Break your habits: be more empirical

A minor addition:

Try a thing you haven't done three times. Once, to get over the fear of doing it. Twice, to learn how to do it. And a third time to figure out whether you like it or not.

-- Virgil Thomson

Very well said. I might go so far as to point out that, roughly speaking, variety -> mental stimulation -> pleasure -> one source of utility. I would therefore anticipate that doing the same thing all the time is suboptimal for almost everybody, except in cases where the utility lost by the specific change obviously exceeds the potential gain from the mental stimulation. (I don't need to get shot in the stomach in order to make sure it's not more fun than what I normally do.)

I used to know someone who, when he was younger, had precisely this problem. He had learned that he liked cheeseburgers a lot, and therefore could see no reason to eat anything else when he had a choice. He went so far as to request them when he was at a restaurant where they weren't on the menu. He grew out of this, eventually, but I'm not sure he ever grew out of the mindset that led to it.

Also, this seems like a good place to recommend a specific technique along these lines. A while ago I made a list of activites and posted it on my wall with the heading "More Useful Things to Do Than Fucking Around on the Internet." (It's my bedroom and I can be profane on the wall if I want to.) Entries include chores (laundry), things I mean to do more often but don't get around to (call a friend), things I forget about when I'm looking for something to do (go to the library), skills I want to learn (knitting), projects I have in progress (clothes making/mending), etc. The point was to prevent myself from ever claiming that I don't have anything good to do. There's always something good to do. I just sometimes need to be reminded what it is.

I not only agree, I would add another reason to do this: Variety is often undervalued for its own sake, and often things that you enjoy have decreasing marginal returns over time. This results in a correct initial decision to end a search that over time becomes incorrect.

Thanks for the short and uplifting post.

The habit-breaking you advocate has other benefits beyond just providing more data. Novelty can be a strong simulator of creativity, and making a habit of breaking habits can lead to a domino effect of positive benefits. Information in unrelated fields can lead to the type of atypical connections one needs for new insights. It also may just be a positive overall brain stimulant.

Nicely written and useful post. In the context of LW, the singular take on Alice behaviour as arising from aversion to non-optimal situations seems less strange than it might in a more general arena.

However (without having data to hand), I would suggest that a significant proportion of people in the world whose activity patterns (and even internal reasoning patterns) match Alice', would in fact be behaving that way as a result of fear, rather than even-handed assessment of experience.

In which case the prescription might be naive.

I completely agree with the premise, and this is definitely one of the most inspiring posts we've had recently.

You have inspired me to try something different here. I'm going to agree with you.

It is interesting though, in a forum where some people are very concerned with what it takes to put an objective function into reflective equilibrium, you point out that objective functions are rarely in "experiential equilibrium" - an agent can't rule out that it might like something until it has tried it.

This brings to mind some scary ideas regarding the harm that might be done by an immature AI experimenting with its powers before it eventually achieves its adult "equilibrium."

This is a rather simple idea, but it's a rationality technique I think often under considered (I know I hadn't considered it until just now). It's very unlikely any of us have found a lifestyle that's optimally enjoyable, even if we've found one very enjoyable. This post works as a constant reminder to try things because trying things is how we learn about them. Thus, when it's inexpensive, "why not?" should be our reflex reaction, but this post may make some of us realize that "why?" is our current one.

It's also a perfect case of being "science-y" in what the average person sees as an "un-science-y" domain (namely: things we find enjoyable). It may not raise the sanity waterline in of itself, but I think this post is still a good example of epistemic rationality turning into instrumental rationality.

I recommend a related essay by Hayek, "Competition as a Discovery Procedure."

Ok. Some things that I should try:

• Watching a horror movie? (Though I resonate with this recent xkcd.)
• Reading the first chapter of books that don't seem interesting, and seeing what I learn anyway?
• Going on a formal "old fashioned" date.
• Processing my emotions via reframing and similar instead of via Focusing (on reflection, I think I would benefit from trying a bunch of ways to process stress.)
• Reframing and self-influence moves.
• CBT and TAPs.
• Focusing and IDC.
• Painting something.
• Doing a very different kind of work than I'm used to?
• Doing the accounting.
• Doing something that's very outward facing: lots of interviews or schmoozing something.
• Writing marketing copy.
• Try and teach a CFAR unit with Val's style.

One thing that I notice is that I feel disinclined to try new things in places where I don't just have a thing that works, I have implicit or simple theory about why it works.

I think that Salsa dancing in a club atmosphere actually helps with the problem of overthinking. A follow who thinks consciously about her movement isn't able to respond fast enough. If you want to consciously react to stimuli you simply need at least halve a second for the mental processing. Because body tension travels faster than nerve impulses it's even better when some decisions are made by neurons outside the brain.

If she overthinks dancing, she won't be able to respond to subtle changes of the leads that derivate from the patterns that she remembers.

Inspiring! I spotted two typos:

(Note: if you're impulsive, or have terrible self dicipline, this post might not be for you.)

suggesting that Alice should "turn off her bain".

(Note: in aspects of life where you're impulsive, don't introspect enough, or have poor self discipline, this post is probably advice in the wrong direction.)

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Go do something you wouldn't normally do :)

This post could almost be read as 'Make new habits' as much as 'Break your habits', though it's more focused on easing people into it.

Moderately related: a blog post by Ethan Zuckerman on the architecture of serendipity. Zuckerman is talking more specifically about enginnering serendipity in media, consuming information in such a way that you have a more diverse selection, rather than only consuming what you already think will appeal to you. But the point seems similar: we should build in opportunities for serendipity, breaking up a routine that is locally optimal to enable greater gains.

I should have seen this earlier! Not that its point is new or revolutionary, but sounds like I needed to hear it.

Good post, but why the note for the impulsive or poorly disciplined? The reasons I can think of apply to everybody, just more so for more impulsive or less disciplined people. Namely, the planning fallacy, and forgetting to do the analysis (or tossing the old data).

I would just say to take the outside view when evaluating how likely it is that an experiment is harmful, and to establish criteria beforehand for deciding a measure of success or failure for the experiment, including a time at which you will do the evaluation. That applies to everybody.

This makes sense, and isn't the sort of thing I would necessarily think of on my own. We will see if this leads to higher quality of life; I'm eager to try the experiment!

As for the obviousness, for every person who writes this sort of thing off as trivial, someone else may well benefit. We shall see.

A little obvious (to me perhaps, without adjusting for mind projection), but beautifully written.

You might be interested to learn that there is a large literature devoted to quantifying this effect: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Multi-armed_bandit

This makes me recall the post from Ben Kuhn's blog (benkuhn.net) explaining how he realised he was almost only doing things he was good at and deciding to make himself do more things he is terrible at. "Thinking too much" and keeping the same habits appear to many people as a way to reduce chances of failing at things and give a feeling of being more in control of one's life experiences.

Her five closest friends must have it rough. If she only watches movies that the majority of them recommend, and never contributes her own unique movie-watching experiences for her friends' benefit, than she has established a "take... and take" relationship, a balance unfavorable to everyone but herself. If the rest of her social interactions are patterned the same way, then she is a social parasite.

Although, making movie recommendations may well just be a trivial aspect of being a friend. Far more important is if she comforts them when comfort is needed, recognizing her "altruistic" actions to be an investment to secure comfort for herself in the future. Unless she's too analytical to allow herself to feel negative emotions, rendering that service unnecessary.