · LW · GW

This would make a lot more sense with some examples of what it means to fail to "mark most significant personal information about others as salient, unless I'm explicitly told to keep it in mind."

Comment by remizidae on Nutritional Supplements: A Potted Guide? · 2019-04-22T14:25:41.351Z · score: 3 (3 votes) · LW · GW

The first question to ask, I think, is what you are trying to accomplish with supplements. Is there a specific problem you hope supplements could help with, or are you just trying to improve on the baseline of human functioning?

This could affect what supplements you want—anti-anxiety drugs are very popular, but it's not clear you'd want them unless you have problematic anxiety. It also could affect how much you're willing to invest—if you're struggling with a serious problem, spending more money/time is probably justified than if you just want marginal improvements to baseline.

Comment by remizidae on Sunscreen. When? Why? Why not? · 2018-12-28T19:50:09.093Z · score: 10 (3 votes) · LW · GW

No, that's not what social proof means. I'm saying a throwaway comment by a non-expert has very little probative value. Now, I'd give it more weight if Scott were actually to write a post about this topic concluding that we should all stop wearing sunscreen, because knowing him there probably would be some serious thought and research put into that. But the post you linked to basically says "it's more complicated than you might think, but the consensus is still wear sunscreen."

Comment by remizidae on Sunscreen. When? Why? Why not? · 2018-12-28T12:37:10.850Z · score: 4 (5 votes) · LW · GW

Well, weigh a throwaway comment by Scott against the consensus of dermatologists and skin cancer specialists.

Comment by remizidae on Sunscreen. When? Why? Why not? · 2018-12-28T12:36:37.257Z · score: 6 (5 votes) · LW · GW

If you're worried about Vitamin D deficiency, it's quite easy to supplement. Why not do that (IF you're deficient) and wear sunscreen?

As someone who actually tries to follow dermatological recommendations for sunscreen use, it's pretty hard. You have to remember it every time you leave the house, be motivated enough to go through a tedious and bad-smelling task, cover *all* the exposed skin. If you're outside for a significant time, you have to remember to bring the sunscreen and reapply every hour. So, it's hard to believe that most people who spend time outside and wear sunscreen are actually doing it enough to avoid D exposure.

My read of the research is that the controllable risk factors for D deficiency are never going outside + poor diet + not supplementing, rather than overzealous sunscreen use.

Comment by remizidae on In what ways are holidays good? · 2018-12-28T12:32:11.651Z · score: 4 (3 votes) · LW · GW
  • Why are holidays more relaxing than just lying in bed at home and paying somebody else to take care of you?

They're really not. If we just wanted to relax, we would continue our daily routines with fewer obligations. Holidays are about seeing new things, often accompanied by earned relaxation. E.g. it might be relaxing to lay around on the beach, but it'll be more satisfying if you've first gone to some effort to get there, explore, learn things.

  • Does visiting family count as a holiday in the relevant sense?

I wouldn't count a family visit as a vacation as it doesn't (typically) mean visiting a new place. Whether it's relaxing would depend on your family.

  • How much money should I be willing to spend on holidays?

Start with something very cheap and see whether you like it.

In general, people on vacation tend to pursue the same activities that people not on vacation do. So, if you like eating in restaurants, drinking, talking to strangers, going to museums, hiking, biking, reading, walking around cities, going to concerts, or spending time with friends in your normal free time, you'll probably like doing the same things on vacation.