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Being Present is Not a Skill 2024-12-18T01:11:04.715Z
Is this a better way to do matchmaking? 2024-12-16T19:06:14.574Z
Just one more exposure bro 2024-12-12T21:37:07.069Z
Locally optimal psychology 2024-11-25T18:35:11.985Z
Social events with plausible deniability 2024-11-18T18:25:17.339Z
What is autonomy? Why boundaries are necessary. 2024-10-21T17:56:33.722Z
What is it like to be psychologically healthy? Podcast ft. DaystarEld 2024-10-05T19:14:04.743Z
Eye contact is effortless when you’re no longer emotionally blocked on it 2024-09-27T21:47:01.970Z
Pay-on-results personal growth: first success 2024-09-14T03:39:12.975Z
what becoming more secure did for me 2024-08-22T17:44:48.525Z
I didn't have to avoid you; I was just insecure 2024-08-17T16:41:50.237Z
List of Collective Intelligence Projects 2024-07-02T14:10:41.789Z
Emotional issues often have an immediate payoff 2024-06-10T23:39:40.697Z
Retrospective on Mathematical Boundaries Workshop 2024-05-12T21:58:46.367Z
Boundaries Update #1 2024-04-11T16:07:18.746Z
Plausibility of cyborgism for protecting boundaries? 2024-03-27T18:53:38.615Z
How I turned doing therapy into object-level AI safety research 2024-03-14T01:54:47.290Z
self-fulfilling prophecies when applying for funding 2024-03-01T19:01:40.991Z
Boundary Violations vs Boundary Dissolution 2024-02-26T18:59:08.713Z
The natural boundaries between people 2024-02-23T01:09:28.592Z
What does davidad want from «boundaries»? 2024-02-06T17:45:42.348Z
Protecting agent boundaries 2024-01-25T04:13:50.993Z
What are the most common social insecurities? 2024-01-16T17:24:59.761Z
What technical topics could help with boundaries/membranes? 2024-01-05T18:14:58.795Z
Agent membranes/boundaries and formalizing “safety” 2024-01-03T17:55:21.018Z
Safety First: safety before full alignment. The deontic sufficiency hypothesis. 2024-01-03T17:55:19.825Z
Agent membranes and causal distance 2024-01-02T22:43:41.508Z
Environmental allergies are curable? (Sublingual immunotherapy) 2023-12-26T19:05:08.880Z
The absence of self-rejection is self-acceptance 2023-12-21T21:54:52.116Z
Lessons from massaging myself, others, dogs, and cats 2023-12-17T04:28:40.080Z
Apply to the Conceptual Boundaries Workshop for AI Safety 2023-11-27T21:04:59.037Z
Spaced repetition for teaching two-year olds how to read (Interview) 2023-11-26T16:52:58.412Z
Formalizing «Boundaries» with Markov blankets 2023-09-19T21:01:01.901Z
Coherence Therapy with LLMs - quick demo 2023-08-14T03:34:29.102Z
"Membranes" is better terminology than "boundaries" alone 2023-05-28T22:16:21.404Z
«Boundaries» for formalizing an MVP morality 2023-05-13T19:10:51.833Z
«Boundaries/Membranes» and AI safety compilation 2023-05-03T21:41:19.124Z

Comments

Comment by Chipmonk on Pay-on-results personal growth: first success · 2024-12-22T00:41:01.818Z · LW · GW

Update: Bob has recorded a 6-month follow-up here.

Comment by Chipmonk on Walking Sue · 2024-12-18T17:38:11.090Z · LW · GW

Why was this post tagged as boundaries/membranes? I'm inclined to remove the tag.

Comment by Chipmonk on Being Present is Not a Skill · 2024-12-18T01:44:19.038Z · LW · GW

makes sense

Comment by Chipmonk on Sorry for the downtime, looks like we got DDosd · 2024-12-02T04:22:40.197Z · LW · GW

works!

Comment by Chipmonk on Sorry for the downtime, looks like we got DDosd · 2024-12-02T04:17:30.234Z · LW · GW

another weird bug is if i click the link i was just sent in my email, it brings me to a 403 Forbidden page (even though the URLs of this functional page and that 403 page look identical)

Comment by Chipmonk on (The) Lightcone is nothing without its people: LW + Lighthaven's big fundraiser · 2024-11-30T17:41:31.901Z · LW · GW

I've run two workshops at LightHaven and it's pretty unthinkable to run a workshop anywhere else in the Bay Area. Lightcone has really made it easy to run overnight events without setup

Comment by Chipmonk on Hierarchical Agency: A Missing Piece in AI Alignment · 2024-11-29T20:03:59.406Z · LW · GW

Yeah i'm confused about what to name it. we can always change it later i guess.

also let me know if you have any posts you want me to definitely tag for it that you think i might miss otherwise

Comment by Chipmonk on Hierarchical Agency: A Missing Piece in AI Alignment · 2024-11-27T07:23:54.891Z · LW · GW

Do we have a LessWrong tag for "hierarchical agency" or "multi-scale alignment" or something? Should I make one?

Comment by Chipmonk on Hierarchical Agency: A Missing Piece in AI Alignment · 2024-11-27T07:16:07.783Z · LW · GW

I just made a twitter list with accounts interested in hierarchical agency (or what i call "multi-scale alignment"). Lmk who should be added

Comment by Chipmonk on Hierarchical Agency: A Missing Piece in AI Alignment · 2024-11-27T07:14:13.124Z · LW · GW

Random but you might like this graphic I made representing hierarchical agency from my post today on a very similar idea. What would you change about it?

Comment by Chipmonk on Hierarchical Agency: A Missing Piece in AI Alignment · 2024-11-27T07:12:36.151Z · LW · GW

This was an impressive demonstation of Claude for interviews. Was this one take?

(Also what prompt did you use? I like how your Claude speaks.)

Comment by Chipmonk on Hierarchical Agency: A Missing Piece in AI Alignment · 2024-11-27T07:12:25.207Z · LW · GW

I'm glad you wrote this! I've been wanting to tell othres about ACS's research and finally have a good link

Comment by Chipmonk on Locally optimal psychology · 2024-11-26T17:35:00.957Z · LW · GW

Great question, thanks!

I think you're correct in pointing towards the existence of basically-all-downside genetic conditions, but I still think these are in the minority. Moreover, even most of those don't create a big issue on the object level— compared to how people might feel about the issue as a result.

This argument doesn't extend to conditions like Huntington's, but if a person is missing a pinky finger, most of the issues the person is going to face are related to social factors and their own emotions, not the physical aspect.

I also just say this from experience helping others

Comment by Chipmonk on Locally optimal psychology · 2024-11-26T00:56:43.552Z · LW · GW

I did not say that depression is always a strategy for everyone.

Comment by Chipmonk on Which things were you surprised to learn are not metaphors? · 2024-11-21T18:59:03.125Z · LW · GW

I wrote about my own experience discovering “feelings in the body” here

Comment by Chipmonk on Social events with plausible deniability · 2024-11-20T04:59:09.184Z · LW · GW

Eliezer likes it but lesswrong doesn't

Comment by Chipmonk on Social events with plausible deniability · 2024-11-20T04:57:55.842Z · LW · GW

can someone explain to me why this is so controversial

Comment by Chipmonk on The hostile telepaths problem · 2024-11-18T00:45:48.985Z · LW · GW

What would you say that the main types of power are?

My list (for humans): physical security, financial security, social security, emotional security (this one you can only give yourself though)

Comment by Chipmonk on Ayn Rand’s model of “living money”; and an upside of burnout · 2024-11-16T17:23:33.769Z · LW · GW

In other cases, or for other reasons, they might be instead set up to demand results, and evaluate primarily based on results.

Why might it be set up like that? Seems potentially quite irrational. Veering into motivated reasoning territory here imo

Comment by Chipmonk on Ayn Rand’s model of “living money”; and an upside of burnout · 2024-11-16T17:05:36.085Z · LW · GW

Maybe, but that also requires that the other group members were (irrationally) failing to consider that the “attempt could've been good even if the luck was bad”. 

In human groups, people often do gain (some) reputation for noble failures (is this wrong?)

Comment by Chipmonk on Ayn Rand’s model of “living money”; and an upside of burnout · 2024-11-16T16:43:43.845Z · LW · GW

I got the bidding idea from Kaj, and “if the mind is a group” is my preferred metaphor/simplification of multi-agent models of mind (writing about this soon). This metaphor naturally implies reputation, as I realized yesterday while working with a client. I don't know if there’s a name for the reputation idea; it may be original

Comment by Chipmonk on Ayn Rand’s model of “living money”; and an upside of burnout · 2024-11-16T04:44:45.739Z · LW · GW

Oh! The metaphor I've been using with my clients for the thing I think you're pointing at is reputation.

If the mind is a group (in this case a group of pattern predictors, but please also imagine it as a group of people), then ask yourself: How does a group of people (with no dictator) make a decision? 

Well, they talk. They make bids. 

Can one person use "willpower" and force the group to make a decision a particular way? Yes, if they make a strong enough bid and the rest of the group lets them. Why would the rest of the group let them? Reputation. But if they do that too many times with poor results, they lose their reputation and won't be able to dictate the group anymore. "Willpower" lost.

I suspect this happens in the mind among pattern predictors, too. (I believe @Kaj_Sotala has written about this somewhere wrt Global Workspace Theory? I found this tweet in the meantime.) If a certain part of your mind lose reputation with the others parts, that part will lose reputation and won't be able to make competitive bids anymore. That part's "willpower" has decreased.

Comment by Chipmonk on Gwern: Why So Few Matt Levines? · 2024-10-29T05:22:52.837Z · LW · GW
  1. What other fields except finance have a tradition of reading weekly/daily news? Surely not chemistry, drug development, petroleum, fracking, …
  2. Maybe there actually is a Matt Levine of petroleum but we don't know? 
Comment by Chipmonk on The hostile telepaths problem · 2024-10-28T01:22:15.828Z · LW · GW

I think it's true that people who have more power (whether emotional security or social status etc) generally have less muscle tension yea. 

But that reminds me that I should check with my clients if they accidentally experience much less muscle tension

Comment by Chipmonk on The hostile telepaths problem · 2024-10-27T17:08:26.912Z · LW · GW

This reminds me… maybe muscle tension is a frequent solution to this problem?

Some context: Lately I've been wondering, Why do we often experience feelings as things in the body? For example, why do I feel anxiety in my chest rather than just “knowing” I'm anxious? 

For example, my previous chronic neck pain seemed to be related to information that manifested in my neck: 

I suspect the feeling in my neck represented the information "I have the choice to leave the social situation I'm in right now" and/or "I am disliking/suppressing myself."

Why might this feeling have manifested in my neck?

What if feelings use the body as a screen to communicate information with others? If you have a certain feeling in your chest, maybe others can see that

BUT: What if a feeling represents information that your system doesn't want other people to know? Hostile telepaths problem.

Im my case:

The feeling represented the awareness that I was insecure, and there were probably situations (probably social situations) in which it partially benefited me to be partially unaware of the fact that I was insecure. 

Well, in that case, your system could create muscle tension to "jam the signal"

If the muscles are stiff, maybe they can't be used as a screen anymore.

Comment by Chipmonk on The hostile telepaths problem · 2024-10-27T15:58:22.126Z · LW · GW

I'm very glad you wrote this

Comment by Chipmonk on Pay-on-results personal growth: first success · 2024-10-27T01:38:30.096Z · LW · GW

I've come to think of it in terms of inferential distances

yeah probably something like that. I also wrote a little more about this in my blog post today.

People are experts on themselves. Given enough space and gentle enough questions from an active listener, they often have the capacity to solve their own problems.

yeah

it's much higher bandwidth and more efficient too

process the information where it is

Comment by Chipmonk on My 10-year retrospective on trying SSRIs · 2024-10-18T15:58:12.647Z · LW · GW

oh cool!! i'm glad :-)

Comment by Chipmonk on My motivation and theory of change for working in AI healthtech · 2024-10-12T06:22:14.710Z · LW · GW

If anything, I suspect mental health is more tractable, with quicker feedback loops, and with more of a possibility of directly helping alignment[1] compared to physical health.

  1. ^

    Why? I'll have to write a full post on this eventually, but the gist is: I suspect many social conflicts, such as those around AI, could dissolve if the underlying ego conflicts dissolved. Decision-makers who become more emotionally secure also become better at coordination. Improving physical health has much less of this effect imo.

Comment by Chipmonk on My motivation and theory of change for working in AI healthtech · 2024-10-12T06:17:38.505Z · LW · GW

Have you thought much about mental health?[1] Mental health seems to meet all of your same criteria. I say this because I'm currently working on this (and for alignment-like reasons).

  1. ^

    Maybe "healthcare" includes mental health to you, but https://healthcareagents.com/ doesn't seem to mention it.

Comment by Chipmonk on Time Efficient Resistance Training · 2024-10-09T18:52:59.921Z · LW · GW

Plus some need to be loaded quite heavy, risking injury.

To be clear, by isometrics i mean pushing against immovable objects. (also see)

Comment by Chipmonk on Time Efficient Resistance Training · 2024-10-09T00:31:35.863Z · LW · GW

Do you have any thoughts on isometrics? They seem even quicker if so

Comment by Chipmonk on Why you should be using a retinoid · 2024-10-06T15:21:39.750Z · LW · GW

ooh thx

Comment by Chipmonk on Eye contact is effortless when you’re no longer emotionally blocked on it · 2024-10-04T22:01:36.968Z · LW · GW

please see the new version of the intro and read the full post

Comment by Chipmonk on Eye contact is effortless when you’re no longer emotionally blocked on it · 2024-10-04T22:00:52.535Z · LW · GW

Thansks!

Comment by Chipmonk on Eye contact is effortless when you’re no longer emotionally blocked on it · 2024-10-04T20:54:43.354Z · LW · GW

How about this? Edited the post:

Story time! I wanted to run a fun party: "Make 100% eye contact or get sent to jail!" But I didn’t want to force people to make eye contact… I wanted everyone to be genuinely comfortable! How?

Consider: Eye contact is effortless without emotional blocks. If you have trouble making eye contact, you’re probably held back by emotional blocks. And these blocks are probably to help you stay safe… so forcing eye contact could even be harmful!

So what if I helped attendees notice and integrate their blocks?

Comment by Chipmonk on [deleted post] 2024-09-28T23:22:49.829Z

The Courage to be Disliked (Adlerian Psychology) is like a guide for orienting about your position in the agent hierarchy:

“You” are at the level of an individual human, largely autonomous relative to other humans [separation of tasks, boundaries]

“Below” you are subagents like individual unconscious predictions/parts, themselves agentic and trying their best [teleology]

“Above” you are superagents like groups and merging into a greater whole [community feeling]

Comment by Chipmonk on Eye contact is effortless when you’re no longer emotionally blocked on it · 2024-09-28T15:41:32.908Z · LW · GW

Yeah for many people it was hard to both make eye contact and think at the same time. Some of them told me that this changed what they spoke about.

Personally I have a very hard time recalling the past or thinking very logically while making eye contact

Comment by Chipmonk on Eye contact is effortless when you’re no longer emotionally blocked on it · 2024-09-27T22:48:29.017Z · LW · GW

i see

hm that's why i put "safely" werp

Comment by Chipmonk on Eye contact is effortless when you’re no longer emotionally blocked on it · 2024-09-27T22:39:06.119Z · LW · GW

So all I needed to do was help everyone safely untangle their blocks ;)

 

bring those parts into dialogue with their blocks/resistance to eye contact, and watch what happens.

 

So, in a way, his avoiding eye contact was completely rational. (Or rather: locally optimal.) If he had crudely forced himself to make eye contact, it’s quite possible that he could’ve actually gotten hurt.

Next I asked him, “How would you like to manage those risks?”

Comment by Chipmonk on Eye contact is effortless when you’re no longer emotionally blocked on it · 2024-09-27T22:35:52.688Z · LW · GW

Why was it just assumed that "emotional blocks" are bad though

Sorry, where in the post did I imply this? I tried to emphasize how they're locally optimal

Comment by Chipmonk on Eye contact is effortless when you’re no longer emotionally blocked on it · 2024-09-27T22:28:37.848Z · LW · GW

ill add that to the post, thx

Comment by Chipmonk on Eye contact is effortless when you’re no longer emotionally blocked on it · 2024-09-27T22:27:48.377Z · LW · GW

I just thought it'd be a fun party

Comment by Chipmonk on The case for more Alignment Target Analysis (ATA) · 2024-09-20T16:19:38.171Z · LW · GW

Her main motivation was to make Thomas’ ideas more accessible to people.

thanks Chi!!

Comment by Chipmonk on Pay-on-results personal growth: first success · 2024-09-18T00:57:49.872Z · LW · GW

the results focus you're taking is likely creating other negative effects in the psyche that will have to be cleaned up later

could be, figuring this out

Comment by Chipmonk on Why you should be using a retinoid · 2024-09-05T00:43:35.525Z · LW · GW

(not the rest of your body).

How do we know?

Comment by Chipmonk on Why you should be using a retinoid · 2024-09-01T17:39:32.945Z · LW · GW

When you say vitamin A, do you literally mean vitamin A, or the similar potential-precursor compound found in plants that is often mistaken as vitamin A? See my other comment.

Comment by Chipmonk on Why you should be using a retinoid · 2024-09-01T17:37:27.805Z · LW · GW

Hi, thanks for responding. You say:

Dietary vitamin A (beta carotene) is not the active form of vitamin A (retinoic acid), it needs to be converted into the active form by the body's enzymes.

It is possible to eat the active form of vitamin A, for example through animal sources like liver. 

When I said vitamin A, I meant vitamin A (not the compound in plants that can be lossily converted into vitamin A).

So this doesn't answer the question IMO

Comment by Chipmonk on what becoming more secure did for me · 2024-08-23T04:38:09.922Z · LW · GW

thanks! There's a lot I don't post on LessWrong because I don't think it matches the vibe. Even this post has gotten some substantial downvotes

Comment by Chipmonk on what becoming more secure did for me · 2024-08-23T04:37:20.612Z · LW · GW

haha i didn't think 

what becoming secure does to a mfer

would resonate on lesswrong