Firming Up Not-Lying Around Its Edge-Cases Is Less Broadly Useful Than One Might Initially Think

post by Zack_M_Davis · 2019-12-27T05:09:22.546Z · score: 95 (34 votes) · LW · GW · 29 comments

Reply to: Meta-Honesty: Firming Up Honesty Around Its Edge-Cases [LW · GW]

Eliezer Yudkowsky, listing advantages of a "wizard's oath" ethical code of "Don't say things that are literally false", writes—

Repeatedly asking yourself of every sentence you say aloud to another person, "Is this statement actually and literally true?", helps you build a skill for navigating out of your internal smog of not-quite-truths.

I mean, that's one hypothesis about the psychological effects of adopting the wizard's code.

A potential problem with this is that human natural language contains a lot of ambiguity. Words can be used in many ways depending on context. Even the specification "literally" in "literally false" is less useful than it initially appears when you consider that the way people ordinarily speak when they're being truthful is actually pretty dense with metaphors that we typically don't notice as metaphors because they're common enough to be recognized legitimate uses that all fluent speakers will understand.

For example, if I want to convey the meaning that our study group has covered a lot of material in today's session, and I say, "Look how far we've come today!" it would be pretty weird if you were to object, "Liar! We've been in this room the whole time and haven't physically moved at all!" because in this case, it really is obvious to all ordinary English speakers that that's not what I meant by "how far we've come."

Other times, the "intended"[1] interpretation of a statement is not only not obvious, but speakers can even mislead by motivatedly equivocating between different definitions of words: the immortal Scott Alexander has written a lot about this phenomenon under the labels "motte-and-bailey doctrine" (as coined by Nicholas Shackel) and "the noncentral fallacy" [LW · GW].

For example, Zvi Mowshowitz has written about how the claim that "everybody knows" something [LW · GW][2] is often used to establish fictitious social proof, or silence those attempting to tell the thing to people who really don't know, but it feels weird (to my intuition, at least) to call it a "lie" [LW · GW], because the speaker can just say, "Okay, you're right that not literally[3] everyone knows; I meant that most people know but was using a common hyperbolic turn-of-phrase and I reasonably expected you to figure that out."

So the question "Is this statement actually and literally true?" is itself potentially ambiguous. It could mean either—

But while the former is complicated and hard to establish, the latter is ... not necessarily that strict of a constraint in most circumstances?

Think about it. When's the last time you needed to consciously tell a bald-faced, unambiguous lie?—something that could realistically be outright proven false in front of your peers, rather than dismissed with a "reasonable" amount of language-lawyering. (Whether "Fine" is a lie in response to "How are you?" depends on exactly what "Fine" is understood to mean in this context. "Being acceptable, adequate, passable, or satisfactory"—to what standard?)

Maybe I'm unusually honest—or possibly unusually bad at remembering when I've lied!?—but I'm not sure I even remember the last time I told an outright unambiguous lie. The kind of situation where I would need to do that just doesn't come up that often.

Now ask yourself how often your speech has been partially optimized for any function other than providing listeners with information that will help them better anticipate their experiences [LW · GW]. The answer is, "Every time you open your mouth"[4]—and if you disagree, then you're lying. (Even if you only say true things, you're more likely to pick true things that make you look good, rather than your most embarrassing secrets. That's optimization [LW · GW].)

In the study of AI alignment, it's a truism that failures of alignment can't be fixed by deontological "patches". If your AI is exhibiting weird and extreme behavior (with respect to what you really wanted, if not what you actually programmed), then adding a penalty term to exclude that specific behavior will just result in the AI executing the "nearest unblocked" strategy, which will probably also be undesirable: if you prevent your happiness-maximizing AI from administering heroin to humans, it'll start administering cocaine; if you hardcode a list of banned happiness-producing drugs, it'll start researching new drugs, or just pay humans to take heroin, &c.

Humans are also intelligent agents. (Um, sort of.) If you don't genuinely have the intent to inform your audience, but consider yourself ethically bound to be honest, but your conception of honesty is simply "not lying", you'll naturally gravitate towards the nearest unblocked cognitive algorithm [LW · GW] of deception [LW · GW].[5]

So another hypothesis about the psychological effects of adopting the wizard's code is that—however noble your initial conscious intent was—in the face of sufficiently strong incentives to deceive, you just end up accidentally training yourself to get really good at misleading people with a variety of not-technically-lying [LW · GW] rhetorical tactics (motte-and-baileys, false implicatures, stonewalling [LW · GW], selective reporting [LW · GW], clever rationalized arguments [LW · GW], gerrymandered category boundaries [LW · GW], &c.), all the while congratulating yourself on how "honest" you are for never, ever emitting any "literally" "false" individual sentences.


Ayn Rand's novel Atlas Shrugged[6] portrays a world of crony capitalism in which politicians and businessmen claiming to act for the "common good" (and not consciously lying) are actually using force and fraud to temporarily enrich themselves while destroying the credit-assignment mechanisms [LW · GW] Society needs to coordinate production.[7]

In one scene, Eddie Willers (right-hand man to our railroad executive heroine Dagny Taggart) expresses horror that the government's official scientific authority, the State Science Institute, has issued a hit piece denouncing the new alloy, Rearden Metal, with which our protagonists have been planning to use to build a critical railroad line. (In actuality, we later find out, the Institute leaders want to spare themselves the embarrassment—and therefore potential loss of legislative funding—of the innovative new alloy having been invented by private industry rather than the Institute's own metallurgy department.)

"The State Science Institute," he said quietly, when they were alone in her office, "has issued a statement warning people against the use of Rearden Metal." He added, "It was on the radio. It's in the afternoon papers."

"What did they say?"

"Dagny, they didn't say it! ... They haven't really said it, yet it's there—and it—isn't. That's what's monstrous about it."

[...] He pointed to the newspaper he had left on her desk. "They haven't said that Rearden Metal is bad. They haven't said it's unsafe. What they've done is ..." His hands spread and dropped in a gesture of futility.

She saw at a glance what they had done. She saw the sentences: "It may be possible that after a period of heavy usage, a sudden fissure may appear, though the length of this period cannot be predicted. ... The possibility of a molecular reaction, at present unknown, cannot be entirely discounted. ... Although the tensile strength of the metal is obviously demonstrable, certain questions in regard to its behavior under unusual stress are not to be ruled out. ... Although there is no evidence to support the contention that the use of the metal should be prohibited, a further study of its properties would be of value."

"We can't fight it. It can't be answered," Eddie was saying slowly. "We can't demand a retraction. We can't show them our tests or prove anything. They've said nothing. They haven't said a thing that could be refuted and embarrass them professionally. It's the job of a coward. You'd expect it from some con-man or blackmailer. But, Dagny! It's the State Science Institute!"

I think Eddie is right to feel horrified and betrayed here. At the same time, it's notable that with respect to wizard's code, no lying has taken place.

I like to imagine the statement having been drafted by an idealistic young scientist in the moral maze [LW · GW] of Dr. Floyd Ferris's office at the State Science Institute. Our scientist knows that his boss, Dr. Ferris, expects a statement that will make Rearden Metal look bad; the negative consequences to the scientist's career for failing to produce such a statement will be severe. (Dr. Ferris didn't say that, but he didn't have to [LW · GW].) But the lab results on Rearden Metal came back with flying colors—by every available test, the alloy is superior to steel along every dimension.

Pity the dilemma of our poor scientist! On the one hand, scientific integrity. On the other hand, the incentives [LW · GW].

He decides to follow a rule that he thinks will preserve his "inner agreement with truth which allows ready recognition": after every sentence he types into his report, he will ask himself, "Is this statement actually and literally true?" For that is his mastery.

Thus, his writing process goes like this—

"It may be possible after a period of heavy usage, a sudden fissure may appear." Is this statement actually and literally true? Yes! It may be possible! [LW · GW]

"The possibility of a molecular reaction, at present unknown, cannot be entirely discounted." Is this statement actually and literally true? Yes! The possibility of a molecular reaction, at present unknown, cannot be entirely discounted. Okay, so there's not enough [LW · GW] evidence to single out [LW · GW] that possibility as worth paying attention to [LW · GW]. But there's still a chance, right? [LW · GW]

"Although the tensile strength of the metal is obviously demonstrable, certain questions in regard to its behavior under unusual stress are not to be ruled out." Is this statement actually and literally true? Yes! The lab tests demonstrated the metal's unprecedented tensile strength. But certain questions in regard to its behavior under unusual stress are not to be ruled out—the probability isn't zero [LW · GW].

And so on. You see the problem. Perhaps a member of the general public who knew about the corruption at the State Science Institute could read the report and infer the existence of hidden evidence [LW · GW]: "Wow, even when trying their hardest to trash Rearden Metal, this is the worst they could come up with? Rearden Metal must be pretty great!"

But they won't. An institution that proclaims to be dedicated to "science" is asking for a very high level of trust—and in the absence of a trustworthy auditor, they might get it. Science is complicated enough and natural language is ambiguous enough, that that kind of trust that can be betrayed without lying.

I want to emphasize that I'm not saying the report-drafting scientist in the scenario I've been discussing is a "bad person." (As it is written, almost no one is evil; almost everything is broken.) Under more favorable conditions—in a world where metallurgists had the academic freedom to speak the truth as they see it (even if their voice trembles) [LW · GW] without being threatened with ostracism and starvation—the sort of person who finds the wizard's oath appealing, wouldn't even be tempted to engage in these kinds of not-technically-lying shenanigans. But the point of the wizard's oath is to constrain you, to have a simple bright-line rule to force you to be truthful, even when other people are making that genuinely difficult. Yudkowsky's meta-honesty proposal is a clever attempt to strengthen the foundations of this ethic by formulating a more complicated theory that can account for the edge-cases under which even unusually honest people typically agree that lying is okay, usually due to extraordinary coercion by an adversary, as with the proverbial murderer or Gestapo officer at the door.

And yet it's precisely in adversarial situations that the wizard's oath is most constraining (and thus, arguably, most useful). You probably don't need special ethical inhibitions [LW · GW] to tell the truth to your friends, because you should expect to benefit from friendly agents having more accurate beliefs.

But an enemy who wants to use information to hurt you is more constrained if the worst they can do is selectively report [LW · GW] harmful-to-you true things, rather than just making things up—and therefore, by symmetry, if you want to use information to hurt an enemy, you are more constrained if the worst you can do is selectively report harmful-to-the-enemy true things, rather that just making things up.

Thus, while the study of how to minimize information transfer to an adversary under the constraint of not lying is certainly interesting, I argue that this "firming up" is of limited practical utility given the ubiquity of other kinds of deception. A theory of under what conditions conscious explicit unambiguous outright lies are acceptable doesn't help very much with combating intellectual dishonesty—and I fear that intellectual dishonesty, plus sufficient intelligence, is enough to destroy the world all on its own, without the help of conscious explicit unambiguous outright lies.

Unfortunately, I do not, at present, have a superior alternative ethical theory of honesty to offer. I don't know how to unravel the web of deceit, rationalization, excuses, disinformation, bad faith, fake news, phoniness, gaslighting, and fraud that threatens to consume us all. But one thing I'm pretty sure won't help much is clever logic puzzles about implausibly sophisticated Nazis.

(Thanks to Michael Vassar for feedback on an earlier draft.)


  1. I'm scare-quoting "intended" because this process isn't necessarily conscious, and probably usually isn't. Internal distortions of reality in imperfectly deceptive social organisms can be adaptive for the function of deceiving conspecifics [LW · GW]. ↩︎

  2. If I had written this post, I would have titled it "Fake Common Knowledge [LW · GW]" (following in the tradition of "Fake Explanations" [LW · GW], "Fake Optimization Criteria" [LW · GW], "Fake Causality" [LW · GW], &c.) ↩︎

  3. But it's worth noting that the "Is this statement actually and literally true?" test, taken literally, should have caught this, even if my intuition still doesn't want to call it a "lie." ↩︎

  4. Actually, that's not literally true! You often open your mouth to breathe or eat without saying anything at all! Is the referent of this footnote then a blatant lie on my part?—or can I expect you to know what I meant? ↩︎

  5. A similar phenomenon may occur with other attempts at ethical bindings: for example, confidentiality promises. Suppose Open Opal tends to wear her heart on her sleeve and more specifically, believes in lies of omission: if she's talking with someone she trusts, and she has information relevant [LW · GW] to that conversation, she finds it incredibly psychologically painful to pretend not to know that information. If Paranoid Paris has much stronger privacy [LW · GW] intuitions than Opal and wants to message her about a sensitive subject, Paris might demand a promise of secrecy from Opal ("Don't share the content of this conversation")—only to spark conflict later when Opal construes the literal text of the promise more narrowly than Paris might have hoped ("'Don't share the content' means don't share the verbatim text, right? I'm still allowed to paraphrase things Paris said and attribute them to an anonymous correspondent when I think that's relevant to whatever conversation I'm in, even though that hypothetically leaks entropy if Paris has implausibly determined enemies, right?"). ↩︎

  6. I know, fictional evidence [LW · GW], but I claim that the kind of deception illustrated in quoted passage to follow is entirely realistic. ↩︎

  7. Okay, that's probably not exactly how Rand or her acolytes [LW · GW] would put it, but that's how I'm interpreting it. ↩︎

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comment by Vaniver · 2019-12-27T19:41:23.601Z · score: 54 (14 votes) · LW(p) · GW(p)

It seems to me like 'intent to inform' is worth thinking about in the context of its siblings; 'intent to misinform' and 'intent to conceal.' Cousins, like 'intent to aggrandize' or 'intent to seduce' or so on, I'll leave to another time, tho you're right to point out they're almost always present, if just by being replaced by their reaction (like self-deprecation, to be sure of not self-aggrandizement).

Quakers were long renowned for following four virtues: peace, equality, simplicity, and truth. Unlike wizards, they have the benefit of being real, and so we can get more out of their experience of having to actually implement those virtues in a sometimes hostile world that pushes for compromises. So I pulled out my copy of Some Fruits of Solitude by William Penn, and the sections on Truth and Secrecy are short enough to quote in full (including Justice, which is in the middle):

Truth

144. When you speak, be sure to speak the truth, for misleading is halfway to lying, and lying is the whole way to Hell.

Justice

145. Don't believe anything against another unless you have good grounds. And don't share anything that might hurt another, unless it could cause greater hurt to others to keep it secret.

Secrecy

146. It is wise not to try to find out a secret, and honest not to reveal one.

147. Only trust yourself, and no one will betray you.

148. Excessive openness has the mischief of treachery, though not the malice.

One of the bits that fascinated me when I first read it was 146, which pretty firmly separates 'intent to inform' from 'honesty'; there is such a thing as ownership of information, and honesty doesn't involve giving up on that, or giving up on having secrets yourself.

What's also interesting to me is that several of them embody bits of information about the social context. 145, for example, is good advice in general, but especially important if you have a reputation for telling the truth; then you become a target for rumor-starters, as people would take seriously stories you repeat even if they wouldn't take them seriously from the original source. It also covers situations like Viliam's [LW(p) · GW(p)], drawing a line that determines which negative beliefs should be broadcast. And in 146 again, being able to respond to questions about secrets with "I'd rather not say" relies on a social context where people think it wise to not press for further details (because otherwise you encourage a lie, instead of a straightforward "please direct your attention elsewhere.").

comment by Ben Pace (Benito) · 2019-12-28T06:10:43.439Z · score: 10 (2 votes) · LW(p) · GW(p)

This is personally quite helpful, thanks for posting it.

comment by Vaniver · 2019-12-28T06:38:51.106Z · score: 13 (3 votes) · LW(p) · GW(p)

I recommend the whole book; it's quite short. (Tho looking at the linked copy, I see it's the original form, with all the archaisms; the physical one I have is edited into modern English by Eric K. Taylor.)

comment by romeostevensit · 2019-12-28T05:40:58.820Z · score: 2 (1 votes) · LW(p) · GW(p)

But I'm not trying to conceal information. I just want to ensure that the information is only engaged with in the context that doesn't lead people to draw the obviously wrong conclusions.

comment by Vaniver · 2019-12-28T06:37:58.742Z · score: 5 (2 votes) · LW(p) · GW(p)

That feels like straightforwardly part of 'intent to inform', where if you expect someone to misunderstand you if you say X, then you don't say X. (And it seems like 148 applies.)

comment by romeostevensit · 2019-12-28T09:08:50.661Z · score: 2 (1 votes) · LW(p) · GW(p)

It's a form of writing the bottom line first and grants wide enough latitude to justify maintaining information asymmetries for personal benefit. It's even true a decent amount of the time, which is what makes it so dangerous.

comment by Scott Alexander (Yvain) · 2019-12-29T19:17:19.665Z · score: 33 (11 votes) · LW(p) · GW(p)

At the risk of being self-aggrandizing, I think the idea of axiology vs. morality vs. law is helpful here.

"Don't be misleading" is an axiological commandment - it's about how to make the world a better place, and what you should hypothetically be aiming for absent other considerations.

"Don't tell lies" is a moral commandment. It's about how to implement a pale shadow of the axiological commandment on a system run by duty and reputation, where you have to contend with stupid people, exploitative people, etc.

(so for example, I agree with you that the Rearden Metal paragraph is misleading and bad. But it sounds a lot like the speech I give patients who ask for the newest experimental medication. "It passed a few small FDA trials without any catastrophic side effects, but it's pretty common that this happens and then people discover dangerous problems in the first year or two of postmarketing surveillance. So unless there's some strong reason to think the new drug is better, it's better to stick with the old one that's been used for decades and is proven safe." I know and you know that there's a subtle difference here and the Institute is being bad while I'm being good, but any system that tries to implement reputation loss for the Institute at scale, implemented on a mob of dumb people, is pretty likely to hurt me also. So morality sticks to bright-line cases, at the expense of not being able to capture the full axiological imperative.)

This is part of what you mean when you say the report-drafting scientist is "not a bad person" - they've followed the letter of the moral law as best they can in a situation where there are lots of other considerations, and where they're an ordinary person as opposed to a saint laser-focused on doing the right thing at any cost. This is the situation that morality (as opposed to axiology) is designed for, your judgment ("I guess they're not a bad person") is the judgment that morality encourages you to give, and this shows the system working as designed, ie meeting its own low standards.

And then the legal commandment is merely "don't outright lie under oath or during formal police interrogations" - which (impressively) is probably *still* too strong, in that we all hear about the police being able to imprison basically whoever they want by noticing small lies committed by accident or under stress.

The "wizard's oath" feels like an attempt to subject one's self to a stricter moral law than usual, while still falling far short of the demands of axiology.

comment by Zack_M_Davis · 2020-01-26T04:53:32.319Z · score: 14 (4 votes) · LW(p) · GW(p)

(Thanks for your patience.)

This is part of what you mean when you say the report-drafting scientist is "not a bad person"—they've followed the letter of the moral law as best they can [...] your judgment ("I guess they're not a bad person") is the judgment that morality encourages you to give

So, from my perspective as an author (which, you know, could be wrong), that line was mostly a strategic political concession: there's this persistent problem where [LW(p) · GW(p)] when you try to talk about harms from people being complicit with systems of deception (not even to do anything about it, but just to talk about the problem [LW · GW]), the discussion immediately gets derailed on [LW · GW], "What?! Are you saying I'm a bad person!? How dare you!" ... which is a much less interesting topic.

The first line of defense against this kind of derailing is to be very clear about what is being claimed (which is just good intellectual practice that you should be doing anyway): "By systems of deception, I mean processes that systematically result in less accurate beliefs—the English word 'deception' is often used with moralizing connotations, but I'm talking about a technical concept that I can implement as literal executable Python programs [LW · GW]. Similarly, while I don't yet have an elegant reduction of the underlying game theory corresponding to the word 'complicity' ..."

The second line of defense is to throw the potential-derailer a bone in the form of an exculpatory disclaimer: "I'm not trying to blame anyone, I'm just saying that ..." Even if (all other things being equal) you would prefer to socially punish complicity with systems of deception, by precomitting to relinquish the option to punish, you can buy a better chance of actually having a real discussion about the problem. (Making the precommitment credible is tough, though.)

Ironically, this is an instance of the same problem it's trying to combat ("distorting communication to appease authority" and "distorting communication in order to appease people who are afraid you're trying to scapegoat them on the pretext [LW · GW] of them distorting communication to appease authority" are both instances of "distorting communication because The Incentives"), but hopefully a less severe one, whose severity is further reduced by [LW · GW] explaining that I'm doing it in the comments.

You can also think of the "I'm not blaming you, but seriously, this is harmful" maneuver as an interaction between levels: an axiological attempt to push for a higher moral standard in given community, while acknowledging that the community does not yet uphold the higher standard (analogous to moral attempt to institute tougher laws, while acknowledging that the sin in question is not a crime under current law).

noticing small lies committed by accident or under stress.

Lies committed "by accident"? What, like unconsciously? (Maybe the part of your brain that generated this sentence doesn't disagree with Jessica [LW(p) · GW(p)] about the meaning of the word lie as much as the part of your brain that argues about intensional [LW · GW] definitions??)

comment by Said Achmiz (SaidAchmiz) · 2019-12-27T08:36:49.302Z · score: 29 (8 votes) · LW(p) · GW(p)

First, some quick comments:

  1. Good post; I mostly agree with all specific points therein.

  2. I appreciate that this post has introduced me (via appropriate use of ‘Yudkowskian’ hyperlinking) to several interesting Arbital articles I’d never seen.

  3. Relevant old post by Paul Christiano: “If we can’t lie to others, we will lie to ourselves”.

All that having been said, I’d like to note that this entire project of “literal truth”, “wizard’s code”, “not technically lying”, etc., etc., seems to me to be quite wrongheaded. This is because I don’t think that any such approach is ethical in the first place. To the contrary: I think that there are some important categories of situations where lying is entirely permissible (i.e., ethically neutral at worst), and others where lying is, in fact, ethically mandatory (and where it is wrong not to lie). In my view, the virtue of honesty (which I take to be quite important indeed), and any commitment to any supposed “literal truth” or similar policy, are incompatible.

Clearly, this view is neither obvious nor likely to be uncontroversial. However, in lieu of (though also in the service of) further elaboration, let me present this ethical question or, if you like, puzzle:

Is it ethically mandatory always to behave as if you know all information which you do, in fact, know?

comment by elriggs · 2020-01-13T05:50:31.686Z · score: 1 (1 votes) · LW(p) · GW(p)

If I understand your puzzle right, then poker, surprise parties/engagements, and those lying games you play with your friends where some people are “murderers” but are trying to hide the fact.

Is your puzzle different than that?

comment by Said Achmiz (SaidAchmiz) · 2020-01-13T06:16:04.009Z · score: 2 (1 votes) · LW(p) · GW(p)

No, that is not the sort of thing I have in mind. Exclude games, performances, and similar things where you are (by consent of all involved) playing a role or otherwise “bracketing” your utterances within an artificial context, and consider the question again.

comment by elriggs · 2020-01-13T07:08:50.632Z · score: 1 (1 votes) · LW(p) · GW(p)

Ethical is undefined here, but if it was a defined standard, you’d just pick the available action that scores well on that standard, even if it doesn’t satisfy the constraint “behave as if you know all information you in fact know” (which I think the hiding Jews from a Nazi is the classic example)

If the point of solving the puzzle is to better understand the concept “ethics in relation to truth-acting” then I don’t think I’ve added much by the Nazi example or the games & performances ones.

What do you believe the point of the puzzle is? What would a good solution entail or imply?

comment by Said Achmiz (SaidAchmiz) · 2020-01-13T07:20:38.556Z · score: 2 (1 votes) · LW(p) · GW(p)

The point of me positing the puzzle is for you (or anyone who cares to tackle this) to say what your chosen / preferred / ideal ethics answers to this; or, alternatively or additionally, what your moral intuitions say about this (and if your ethics, or your moral intuitions, or both, say nothing to this, then that too is an interesting and important fact). And the point of the puzzle itself is that the answer isn’t necessarily obvious.

“Do what your ethics says you should do” is therefore a non-answer.

If the point of solving the puzzle is to better understand the concept “ethics in relation to truth-acting” then I don’t think I’ve added much by the Nazi example or the games & performances ones.

I agree.

comment by elriggs · 2020-01-13T07:47:58.526Z · score: 1 (1 votes) · LW(p) · GW(p)

Thanks for the clarification.

For me the answer is no, I don’t believe it’s ethically mandatory to share all information I know to everyone if they happen to ask the right question. I can’t give a complete formalization of why, but three specific situations are 1) keeping someone else’s information secret & 2) when I predict the other person will assume harmful implications that aren’t true &3) when the other person isn’t in the right mind to hear the true information.

Ex for #3: you would like your husband to change more diapers and help clean up a little more before they leave work every day, but you just thought of it right when he came home from a long work day. It would be better to wait to give a criticism when you’re sure they’re in a good mood.

An example for #2: I had a friend have positive thoughts towards a girl that wasn’t his girlfriend. He was confused about this and TOLD HIS GIRLFRIEND WHEN THEY WERE DATING LONG DISTANCE. The two girls have had an estranged relationship for years since.

If I was my friend, I would understand that positive thoughts towards a pretty girl my age doesn’t imply that I am required to romantically engage them. Telling my girlfriend about these thoughts might be truthful and honest, but it would likely cause her to feel insecure and jealous, even though she has nothing to worry about.

comment by Said Achmiz (SaidAchmiz) · 2020-01-13T08:04:59.277Z · score: 3 (2 votes) · LW(p) · GW(p)

For me the answer is no, I don’t believe it’s ethically mandatory to share all information I know to everyone if they happen to ask the right question.

Note that this is an answer to a considerably narrower question than the one I asked.

That having been said, I think at least some of what you mentioned / described was relevant. In any case, given your answer, the answer to the broader question must necessarily also be “no”.

So, what I wonder now is whether anyone is willing to take, and defend, the opposite view: that it is ethically mandatory at all times to behave as if you know all the information which, in fact, you know. (It is, I know, an odd—or, at least, oddly formulated—ethical principle. And yet it seems to me that it directly connected to the subject of the OP…)

comment by elriggs · 2020-01-13T08:20:43.566Z · score: 1 (1 votes) · LW(p) · GW(p)

I realized afterwards that only “not sharing others secrets” is an example of “it’s ethical to lie if someone asks a direct question”. The other two were more “don’t go out of your way to tell the whole truth in this situation (but wait for a better situation)”

I do believe my ethics is composed of wanting what’s “best” for others and truthful communication is just an instrumental goal.

If I had to blatantly lie every day, so that all my loved ones could be perfectly healthy and feel great, I would lie every day.

I don’t think anyone would terminally value honesty (in any of it’s forms).

comment by quanticle · 2019-12-27T09:03:43.091Z · score: 28 (9 votes) · LW(p) · GW(p)

Maybe I’m unusually honest—or possibly unusually bad at remembering when I’ve lied!?—but I’m not sure I even remember the last time I told an outright unambiguous lie. The kind of situation where I would need to do that just doesn’t come up that often.

I would say that you should consider yourself fortunate then, that you are living in a situation where most of the people surrounding you have your best interests in mind (or, at worst, are neutral towards your interests). For others in more adversarial situations, telling lies (or at least shading the truth to the extent that would be considered lying by the standards of this post) is a necessary survival skill.

comment by Viliam · 2019-12-27T12:26:39.857Z · score: 26 (7 votes) · LW(p) · GW(p)

In situations where others can hurt you, clever solution like "no comment - because this is the situation where in some counterfactual world I would prefer to be silent" results in you getting hurt.

(A few weeks ago, everyone in the company I am working for got a questionaire from management where they were asked to list the strengths and weaknesses of their colleagues. Cleverly refusing to answer, beyond plausible excuses such as "this guy works on a different project so I haven't really interacted with him much", would probably cost me my job, which would be inconvenient in multiple ways. At the same time, I consider this type of request deeply repulsive -- on Monday I am supposed to be a good team member who enjoys cooperation and teambuilding, and on Tuesday I am asked to snitch on my coworkers -- from my perspective this would hurt my personal integrity much more than mere lying. Sorry, I am officially a dummy who never notices a non-trivial weakness in anyone, now go ahead and try proving that I do.)

Also, it seems to me that in real world, bulding a prestige of a person who never lies, is more tricky than just never lying and cleverly glomarizing. For example, the prestige you keep building for years can be ruined overnight by a third party lying about you having lied to them. (And conversely, you could actually have a strategy of never lying... except to a designated set of "victims", in situations when there is no record of what you said, and who are sufficiently lower-status that you, so if they choose to accuse you publicly, they will be percieved as liars.)

comment by DanielFilan · 2019-12-27T05:43:09.005Z · score: 11 (5 votes) · LW(p) · GW(p)

When's the last time you needed to consciously tell a bald-faced, unambiguous lie?—something that could realistically be outright proven false in front of your peers, rather than dismissed with a "reasonable" amount of language-lawyering.

I don't know about the last time I needed to do so, but the last time I did so was two days ago (Christmas Eve), when (IIRC) one of my grandparents asked me if I had brought board games to my aunt and uncle's house while in the presence of my aunt, uncle, and/or cousins. In fact I had, but didn't want to say that, because I had brought them as Christmas gifts for my aunt and uncle's family, and didn't want to reveal that fact, and didn't think I could get away with being evasive, so (again, IIRC) I lied about bringing them.

I have a pretty strong preference against literal/unambiguous lying, and usually I can get away with evasion when I want to conceal things, and I don't remember unambiguously lying previously, but I'm bad at remembering things and wouldn't be all that surprised if somebody showed me a recording of me telling a bald-faced lie at some other point during December.

comment by gjm · 2019-12-29T17:24:47.037Z · score: 6 (3 votes) · LW(p) · GW(p)

I think one could argue that "have you brought board games?" isn't really intended to include the insides of yet-unopened presents in its scope, in which case you weren't really lying.

(I'm not sure whether I would argue that. It might depend on whether Christmas Day was nearer the start or the end of your stay...)

comment by DanielFilan · 2019-12-27T05:48:44.277Z · score: 6 (4 votes) · LW(p) · GW(p)

I think people quite frequently tell unambiguous lies of the form "I have read these terms and conditions".

comment by DanielFilan · 2019-12-27T05:45:05.577Z · score: 2 (1 votes) · LW(p) · GW(p)

'IIRC' because I remember being asked this question multiple times and lying once as an answer, but don't remember exactly who was around or who asked the time I remember lying, and am not certain that I actually lied as opposed to being very evasive or murmuring nonsensical syllables or something.

comment by lionhearted · 2020-01-11T07:15:57.868Z · score: 10 (2 votes) · LW(p) · GW(p)

Lots of great comments already so not sure if this will get seen, but a couple possibly useful points —

Metaphors We Live By by George Lakoff is worth a skim — https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Metaphors_We_Live_By

Then I think Wittgenstein's Tractatus is good, but his war diaries are even better http://www.wittgensteinchronology.com/7.html

"[Wittgenstein] sketches two people, A and B, swordfighting, and explains how this sketch might assert ‘A is fencing with B’ by virtue of one stick-figure representing A and the other representing B. In this picture-writing form, the proposition can be true or false, and its sense is independent of its truth or falsehood. LW declares that ‘It must be possible to demonstrate everything essential by considering this case’."

Lakoff illuminates some common metaphors — for example, a positive-valence mood in American English is often "up" and a negative-valence mood in American English is often "down."

If you combine Lakoff and Wittgenstein, using an accepted metaphor from your culture ("How are you?" "I'm flying today") makes the picture you paint for the other person correspond to your mood (they hear the emphasized "flying" and don't imagine you literally flying, but rather in a high-positive valence mood) — then you're in the realm of true.

There's independently some value in investigating your metaphors, but if someone asks me "Hey how'd custom building project your neighbor was doing go?" and I answer "Man, it was a fuckin' trainwreck" — you know what I'm saying: not only did the project fail, but it failed in a way that caused damage and hassle and was unaesthetic, even over and beyond what a normal "mere project failure" would be.

The value in metaphors, I think, is that you can get high information density with them. "Fuckin' trainwreck" conveys a lot of information. The only more denser formulation might be "Disaster" — but that's also a metaphor if it wasn't literally a disaster. Metaphors are sneaky in that way, we often don't notice them — but they seem like a valid high-accuracy usage of language if deployed carefully.

(Tangentially: Is "deployed" there a metaphor? Thinking... thinking... yup. Lakoff's book is worth skimming, we use a lot more metaphors than we realize...)

comment by Raemon · 2020-01-10T00:58:42.458Z · score: 9 (4 votes) · LW(p) · GW(p)

Curated.

This post crystallized what I now think of as one of the major open problems in rationality [LW(p) · GW(p)], and in the (related but distinct) domain of intellectual integrity. While it doesn't propose solutions, I think clearly articulating a problem, and becoming deconfused about it, is often a good first step for tackling hard problems.

Two criticisms I'd make of this post are:

  • It'd be slightly nicer if it actually had a crisp summary of the problem at the end. I felt like I understood the "open problem of 'real' honesty" by the end of the post, but there wasn't a succinct paragraph I could copy into another thread to explain it. (I think this is was somewhat complicated by the final paragraphs aiming more to tie this into a critique of Meta-Honesty [LW · GW] than to spell out the open problem)
  • Relatedly... I found this underwhelming as a critique of Meta-Honesty. The fact that Meta-Honesty does not solve the most important open problem in honesty (which, notably, neither does this post!) doesn't say much about whether Meta-Honesty is still useful for other reasons. I think Zack underestimates how important clear norms around Not-Lying are. And meanwhile, when you're in a confusing domain without a way forward, hacking away at the edges [LW · GW] is an important tool to have in your toolbox.
comment by Viliam · 2019-12-27T14:58:06.870Z · score: 8 (3 votes) · LW(p) · GW(p)

I wouldn't mind removing hyperboles from socially accepted language. Don't say "everyone" if you don't mean literally everyone, duh. (I suppose that many General Semantic fans would agree with this.)

For me a complicated question is one that compares against an unspecified stardard, such as "is this cake sweet?" I don't know what kind of cakes you are used to eat, so maybe what's "quite sweet" to me is "only a bit sweet" for you. Telling literal truths, such as "yes, it has a nonzero amount of sugar, but also a nonzero amount of other things" will not help here. I don't know exactly how much sugar it contains. So, "it tastes quite sweet to me" is the best I can do here. Maybe that should be the norm.

I agree about the "nearest unblocked strategy". You make the rules; people maximize within the rules (or break them when you are not watching). People wanting to do X will do the thing closest to X that doesn't break the most literal interpretation of the anti-X rules (or break the rules in a deniable way). -- On the other hand, even trivial inconveniences can make a difference. We are not discussing superhuman AI trying to get out of the box, but humans with limited willpower who may at some level of difficulty simply give up.

The linked article "telling truth is social aggression" ignores the fact that even in competition, people make coalitions. And if you have large amounts of players, math is in favor of cooperation, at least on relatively small scale. If your school grades on a curve, it discourages helping your classmate without getting anything in return. But mutual cooperation with one classmate still helps you both against the rest of the class. The same is true about helping people create better models of the world, when the size of your group is tiny compared to the rest of the population.

The real danger these days usually isn't Gestapo, but thousands of Twitter celebrities trying to convert parts of your writing taken out of context into polarizing tweets, and journalists trying to convert those tweets into clickbait, where the damage caused to you and your family is just an externality no one cares about. This is the elephant in the room: "I personally don't disagree with X; or I disagree with X but I think there is no great harm in discussing it per se... but the social consequences of me being publicly known as 'person who talks about X' are huge, and I need to pick my battles. I have things to protect that are more important to me than my mere academic interest in X." Faced by: "But if you lie about X, how can I trust that you are not lying about Y, too?"

comment by Dagon · 2019-12-27T17:20:34.924Z · score: 5 (2 votes) · LW(p) · GW(p)

Let me argue for intentionality in communication. If your intent is to inform and communicate a fact, do so. If your intend is to convince someone to undertake an action, do so. If your intent is to impress people with your knowledge and savvy, do so. If your intent is to elicit ideas and models to see where you differ, do so.

One size does not fit all situations or all people. Talking is an act. Choose the mechanisms that fit your goals, like you do in all actions.

Humans aren't perfect, and most humans are actually pretty bad at both giving and receiving "honest" communication. Attempting to communicate with them on the level you prefer, rather than the level they're ready for, is arrogant and unhelpful.

Humans are not naturally nor necessarily aligned with your goals (in fact, nobody is fully aligned, though many of us are compatible if you zoom out far enough). It's an important social fiction to pretend they are, in order to cooperate with them, but you don't have to actually believe this falsehood.

comment by Ericf · 2020-01-10T17:26:43.851Z · score: 1 (1 votes) · LW(p) · GW(p)

The underlying purpose of any sort of "don't lie" moral code is to limit what you can say when "you intend to convince someone to undertake an action" or "impress people with ..."

comment by Dr_Manhattan · 2019-12-27T13:29:47.640Z · score: 0 (2 votes) · LW(p) · GW(p)

On the one hand this post does a great job of connecting to previous work, leaving breadcrumbs and shortening the inferential distance. On the other hand what is this at the end?

But one thing I'm pretty sure won't help much is clever logic puzzles about implausibly sophisticated Nazis.

I have no idea what this is talking about.