If giving unsolicited feedback was a social norm, what feedback would you often give?

post by Mati_Roy (MathieuRoy) · 2019-12-04T13:11:50.108Z · score: 9 (4 votes) · LW · GW · No comments

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    11 Dave Lindbergh
    5 G Gordon Worley III
    4 remizidae
    4 Alexei
    4 Dagon
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answer by Dave Lindbergh · 2019-12-04T17:35:36.939Z · score: 11 (6 votes) · LW · GW

"You are spending more money than you can afford.

This will result in unnecessary stress and misery in your life.

You will be happier in the long run if you reduce your standard of living to a level that's easily sustainable for you and put the remainder of your money into a substantial financial buffer for yourself."

comment by robertskmiles · 2019-12-10T11:33:19.736Z · score: 11 (3 votes) · LW · GW

"Annual income twenty pounds, annual expenditure nineteen nineteen and six, result happiness. Annual income twenty pounds, annual expenditure twenty pounds ought and six, result misery."
-- Charles Dickens, from David Copperfield

comment by MoritzG · 2019-12-05T11:57:46.054Z · score: 1 (1 votes) · LW · GW

"This will result in unnecessary stress and misery in your life."

LOL, that is very close to what I told a girl once. You would think it is the most sensitive and reasonable thing to tell a person and a good way to put it. She did not call me names, but was not thankful either.

answer by remizidae · 2019-12-07T12:34:58.451Z · score: 4 (3 votes) · LW · GW

Stop talking. Talk quietly. Stop interrupting people.

answer by Alexei · 2019-12-05T05:27:49.615Z · score: 4 (2 votes) · LW · GW

Your decision / advice is rooted in anxiety / fear. This is much more about you than about the thing you’re talking about.

answer by Dagon · 2019-12-04T18:51:15.830Z · score: 4 (2 votes) · LW · GW

I think I would be giving a lot of feedback on others' feedback: "your choice of feedback topic and presentation style is unhelpful". But probably with fewer and more impactful words.

answer by bbleeker · 2019-12-04T15:15:49.926Z · score: 3 (2 votes) · LW · GW

OK, I'll go first. I'd correct people's grammar and spelling a lot, and I'd tell overweight people how to lose weight.

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