Can you gain weirdness points?

People do not punish nonconformity per se. People punish nonconformity iff it is a problem. If someone punishes you for being weird then that means your weirdness has caused a problem. If you can stop causing problems for other people then you can get away with being weird.

I walk around barefoot outside where there is broken glass. Instead of hosting my personal website on WordPress, I created my own content management system…in Lisp. I wrote this answer in Vim through i3 on a Linux machine. I am a heretical savant high on cocaine [LW · GW]. I wrote a series of posts [? · GW] on how to become even weirder. Yesterday, I stared at a grass field for so long my eyes malfunctioned.

I get away with being weird because I do not cause problems for other people. The value of keeping me around outweighs the cost.

Weirdness points seem like a valuable (and limited) resource, especially if you are promoting or enacting multiple ideas…

Promoting unpopular ideas turns you into a problem.

It's often seen to be easier to fight for one weird thing, than to fight for multiple weird things. Therefore, we ought to prioritize what we fight for…

Fighting the ordinary people around you turns you into a problem. The simplest way to preserve weirdness points is to not fight for things.

Promoting unpopular ideas costs social capital. How much you can influence other people is a good definition of social capital. If you want to get away with disruptive activities then you can increase your social capital or minimize the disruption you cause.

"Weirdness" is probably a bad abstraction, because it includes things with opposite effect. From statistical perspective, being a king is weird, being a billionaire is weird, being a movie star is weird. Yet this is obviously not what we mean when talking about carefully spending our weirdness points.

Here is a hypothesis I just made up, with no time to test it: Maybe people instinctively try to classify everyone else into three buckets: "higher-status than me", "the same as me", and "lower-status than me". The middle bucket is defined by similarity: if you are sufficiently similar to me, you are there. If you are dissimilar, the choices are only "higher" and "lower". (In other words, the hypothesis is that the instinctive classification does not support the notion of "different but equal".) Because you do not assign people higher status for no reason, it follows that if you are different from me, and there is no evidence of you being higher-status than me, then I will perceive and treat you as lower-status. And if you refuse to be treated as lower-status, I will punish you for acting above your status.

From this model, it follows that for people visibly above you, weirdness is not a problem. You expect the king to have unusual manners and opinions compared to the peasants. It is the weird peasant everyone makes fun of.

The answer then is that you must achieve superior status first, and show your weirdness later. Then people will assume that these things are related.

I think it's best to view weirdness points as a fake framework [LW · GW].

I don't think there is, at any level of abstraction, an accurate gears level model that includes weirdness points as a gear. But, if you're just trying to make quick and dirty heuristics about what you can get away with, it's an excellent heuristic.

When you're looking at the gears of this phenomena, I think you start looking at signaling and countersignaling, which will give you more accurate answers than trying to count weirdness points.

I loudly promote a large number of rather contentious ideas. In particular, I am an animal right hardliner (an active member of Direct Action Everywhere) and a socialist top of the big rationalist stereotypes (singularity is near, poly, etc). I certainly annoy a lot of people but socially I am doing well. I have many friends, an amazing long term relationship, and am doing well financially. You can read my blog to see the sort of beliefs I promote.

It is unclear why this works out for me. I look rather average which might help? Plausible I have some sort of social skills that help me smooth things over if they get too hot. I handle conflict fairly well. It seems empirically true many people are socially successful despite having extremely controversial. In some cases it seems to help them?