Misdiagnosed Asperger's syndrome is ruining my life.

Wow, this was an ill-conceived post. It can be said, at least, that I was an emotional wreck at the time.

Of course I have no such problems now

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I can definitely prove that there is nothing psychologically wrong with me.

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I feel almost as if I'm becoming mentally ill.

Your self-contradictions are a bad sign, and if you feel you are becoming mentally ill then I really don't think you are fit to join the army. Whatever mental illness you might have, I doubt seeing combat will make it better.

Sorry to be blunt but this is too important for to mince my words.

I have no particular knowledge of Israel or the IDF. However, in other countries with conscription, most people do not want to be conscripted, and many greatly exaggerate their medical history and current symptoms in order to be excused on medical grounds. They are often assisted in this matter by sympathetic doctors and health professionals who are socialised by their medical training to care about their patients rather than the abstract goal of maximising conscript numbers.

It may well be that the doctor thought he was doing you a favour by giving you a medical exemption from conscription. I don't know whether you can re-apply, but if so, perhaps you could emphasise to your doctor that you really want to be called up to the IDF.

Secondly, why do you want to join the IDF so badly? Are there other ways you can achieve the same goals? You state that your goal is to join the army, but your location is also stated to be in the USA. Could you perhaps volunteer for the US military?

This isn't a diagnosis or a strong opinion by any means, but you do come across quite 'off' with that post. Just maybe the psychiatrist evaluating you picked up on that? "Ruining your life", feeling as if you're becoming mentally ill, going to explode if you can't talk to anyone etc. You're right, this really isn't the right forum for solving your particular problem with a foreign army. Yet you posted it here anyways.

For the subject matter, try finding someone knowledgeable on Reddit, there are plenty of subfora there which might be relevant. More importantly, if this is actually "ruining your life", get a specialized lawyer. This is the obvious and most important advice. Noone here will be able to tell you with certainty about the appeals process (if there even is one), the filing deadlines and what have you. You need a legal expert. So go pay for an expert.

Hope things will work out for you.

I can definitely prove that there is nothing psychologically wrong with me.

That's a silly claim. You can't prove how you will react under the face of the pressesures of war. You probably can neither prove that their algorithm for deciding is wrong.

For a military there a huge risk if a person breaks down in the wrong moment and if they already have enough conscripts they will rather play it safe.

Given my idea of how Israel works I would doubt if they allow a court to intere with the decisions of how the military picks it's members.

One more point. Clearly they suspect more than just Aspergers, given their guidelines.

Also, what's wrong with volunteering for National Civil Service?

A couple of points, in addition to what others said.

First, cheer up, you are in a very good company, Richard Feynman was famously rejected because the army psychiatrist declared him mentally unfit.

Second, a desire to join the IDF seems rather contrary to the spirit of rationality, unless you have an instrumental goal of getting some personal benefits from it, like free training/cheaper education/better employment. Certainly it is not the best way to express your patriotism, given the current realities in Israel.

Defence forces can be picky, they don't neccesarily need to expose themselfs to unnneccery risk if most of the soldier value comes out of training rather than inborn talent.

Being very earger to soldier is a trait that speaks quite a lot against whether it would be a good idea to make a soldier out of this particular individual.

Militaries are very unflexible when it comes to accomodating psychologies that are non-standard.

Most people would benefit from better mental health services. Being concerned that you are/might be crazy is a mark of sanity. Conversly dogmatically thinking you don't need more sanity is a worrying sign of no active maintenance. Like a building that isn't inspected because we have no reason to assume it could be rumbling down. Rather we constantly check buildings that we get the knowledge of fractures when investigating rather than only when the building comes tumbling down.

What exactly are you trying to accomplish by joining the IDF? Is it primarily a desire to support Israel or is it self-interest?

Find people who you have known a long time and say to them "Please be honest with me, this is very important. Do you think it's plausible that I'm on the autism spectrum"?

Consider the possibility that while you technically don't have Asperger's your psychiatrist has correctly determined that your personality would be a horrible fit for the military and he is attempting to do both you and the IDF a huge favor.

Also, if your goal is to help defend Israel there might be better ways for you than serving in the IDF. They also serve who only write software for the Iron Dome.

I was misdiagnosed when I was 4. The doctor said it was ADHD and aspergers then, but now my doctor says it’s just ADHD. I have spent my whole life believing that I am different and a lost cause. However, I am not going to have my new diagnosis put on paper because I am going to reap the benefits from it for school and work. Taking the benefits now is the least I can get out of this. Even if you have aspergers or autism, don’t let that bring you down because you are NOT a lost cause. Peace ✌️